So, I'm having an affair with a married woman. Advice? lol...?

ggraves1724

Hate to sound so - - "Pure" in thought, because I'm not! But, been there, done that. If she ends it with her husband, that would be the best for all involved. Until she does, you should maintain an arms distance. If you don't, the one thing for sure is; your going to get hurt and give hurt!

Glen B

With the girl comes the kids. Are you ready to take on that responsibilty or are you just lookin for a piece of ... ...anyways, the grass is not always greener on the other side...you may just be wanting her because she's "unavailable"... How would you feel it she wasnt married, would the feelings still be there?

Xander Crews

End this immediately. If she cheats FOR you, what makes you think she won't cheat ON you later? Serious relationships should not be based on "feels right" emotions, but commitments. Evidently she is incapable of keeping true to a commitment.

momontheedge

Leave her alone. You have no right to mess with another man's woman nor does she have any being married. Especially with kids. Does no one take marriage vows serious anymore?!!? It may have been passionate for 2 weeks but when reality sets in (should you decide to move forward with the relationship), neither of you will trust each other and you'll realize that it was better off leaving the past just that...the past.

makrothumeo2

Stop what you are doing and move away if necessary in order to stop...kids aren't just "in the picture", you're screwing around with their lives in an irresponsible way.

This is how people get hurt and I mean physically hurt. Should the husband find out he might come looking for you. Better find out if he owns any guns!!

Racist Answer Man

This is a completely honest and serious answer.

Buy body armor.

A buddy of mine in an eerily similar situation took a shotgun blast in the chest. Fortunately he had is vest still on and was far enough away that he didn't get killed.

Bruce J

You better be sure about what you are doing. Having an affair is exciting because it's 'taboo'. However, things might change if she is living with you and you are caring for her kids. The excitement runs out of the relationship pretty fast. Sometimes, the best thing to do is just to let your affair run its course.

bic

leave her alone. she's married. she did it to him and she'll do ut to you. she probably has other guys out there too.

felixthecat

You have already crossed lines you absolutely should not have. While I do have some empathy for the fact that the two of you share a history, it appears you did break up and there had to be a reason for that. Many times when couples 're-connect', there is a honeymoon period when they remember all the good times and the closeness they once had and it is so awesome. In this scenario though, it's not just a re-match -- she's cheating on her husband and presumably the father of her children. That's bad, really bad. If you have reconnected with an old love that is not free, it is incumbent upon you both to decide if you are going to work toward becoming a couple again -- BUT, until and unless the partner who is already attached gets a divorce, you must not see each other or communicate anymore. PERIOD! If you two were truly meant to be together, she will go home to her husband and ask for a divorce and get her life cleaned up before engaging in this cheat-job with you. You know what you did was wrong -- it was wrong for you to communicate with her on myspace once you realized the two of you still had a 'thing' and you both totally stepped out of line when you made it possible for you to get together and took it to the next level. If she is unhappy with her husband, SHE needs to fix that situation before she comes to you! The only time it will feel "SO DAMN RIGHT" is under cover of darkness, hiding like the cheats you are being. I'm sorry if that's harsh, but you know it's wrong. You should never live in a bad marriage---but you should always get out of the marriage BEFORE you start something else. It's wrong to wait to leave a bad marriage until you have another sure thing waiting in the wings. Don't be her dirty little secret!

bob1442

another fool hits the dust

What about her family and kids? Do you feel right for them too?

jane j

end it
do the right thing
if she really wants to be with you, she will end her commitment first and then come to you and do it the right way
end it now
if she's a cheater now, will you ever be able to trust her?
end it

globar

It is true everything while on vacation is intensified...
Then back to you no what....
You will have memories which also will change.
On a daily basis you have no idea what she is like.
Lust is a *****...

Wikkedred

Well id walk away however you should let it as her decision, while not feeling guilty yourself as her choice is just that.

litlladybug

if you love her just try to forget about her cause what if you were the husband you love her but when yo love someone you have to think aboutthem fist than you

Babe

Do you think she would have divorced her husband if you hadn't come along? If the answer is no then cut the ties. You are the one who will get all the pain. She has much to much to lose and you will will get nothing but a woman who will have really pissed off kids, and will do nothing but make your life miserable. If she gets the husband to take the kids, then you will have a miserable woman who misses her kids AND will be paying masses amount of child support and you will still end up with pissed off kids. You do what you want to do, but know that there is an extreme amount of pain in your future if you proceed. Do this the right way.

gomanyes562

END ALL CONTACT IMMEDIATELY.

It may feel good temporarily, but it will cause problems for you in the long run that will just not be worth it. It will be very difficult for you to end contact, but it will be even more difficult later on if you don't.

sparkymarine

OooooooooooooooooooH, toughie! Depends whether you're a gent or a rascal, sir. A gent would let her get on with her life bringing up her children, with minimum disruption. A Rascal would tell her how he felt and hope that she flew back into his arms (kids in tow of course).
Me? I'd do the au pair!

mesndblues

Did you attend the "bill clinton school of ethics" by any chance? you're both dogs..i feel real bad for her husband and kids.

Lavrenti Beria

For the sake of her kids, I'd club you to death myself, but then if she's ready to leave them they probably deserve better.

christina c

drop the relationship NOW. there is only diseaster in the future for both of you. you stated that you feel guilty at timies listen to your gut reaction and not to your heart. you will regret this in the long term. i know i have been there.

malter

Why don't you ask for advice from the person that could give you the best answer, her husband. What no cajones? Real men don't screw other man's wife. Better yet....you might just win the prize....an woman who would screw another man at the drop of a phone call.....

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