My son has been dealing, and smoking marajuana?

mr_nice_guy1125

Beat him. Put it all in trash bags. Take it to the lake and sink it. Beat him again. If that's the worst that happens to him he should consider himself lucky.

Shirley T

You MUST do something to intervene now before it is too late. He is young enough to change right now. I would start with "disposing" of his stash anonymously.

Den

sit him down in the kitchen and have a serious talk with him. most kids smoke to get away from problems. so ask him what is going on and if there are any problems. and confront him on everything. ground him for a little bit for just Doing that stuff. but have a serious alone talk with him.

Lillian

Destroy it all in front of him. Tell him it was either that or you were calling the police. He's get one chance, the next time he will be arrested.

Sarah f

When he is gone you need to go into his room and take all that you can find along with any pipes, matches, lighters etc.
Once he comes home I think that the two of you need to sit down and have a long discussion about his actions and the rules that are in your household. He needs to understand that the path he is heading on will lead to jail time for sure.
If that does not work with him, then I suggest confiding into a close friend, one that he looks up to and have that individual talk with your son.

berkshire1043

Rather than report him, which will only worsen his situation, it's time for you to intervene and show you care and want to help.

Sending him to the police gets him an arrest and maybe time at juvenile hall, which never ever helps make things better.

Instead, he needs you to step up and guide him. Hopefully you can be patient, but firm, and show him he is on the wrong path

Good luck

morgan t

i personally think you should start home schooling him and let the cops deal with it if they catch him never report your family to the pigs

peaches6

You're going to have to show tough love. Talk to him and try to get him to stop, even if you have to use scare tactics. I'm sure you don't want him to end of in juvenile hall and later in prison. Good Luck!

Jeffery B

well don't tell the police you will get him tooken to jail so just confront him and talk to him about it okay

pinkys060306

This is a really hard thing to deal with. I think you need to sit down and talk to him first and show your concern and let him tell his side of everything. I think that maybe if that doesn't work see about some kind of out patient work with a drug rehab. I really hope this works out for the best.

RockStar

FLUSH IT!!! I'm not sure what kind of punishing you do with him... but do it! This is a serious matter that involves grounding him and having long talks with him about what could happen to him if the police were to find him. I wouldn't call the cops this time, but if you catch him with it again you might want to think about telling someone. You can get him randomly drug tested to keep him clean. Treat this seriously, and tell him next time won't be pretty!

krystalmcavoy

id sit your son down have a heart to heart and see how he acts. if he is respectful id just get rid of the stash and let him know there better be no more in your house or coming in your house. if he is disrespectful beat his ***! i mean so he will feel the pain if he ever thought about doing it again. and if that dont work id get the police involved b/c you could get in trouble or put your other children at risk. good luck

mannymix

Marijuana is not bad for his health or anything, if you call the police he will get in alot more trouble than you think and it will ruin his life and he will have a record and have trouble getting a job. Smoking Weed is not bad for you, only if he lets it dictate his life, it might also be his social circle that he is hanging with. Confront him about his friends before you confront him about his marijuana

J K

Teach him a lesson. Get the police involved. He should learn that what he's doing isn't right and there is a consequence.

June Bug

first of all he probably isn't smoking it u should trust Ur son better that that hes probably doing it because ma by u guys don't have enough money and he wants to make his own talk to him or just go in his room and say i need this toy box if he says no ask him whats in it this will develop in a conversation make him feel like thers nothing rong he will open up more hope i helped

Nekro

Well, not telling the police only because you don't want to be blamed isn't that awesome of a mom thing to do...

Pot is harmless, but if your kid has let himself go and is hiding massive stashes, you might want to hop on that before it gets worse. Don't be a tyrant but I would confiscate all of his weed and get rid of it. Ground him. Put him on probation. Make him do drugs tests if you want.

bic

call the cops.

Layla

Yes, call the police. You won't be blamed, but you will be in trouble when someone else finds out you knew and didn't tell. If he's making grown-up mistakes, he needs to deal with the grown-up consequences. It's better for him in the long run.

becaboo

One of the first steps in communicating with your teenager about drugs (or any issue for that matter), is to try to understand where they are coming from and what they are going through. As a parent, you have been through adolescence yourself and, although your experiences won't have been exactly the same as your teenager's, there will be similarities. Try putting yourself in their shoes and explore what they may be feeling. Parents often want to know what is going on in their child's lives, but then fall into the trap of telling their child what they should be doing rather than listening to them. You will need to discard the notion that your point of view is the only correct one.

Four important communication methods to consider:

honesty: let your teenager know what you would like to talk about and why. Discuss any concerns and fears, or any other feelings you may have, openly and calmly. Let them know what it's like to be a parent. If you have not communicated honestly in the past, it may take a while to regain their trust, so give it time. If your teenager sees you as being honest, they will be more likely to respond in the same manner.
consistency: because your teenager will be aware of any hypocrisy they see, consider your own views on drugs. If you have expressed strong and inflexible views about drugs in the past, it will be difficult for your teenager to discuss the issue or their own situation with you. Examine your own use of drugs, including the legal onesâ€“alcohol and tobacco. This doesn't mean that you have to abstain from them. However, if you acknowledge your relationship to these drugs it will strengthen your credibility and offer a good starting point for discussion.
openness: be non-judgmental by not evaluating or labelling them or their behavior, but by being accepting and open to what they have to say. This doesn't mean that you have to agree with them, but it will let them know you respect their right to have their own thoughts, feelings and behaviors. You may want to use examples of your own or another person's drug use in a way that encourages your teenager to explore their own opinion about drugs and the risks of using them, along with potential solutions to the risks. If your teenager makes their own decisions about their behavior, you won't have to constantly try to enforce your own rules, that they may tend to break anyway. Negotiate ground rules together, where you as a parent and your teenager work towards agreement on matters that are acceptable to all parties. Remember that it is important for teenagers to have a sense of control over their own lives and for this to happen you will need to be flexible.
listening: true listening means that the message of what someone is saying is received and understood. This is vital in any effective communication. Conveying to the other person that you really are interested in what they have to say helps to draw them out. Be aware that your body language too, including facial expression, posture, use of arms, hands etc., conveys to them that you are open to their concerns.
Communication Barriers

Be aware of any barriers in your communication as these will probably lead to an abrupt end to the conversation. These barriers often include:

ordering - You must..., You have to..., You should..., etc;
over-sympathising - Don't worry, you'll be all right;
warning or threatening - You'd better ... or else...;
lecturing - Did you know..., The truth is..., etc;
diagnosing - Your problem is..., You're doing this because..., etc;
judging - You're wrong, You're being stupid, etc;
interrogating - What, Why, Who, How, etc;
The above methods leave little room for the other person to find their own response or solution. Instead, ask your teenager what they see as potential problems and what they regard as the best thing to do. Remember that they are young adults and will most likely realise the answers that are most appropriate for them. They may want some guidance but offer it as advice (e.g. 'you will have to make up your own mind but I would...'). Encouraging your teenager to think about the problem and address it themselves will also provide them with greater confidence in dealing with future issues.

You could also speak to a counselor about setting up a meeting with post-drug users so he can see what lies ahead of him if he continues on the road he is going down. Don't be afraid to seek outside assistance. Remember that you donâ€™t have to know everything about parenting, drugs or communication. Just having the will to discuss things openly is a positive start.

Hope this helps!

Dshocka

I'm pretty sure if you gave me all the marijuana he would learn his lesson.

meekee02

I think you need to warn him maybe and if it doesn't change then turn him in. He needs to learn the consequences of his actions. I hope he has not got involved with any gangs or anything Good luck

Mr. Blank

I think you already know that you've brought your son up in an unusual environment. You say he's always been a straight A student, so a recent drop in grades can be recovered from with the right handling of the situation. Calling the police and ratting out your own son will do nothing but distance him, and send him down the wrong path, not to mention lessen his chances of gaining scolarships and entrance to good Colleges and Universities. Just because he has a large amount, it does not mean he is dealing. He may have grown it himself, or robbed someone who grew it, and may just plan on smoking it over a long period of time. You will not be held accountable if he is caught, unless you think he is going to tell the police that you forced him to deal or something along those eyes. I've smoked for years now, and I agree that it can interfere with grades, if used at the wrong time. I'd get stoned at lunch every day and go to math confused as hell, and ended up failing, but if you're smart about it, and only get high after school and on the weekends, it will have little or no effect on grades. I think you need to talk to your son and explain your concerns to him. Tell him that having large amounts of marijunana held under your roof is out of the question, and you don't want to see it happening again, or he'll be out on his @ss. Explain your concerns about his grades, and tell him that you do not want him to repeat the same sort of mistakes you made as a youth. Just remember, talking things out is always the best way, and ratting, especially on your own family, should never be an option.

susan

i wouldnt suggest calling the police. That might not be his pot. He could be selling it for someone else. Usually the drug dealers they dont play games. If there weed gets stolen or whatever they usually shoot to kill or would like the money back for it. Where is he finding money to get this stuff from? I am not blaming u nothing. But im trying to figure how he is buying this pot. I would suggest u sit down with him and ask him what is going on. Make sure he is not doing any meth cause meth is a much harsher drug.

Barry C

seek family counseling. you start with one foot in the hole having a kid at an age he could be your brother, so if you haven't had counseling all the way, at least get started first thing tomorrow. otherwise there is gonna be a lot of heartbreak in your near future, and possibly you will be a grandma before you are 30.

Khalil J

well its your fault because you had him when you were only 13
and your developing body probably wasn't ready for developing a fetus/baby

xstaceyx20

Don't tell the police! He'll lose trust in you if you do that. The pot might be his friends or anything, just ask him about it.

dylanaaaa

Let him come to you. Take everything and make him come for it. If/when he does, talk to him about it.

Tell him that the ****'s really not god for you, him, or his friends.

People can die. Not only from smoking it, but just from handling it.

People don't have to have it in them to die from it.

If he doesn't comply whatsoever, then I would go to a rehab center first. Before the cops. You want to keep this as below the "disaster radar" as possible. Try to make as little trouble out of it as you can. Because fighting and argueing will only make it harder for both of you. It will make it harder for you to talk to him and it will make it harder for him to talk to you or comply with anything.

avalm@sbcglobal.net

Umm, know the feeling well. When my late husband found it in the boys bedroom, he did the absolute ultimate! Each and EVERY time he found it: He broke up and destroyed all the paraphenalia and flushed the pot down the toilet. And, I might add, he made no airs about it either. He simply said, Gee, last I knew smoking was illegal, and last I knew haveing over a certain amount was even more illegal to the felong possession and sale point. So, this is my house, and if you need to deal or use, you need to leave, period and if I suspect you are loaded, or holding, you'll hate me for it now, and for some years, but I will call the police. Your habit and your dealing the drug is not worth my losing my home, my vehicles and not worth the probablity that I will end up in jail as well. Period, end of story. DESTROY it, oh well..................

eksmurf02

I wouldn't tell the police. I would punish him yourself, and send him to a military school.

Enter Your Message or Comment

User Name:
User Email:
Post a comment: