Should i try to get what some people are telling me?

Terry H

In most states, a spouse that stays home with the kids is still entitled to half of everything, Marriage is a partnership, so it doesn't matter who worked and made how much, in my state at least (AZ), you are each entitled to half. Assuming you put your all into the marriage and were a good husband, then yes, I think you should try to obtain your half. Asking for more than half would be greedy.

Heck no. You were with her as long as she was with you. Half of what you two own is yours.

im_just_jaq

No. go for it

madskier1

Get what you can pal! Otherwise the only thing her lawyer will let you have is the bills!

BILL S

NOT AT ALL WRONG. IF SHE WANTS THE HOUSE SHE WILL HAVE TO BUY YOUR HALF OF IT. START WITH VALUE OF HOME, COUNT ALL THE DEBT YOU HAVE AND SPLIT IT. SUBTRACT THE DEBT FROM YOUR HALF OF THE HOUSE AND SHE OWES YOU THE DIFFERENCE. IT WORKED FOR ME LAST YEAR.

raichasays

In the US--

Listen to your attorney and ask for what is fair and allowable under your state's law.

Don't listen to anyone who says that you are less entitled because you are a man who has sometimes stayed home as caregiver while remodeling your home. Equality works both ways.

Aintitthetruth

She was the one that started the custody battle. I never get parents and why when they seperate they would want to deny the other from seeing their children. Why they would bring there children into it and not try to work out things on there own. I would say do whatever the attorney wants. If you hold back and she goes all out, you will loose whatever you should get.

JazzyG

50-50 is fair!

Irish

Give your attorney freedom Divorces can be ugly.

elaeblue

All divorcing parents have a 'custody' thing going on. It is inevitable. All divorcing people need a lawyer so she did you a favor there. Really you need one. There should be a fair and equitable division of the property and etc's of the marriage and custody and visitation rights to be considered.

Please - consider the needs of the children first!

Many parents say they will do what is best for the kids but the reality is that they do what is convenient for them not what is best for the kids. Everyone loses in a divorce. Try to limit the amount of loss your children get out of your divorce.

I suggest joint custody of the children. The one big difference is that with joint custody no one pays child support. You can set up how to do that with your lawyer. It can be one week at Dads one week at Moms or it can be however you and she can work out.

John K

HELL NO this is not wrong!!!

You go get what is yours....what is wrong with you?.... Your about to be single and alone, you better take all you can get

Camilla the First

You both put in equal EFFORT to your marriage so therefore legally, you are both entitled to a half=share of your life. So sad, especially for the children, for gods sake don't start fighting over custody, surely you could come to some agreement without involving lawyers who only see Â£ signs waving in the air. The actual money each individual is not what is assessed. Look at whatsername McCartney who so likes to be called Lady what a laugh, she can't touch Pauls money which he earned before he met her, but she was crafty enough to pull a baby out just in time to set her up for life. I digress, sorry, your attorney will act in your favour and consider the children's needs before you and your wife.

jo-jo

Was this arrangement her idea or would she have preferred to be the one staying home with the younger kids? Did she up and tell you she was going to school because it was fun or to make more money than you to rub it in your face or has she been trying to improve the situation your job caused? I'm sure you know whether filing for alimony would be right or wrong. An attorney will tell you the very black and white laws and facts. And keep in mind the further you take things the more $$$ your lawyer makes. Keep you karma clean do what you know is the right thing to do. Also keep in mind the farther apart you and your ex get the worse it is on the kids. Don't forget its your turn to live get up and do what you want. Good luck!

I think you have to live by the addage 'do unto others as you would have done unto you'. I have seen divorces where it got so nasty that it was painful to watch. It can be easy to be drawn into the 'get everything you can' mentality or the 'strike back' mentality. Remember, if the proceedings go on longer, your attorney gets to bill you more. Try to keep in mind what you want and what you feel you are owed and keep in mind how you would like to be treated if you were in your soon-to-be-ex-wife's shoes.

cynthiajean222

Not knowing all the facts, it's hard to say. Just make sure that your kids have enough money to be taken care of. Don't allow them to be the victims in all this.

sensible_man

I don't think you will get anymore than a 50/50 split just like any other divorce case. Does not matter what went on before the divorce. Considered Community Property unless there was a pre-nup agreement. Custody will also be decided at the court hearing.

Grandma of 2

Absolutely ........go to court and get what you are entitled to. Just because you are the husband doesn't mean you aren't entitled to certain things from this end-of-marriage. Just keep it away from the children. They are the innocent and don't need to hear or be involved in any way.

djducki

I think you should go for what YOU feel you are entitled to. Me personally, would definately try to get my fair share, if not a bit more lol.

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