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solo
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come on man, be realistic. there is no way that this girl is going to get a restraining order against you. Its not lke you just go line up for them at Wal-mart. There has to be a valid reason. Tell her daddy, let her throw a hissy fit. |
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crambo605
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who cares if she puts out a restraining order....stay away from her if she's a cracked out chick! tell her family and let them deal with it! |
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burgertime
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So what I've seen first hand what meth can do to someone, she needs help, seriously |
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geneticsnut
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Here's a solution: tell her family, and then stay far away from her voluntarily. One thing is certain - without the involvement of her family, she is much less likely to recover. |
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knuteball
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Tell her family! She has to have a reason for getting a restraing order. |
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Casey
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she'd have to have a good reason to get an order against you.
if you don't tell her family, she may die. i think that's worth getting a restraining order. |
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Chris W
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you must
for her life
never hide something that can change peoples lives no matter how bad the situation might seem
restraining orders arent given out lightly its going to have to be a big deal
and if u say shes trying to get one because u tried to improve her life and possibly save it the judge would never grant something
they may suggest staying away from her but they couldnt order you to do that
really let her dad know and try to get her help
even if she never realises it you will have made a difference to alot more people then just her
please get out and tell people as soon as you can |
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shilo9i
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Tell her family, and then get a better girlfriend. |
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Hannah
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You should definitely tell her parents. They need to know.
And I actually don't think she will get a restraining order against you anyway, she is probably just saying that. If she does get a restraining order against you, she isn't worth it anyway, and there shouldn't be a problem with you not seeing her anymore. |
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statz
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she wuld have to prove you are a threat to her. they dont just hand out restraining orders. |
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hairstylist1970
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Well, that is a tough question. Since courts now issue temporary restraining orders (that are on your permanent record), for about 10 days, you can rat her out to help her, and then explain yourself in court. You can, prior to the hearing, file a motion to remove this from your record. Your GF will need some very strong evidence. Maybe if you tell her parents about what her plans are, they will back you up. Or, break up with her, say nothing, and move on with your life. |
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Winter Glory
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if you truly love her tell her family and accept the restraining order, hopefully she gets help. |
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tickled blue
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It doesn't matter what her reasoning for getting the order....she can just not like you and get it and it would be valid until she removed it......
Regardless, an angry girlfriend is far better than a dead one. She'll get over it and thank you when she is sober. good luck!! |
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pacman_sex
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If you really love her, then take the restraining order. She doesn't have to know it was you who told her parents...
Better yet, drop them an anonymous letter. She can't blame you for it, and it's for her safety. Sorry you were put in such a harsh and horrid situation. Hope everything works out. |
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Paul
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Tell her father. If she gets a restraining order, stop talking to her until she matures. |
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Tariq K
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tell her dad
if she puts a restaraining order on you fine
unless her dad puts one on you then your ok |
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yuungavery
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Well you shold tell law enforcers but keep it low-heat
and then tell her family
and then ask the po-po if they could not have a restraining against you because you were trying to help a citizen from dying of an terrible drug. |
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lemon head
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well if you really care about her, which you obviously do, her health and well being will trump anything else. shes probably just feeling threatened by what youre trying to do, and shes probably scared and needs you now more than ever! tell her father, its the right thing to do. and if your case was brought to a court and the judge was given all the details, i really dont think he or she would grant the order anyway. |
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momma_m_47280
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she needs help pronto! tell her family! when she gets clean, she will thank you! my son's ex-girlfriend started using drugs and now is going to court because of drug use! he is still her friend, but hopefully he will find a girl deserving of him! maybe she isn't the right one for you either. but if she is , it will work out even if she gets that restraining order. but her health is in danger! she is someone daughter and as a mother, i would want to know! it will kill her! good luck! |
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Moca
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wait. wait. Your girl is a drughead and you are worrying about an RO. How about potential jail time for yourself if and when she brings her smack to your house or on a date. And the police so happen show up. Get a clue and leave her.
As for the RO. Don't worry. When all of you are together( GF, You and her dad). Just throw a bag of white stuff in the air and watch what happens.l HAHA |
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you may be out of luck on this one. you need to tell them and if you tell the law enforcement the truth, it may work out in your favor. If not, find a girl who appreciates your input and concern. you don't want to waste your life, love and compassion on a druggie who would do this to you for helping her... the truth hurts, I know. |
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Dont Ask
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So tell him. Or better yet, call the cops. She can't get a restraining order on you if she's in jail or rehab. |
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caligirl
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ok well the FIRST THING i would do is dump her like a bad dream, the WORST kind of person to be mixed up with is a meth head, take it from someone who knows, they r completly beyond reasoning and humane logic, im sorry if u care about her but the hard truth is shes pretty much gone you cant save her worry about saving yourself because once you get wrapped ip in the cycle of someone elses addiction, its like trying to find your way out of a spider web, and thats not over dramazised at all, you cant help someone who doesnt want it she has to want it for herself, and thats the hardest thing for an addict the upside is if she does get a restraining order on u for telling her family at least they will know your intentions, and the restraining order wont apply to them only to her. i know this is a huge shock but its so serious and your best bet is to leave the seen completely. good luck, im really sorry for that |
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RonAlv2
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I don't know what state you live in, but here in California, it is fairly easy to get a restraining order especially for a woman. I would contact the PD prior to doing anything, and get a recommendation from them.
As far as not knowing that she was addicted to meth, particularly crystal, I really don't understand that one. Unusual eating patterns, unusual sleep patterns, agitation, etc.
I wish you the best of luck because meth is an epidemic, and a resolution to this epidemic is not coming in the near future:-(
NOTE: FYI I am a former Meth addict, been clean now almost 8 years:-) |
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John_in_Houston
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Buddy, a restraining order keeping you far away from her might very well be in your best interests. You probably feel like you've got a lot of time and love invested in this woman. Some enforced time away from her might give you the chance to re-evaluate the idea of having a meth-addicted girlfriend and give you the chance to see that there are plenty of other women out there who aren't addicted to meth.
But, hey, it is your life... |
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mikearion
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Tell her parents. If she gets a restraining order she doesn't want you around her anyway. So why would you insist? Those orders always have a time limit anyway. |
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ruby99
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Well the best help would probally come from her family. If you can't talk her into rehab, tell. Tell anyone who will listen. You can't fix her. Good luck. Get away from her untill she is better.
It takes some kind of battery or stalking to get a restaining order usually. She is an addict filled with lies. I wish the best for her. |
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shortydevito
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As long as you are not stalking her or physically abusing her, a restraining order will not & can not be put into effect. The authorities will tell you to give her some space until she completes rehab, a restraining order, fight it in court. |
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Trix
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Why don't you just walk away from the relationship...Then privatly contact dad if you are concerned for her well being...tell him that you are letting him know cause you feel she needs help and also let him know she has threated you with a restrainer...Which they are really no big deal...you don't want to be around her anyway...Let the dad know his daughters tweaking...If you feel it will help hre...however she is an adult maybe you just need to walk away...she sounds like she's not worth the trouble anyway.... |
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legendofslipperyhollow
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Tell her dad. Before you do, write what you know about her drug use (and her threats against you) in a signed, dated letter and get it notarized. Make a copy for her father and give it to him, when you tell him about your concerns for his daughter's welfare. This should provide you with the documentation to C.Y.A. (in case you need to go to court) and still get her the help she needs. |
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Damocles
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Tell her family? What about tell the cops? She needs to get cleaned up, and so getting busted may be the wake-up call that gets her clean and sober. |
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