Should I pay for my girlfriends DUI?

lemon head

i think you should both split the bill. because she wouldnt have been driving in the first place if you werent so drunk you were throwing up everywhere. (you should learn how to hold your liquor) but then again she should have had the common sense to know that she wasnt absolutely fine and dandy to drive and should have waited it out with you and let you puke it all up in the bar's bathroom.

you pay the majority of the financial costs, let her do the community service. if you ask me, youre both idiots.

Yahoo Answer's Finest

If she just barely failed it, get a lawyer and take it to court. She won't have to pay the fines (except maybe speeding, but take that to court with ex-coppers), and there will be no community service either. I've beaten two dwi's in the past, one where they forgot to have me blow (complete idiot cops) and another where I blew .1 (so .02 over the limit). The only one I've lost was when I blew .29, and my lawyer said he could beat it if i sprung for a toxicologist (about $2,000), which I wish I had the money to do at the time, since I ended up with well over that in fines.

Boob

She should pay it. You are pathetic. Why your girlfriend would carry your drunk *** out of the bar anyways is beyond me.

Cobalt Daisy

I would hardly call anyone "responsible."

Your gf is accountable since she is the one who foolishly drove after drinking. If you didn't hold a gun to her head then she chose to drive and therefore it's her problem.

How about no one attempts to drink and drive? It doesn't matter if she "barely failed the breathalyzer." It is unethical that people put other people's lives in danger just because they feel okay to drive or because they don't have a designated driver. No excuses. It's unacceptable and selfish. I've been to many funerals in my short life and the MAJORITY of them were the result of another driver who'd been drinking...

Please, the next time you go out drinking, please make sure you have a designated driver who is 100% sober!

wizjp

I'd at least split it with her

Marshall

Well good for you for not driving but shame on her for driving. It's her own stupidity for speeding. If she wasnt speeding, she would of never been pulled over. If she was over the legal limit then she shouldnt even of been driving because she could of hurt some innocent person. You were atleast smart and decided not to drive. I wouldnt pay for anything. Are you always going to pay for peoples mistakes when it wasnt your fault?

Ron Akia

Legally, she is the one who is responsible for the charges against her as she was the driver of the vehicle and was intoxicated. Being just barely over the limit doesn't make any legal difference. Over is over.

Morally, if it were me I think I'd have a guilt issue over it and at least help her out to the best of my financial ability. She's going to go thru enough over this as it is.

In addition to fines, community service, multiple court dates, etc. she's going to be looking at higher insurance costs, probably loss of license, and more.

It's a judgement that you'll have to make.

fwrsxs200jsxc

She is responsible, she drank, then she drove. You didnt exactly help the situation, but its her fault. She chose to drive, she chose to speed. Since you puked all in her car, you might want to be a gentleman and pick up the tab for the ticket and maybe clean the inside of her car.

confused_<33

Yea u should b/c u have some responsibility in this if she had to drive you home. If u dont want to pay all of it at least pay half or more than that.

White D

No one is perfect except the town hall.

Joshua

what i think is u surely should pay her due, cause afterall she really cared for you and that's why- "she carried u to her car when u were very drunk, and u spoiling her vechicle by vomiting and stuff had really forced herself to get home as early as possible...

Well think over it...it really makes sense.
she CARES 4 YOU pal

krazyladee

She's responsible for the DUI. She shouldn't have driven if she drank. BUT. I think you should help her out, since she was trying to help you and you care about her. I think you should get a breathalizer to keep in your car to make sure it doesn't happen again. Poor thing. Those DUIs are rough. I know two people with them. Their life was hell after it. Good luck you guys.

â™« Joey

i think that you should at least contribute to paying for it. though she should not have been driving anyway, so dont pay for all of it.
but it would be nice if you payed for half, since she was speeding for you.
x'z

David W

Yes, I would, or where would you be today?? gutter? trash bin? jail.. hospital? morgue?

TeKe

No.....she was driving........

Adrianna_LS

how many times are you going to ask these questions? it doesn't matter WHO was driving or WHO was the drunkard.

whoever is DRIVING gets the tickets. they shouldn't have been driving, the passenger didn't put a gun to the drivers head weather it be you or her. YOU didn't have to pay her tickets and she wouldn't have to pay yours. It doesn't matter what people think if it was you or her driving, people are going to give different answers no matter what.

There's no law saying you cant get drunk, the DRIVER is the irresponsible one

Razor Sharp

First off, let me say how incredibly pathetic this is. You and the bartender should've been more responsible.

Next, I would suggest that your girlfriend's DUI is HER FAULT. If she was impaired, she shouldn't have gotten behind the wheel at all. A taxi would've been a much smarter move. She also acted irresponsibly.

That being said, it's up to you if you want to be a nice guy and help her with it or not. Simply put, her DUI is not your fault. She made the choice to drive under the influence. If you feel responsible, then by all means, help her pay off the debts incurred, though there is nothing you can do to remedy the damage done to her driving record.

IMakeMen Jizzzz

because you're her boyfriend and she was helping you out you should at least return the favor by helping her pay (not paying the whole thing) because she was irresponsible too. nobody told her to drink too.

Anon

If I was in this situation I would pay, she was only speeding to get you home to help you and it was unfortunate she was caught. OK she was in the wrong by speeding and being over the limit but would she have been if you were in the car?? Also offer her you support as if I were in her situation then I would be petrified. Hope everything goes ok for her.

Diamond.....1 M/C ~*~*

She didnt HAVE to drive she choose to and she was dumb enough to speed after drinking regardless of you barfing in the car. I mean its her fault hands down. You are not obligated to pay for this. Think of it this way...even if she didnt drive u home how was she going to get home?? She was going to drive most likely otherwise if she had a back up plan for a ride u both would of taken it. She woulda got pulled over no matter what. Its her fault

Jess

ugh. unfortunately she is responsible. she should have called a cab or something. i understand you feel bad. that is a tough situation. i would probably give her money or something. was she upset with you? i mean she chose to drink.... ugh. tuff situation

David M

Dude, not only you need to at least share the fine (offer to pay in full if you want any long relationship with her), you should also clean her car :)

smooth drink

She is responsible. She chose to drink and drive. Whether or not you were completely wasted doesn't matter. You all could have taken a taxi, or a bus home. Drinking and driving isn't a game, and it isn't something that should be taken lightly. That is why there is a $1000 fine.

You might want to pay to clean her car though.

Megan

You got wasted, and puked all over her car. She shouldn't have been driving if she couldn't pass the test, and she shouldn't have been speeding that fast, she should have pulled over and let you puke outside. You're both responsible. Offer to pay for half.

deeppost

No matter what she is ultimately responsible, she choose to get behind the wheel, she didn't have to. Morally you should help, if she was truly doing it to help you.

cz73

Well, she should have called a cab or just pulled over to let you puke instead of speeding. So, it is her fault. Too late to change that though.

It depends on your relationship. How long have you been dating? Do you share other finances? Are you going to get married? What would you expect if the tables were turned?

I wouldn't say that you are responsible to help her pay it, but it would be a nice thing to do. Plus it will keep her happier about it and in turn keep your relationship happy.

ebent1

You should absolutely pay the fine! Here's the thing. You owed her a duty you failed to keep- to be a good and responsible person. You failed to consider her risks in letting her drive home. You could have taken a cab but you didn't and asked her to put herself and yourself in danger. You were disgustingly drunk and if she lets you call her "girlfriend," you owed her respect for giving you that privilege. Pay the fine and promise her to amend your ways in all of the areas mentioned above and hope she doesn't ditch you for a pet squirrel.

la man

Well, I think you should definately pay to get her car cleaned. It sounds like she should have had the good judgement to call a cab for both of you. She would have driven with or without you there, so no, I don't think you should pay. She was driving drunk, whether she got caught or not. Sure, it's your fault that she got pulled over, but she could have gotten stopped, anyways.

fitzpimlings

I think she has done quite a bit to make sure you were o.k. and now you should step up to the plate with financial help.

elaeblue

Well she is responsible for herself. Had she not drank as much she would not be in this position. However since she was taking you home - and would not have had to drive if you hadn't of gotten so drunk it would be nice if you at least helped her pay some of it.

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