Should i call the police?

Superdude

I'd report them.

James M

It is against the law, but do you think it will help the overall situation to call the police? It won't. This is a family dispute and the police have greater things to worry about. Try to find a family friend or relative who can act as a go between between you and your family.

John Dee

It is against the law, although I'm not sure confrontation is the best answer.

Contact the post office to get your post forwarded (it does cost if I recall correctly).

Then consider either talking it the police (although without proof, will that help) or seeking conciliation with a mutual friend, or a professional service (costs again).

catblackindia

Change your address with the people who matter and leave him to open the junk mail.

lulu

The police won't want to know

Post a letter to yourself to your parents address explaining how you feel, and how wrong it is to open your mail. I wouldn't threaten them with the police tho, that won't help anyone.

This might just shock them into not doing it

good luck

Germs

whoa steady try and sort it out with them first before calling the police if they give u no option then call the police

reaperohio

Contact the Postal Inspector first. He may refer you to the police.

Weed

It is against the law for someone to open your post, but going to the police will not help the situation,what happens { ihope this does not } if you fall out with your B/f you may needyour family, go to the post office & re-route your post,

Anchor Cranker

It is against the law - It's called tampering with her Majesties Royal Mail. There's quite a hefty fine and even a jail sentence in extreme cases.

However, I would suggest the better way of approaching this situation is not by antagonising it any further. Just phone everyone who writes to you that your address has changed and give them the new address......Simple really.

There are 14 years between myself and my wife, so I know how dificult things can be. Just give your folks time to adjust to the idea. Give them some space and they'll come round if they see you are both happy and are treating each other well. No matter what you are thinking now they do love you.

Best of luck.

Psycho Dave

Go to the post office and have your mail directed it is against the law to open other peoples mail simply have it redirected by the post office there will be a small charge Dave

john h

You want to be an adult fine then think like one tell all your friends your new address and all other places in which you deal with example banks and other businesses then you will get your mail .Do not inflame the situation by calling the police if the letters are already shredded you can't read them anyway.

vdv_desantnik

you are right, it is against the law, its called interference with the royal mail. First thing to do is set up a postal redirect at the post office, then go to the police and report it

nice_n_easy

call the police? why the police? this is your family in the first place, maybe for me, though you people haven't talk for a while, maybe its time for you and your folks to sit down, have a few coffee and just let your heart out. The police will just mess up everything what is already ruin. This just a family affair.

Everything would work out fine, if you only believe in loving your family. As always blood is thicker than water.

diamondgirl

It is illegal to do that but then again it's your responsibility to get all your mail re-directed to the address you reside in, if you speak to the police you will probably get told that. Contact everycompany u get important mail from ASAP and get them to deliver it to your new address.

halestrm

It is against the law. Before contacting the authorities, let me ask you a few q's. Did you put in a forwarding notice with the post office? Here is a link to the Post Office to help you out.

https://moversguide.usps.com/?referral=USPS

Next, I can appreciate the concern over the age gap. You cannot legally drink yet, but you are with a much older man. That is fine with me, I have never seen it work for long but if it is working for you, more power to you.

How did you find out they are shredding it? Are you sure the source is reliable?

Realizle that if you do decide to pursue this, it is a Federal offense. These are the types of charges they use for mobsters and criminals they cannot get any other way. Do you really want to put your family thru that?

If you do decide that you cannot work it out (but please, try hard), you would not contact the police. You would contact the Post Master General. You can do it online with the link below or contact your post office.

https://www.usps.com/postalinspectors/mailthft/default.htm

I can only hope that you and your family can work this out. Please try to be patient and see the situation from their standpoint.

Best of luck.

Robin

Yes, opening the Private Mail of a person over the age of 18 is against the law, however, it is a CIVIL matter and not a job for the police, unless it can be proven that theft of the contents of the mail has taken place.
You need to consult a solicitor. What I would do, would be to go round your parents house, fully armed with cakes, biscuits etc and sit down and have a cup of tea with them and talk about what's been going on.
Listen to their views and then let them listen to yours. They only want what's best for you, even if it isn't what YOU want.
Talk to them, it's the only way.

PeahiWahine

The police have better things to do than worry about you not forwarding your mail after a family dispute. No offense.

1. Pick your battles in life. There will be many. Most should be let go.

2. Blood is thicker than water. Your family will be around the rest of your life, this guy wont.

3. The age difference is nothing. It does matter when one person is barely out of being a teen and the other person is in their early 30's. You should ask people here about that.

jimobasa

It is certainly against the law to tamper with another person's mail and you should report it immediately.

Little Bear

yes it is against the law for them to open your post, if they do not wish to forward on your mail, they should simply write 'return to sender' on the envelope and post in the nearest post box.

if you have proof that they are destroying your mail, then you should definately go to the police, as all in all, it is an offence.

but the bottom line it, GET ALL YOUR MAIL REDIRECTED TO YOUR NEW ADDRESS!!

hope this helps. xx

British*Bird

It is against the law and i would be furious too. I think you should consider though that, although at the moment you wont care, in future you may want to reconcile with your family and getting the police on them will likely cause a huge rift, Getting the police involved wont get your mail back.
I imagine they were angry and i dont agree with what they have done but something about phoning the police on your relatives doesnt sit right with me. Of course if it was assault etc thats different but do you think it will really solve anything? If they are genuinely regretful then maybe there are other ways to sort this out? Please try and think past your anger before you do anything x

King_Nelson_Brilliant

Change your address with whoever's sending you stuff - as soon as possible! If you don't know how to do it, ask the old man you're with, he can do it while he's not leering at you and congratulating himself.

effenel

A very similar thing happened to me. Well, the opening of mail anyway.

Send a letter, addressed to your self, to your parents address.

Write them a letter inside stating that you know they are opening your mail.... This should make them think!

Also, if you are considering the police, send the letter RECORDED DELIVERY, that way you will have a signature of the person receiving the letter.

By the way, the letter I wrote is not printable on here, but I am sure you get the idea, lmao...

cornflake#1

Have you considered going to the post-office and getting just your mail redirected. This is probably the simplest solution - it may cost a little, but will be cheaper than the added stress you would place on your relationship between you & your man and you & your parents.

Sometimes parents have a tough job letting go, they might feel that they must still protect you (even from yourself). I realise this situation is difficult for all concerned - your man for making you choose; your parents for losing their beautiful daughter to someone outside what they consider to be a respectable age range and you for being stuck in the middle.

Calling the police is going to open a large can of worms, which will be difficult to close when and if the situation blows over.

Make everyone who could conceivably send you mail aware of your new address - banks, building societies, library, tax folk [I think they're nice people - no, really!]. Don't forget your friends!

Your parents want you to return to the family home, I agree that reading then shredding your mail is immoral and unethical. I'm sure they know this themselves, but consider how hurt they must feel at the moment wit the double trauma of you spreading your wings and them losing a daughter.

You may yet make up, but it comes down to you proving to your parents they were wrong to doubt your decision.. You're 20 and capable of making choices, and taking responsibility for the risks that brings.

Hope things sort themselves out

groovymaude

Get your mail redirected, unless you intend going back. Who told you it's been shredded? Go and ask for it, if they don't have it - then you can take it further, just being told by a third party is no proof that they've done anything.

tazz

stop ur mail at the post office takes 3 days forward to new address or post office if you in love they will come round but love is also blind there must be a reason why they dont like him there your family unless you really weird or something you should be more conserned about ur family etc than wasting peloice time build a bridge between meet half way otherwise have a time out they will come round

Stacey C

It is illegal but once you call the law in that will probably mean you will never really be able to have a relationship with them again. As angry as you all are with each other family is something that its very hard to turn your back on forever.

I would suggest going to the post office and getting your mail redirected. You can pay for this to be done for 3 months and then inform all the people that you receive mail from of your new address.

good freind 0081

yes, you can call the police,but it will just worsen the situation.Then they might even think of ways of getting back at you.I think that such situations can only be solved by a talk.Make sure that they hear your point and make them realize you are 20.I hope they are understand...best of luck...

jezza

it's against the law to open another persons mail.

even if it's your parents. As you are 20 yrs they have no rights over you. Your parents are being terrible, you should report them, but make sure you have proof.

Your parents are trying to manipulate you and you shouldnt back down to them.

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Ignorant Guru

Thank God, you are not my daughter! It is better not to have a child than to have a disobiedient one. Listen, you can have many boyfriends in your life (maybe still older than your present bf) but never your parents again. May God grant you some sense!

By the time you realize that what your parents said was right, you have children who think you are wrong.

techno mentalist

call the cops

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