What are my rights as a 17 year old towards my parents do they have rights to look through my personal stuff?

Wyoming Rider

Unfortunately (and sometimes fortunately), as long as you are a minor, your parents basically own anything you have. This actually includes wages from a job. As far as the purse, you have no case.

As for the trust issue --- you will have to work hard to get it back.

And parents ALWAYS assume the worst --- I do --- ask my sons.

wishbone..

The adults have the right and responsibility to know what is under their roof.

Dr. Jacobs

"which i was holding for a friend"
lol....riiiiight.....

romanov1918

That excuse "holding for a friend" might work for idiots, but not me. You got caught!!!! You parents have every right since you are a minor and live under their roof. She "randomly" looked through your stuff? Yeah right, she knows whats up, she isnt dumb either!!! Get your act together before you end up pregnant.

mikey

why are you holding sh*t like that for your friend?!? thats ALL your fault and YES, she has the right to search through your stuff if you're being a rookie like that.

truekdc

Unfortunately, no judge is going to help you in the case of your mother going through your purse at 17

that one kid

shes just looking out for you and you did lie to her twice so you prolly dont have her trust anymore

You are obviously in the wrong, you were holding it for a friend? what a lame excuse... she'll never believe that. And even if you were holding it for a friend, then you wouldn't be so pissed that she actually found it. Your parents can and have the right to investiage any part of your life untill you are 18.

moon_flower_unicorn_power

you don't have "stuff" until you're 18 and paying your own way in the world...if you don't like your Mom I suggest you move out on your 18th birthday and see how you like it

2Cute2B4Got

Your room? So you pay the mortgage? No your mother allows you to sleep in her extra bedroom as long as you can follow her rules. I am going to need you to comprehend that fact. If you want privacy, then get a loan, as in a mortgage, as in your own home.

You mentioned that you are sleeping by guys homes and that you had a pipe in your pocket. Um Yep, you are making some really bad decisions. "I was holding it for a friend", yep that excuse is just so overdone.

Then you mention trust. Trust is earned, it is not a birth right. If you wnat to be trusted, you have to first be trust worthy.

Mom loves you and she is trying to get you on the right path. You need to wise up. You are blessed to have such a great mom.

jwk227

lol, your under 18 you have no rights

phockit47

As long as You live in Your Parents home They have the right to look anywhere They want,The house belongs to them. You are a dependant of Them.If You have nothing to hide,then there should be no problem with Her checking out Her house.

Army Dirt mover

Do you have a lease or rental agreement with the landlord that puts in writing what your "rights" are? If not, your parents could have you evicted or charged with trespassing. They have rights also.

ktrb

Your parents have a right to look at anything that is under their roof. The house and everything in it is their property. And frankly, if you're foolish enough to hold drug paraphernalia for someone, you're foolish enough to use drugs yourself.

Yinzer from Sixburgh

Your parents have every right to look through your stuff. They are your parents and you are a minor. The biggest problem I see with your behavior isn't the pipe or the Visine...it is your total lack of respect for your mother and the fact that you don't care what she thinks of you. That is troublesome.

Oh, and by the way.... I don't believe you were "holding them for a friend" either. Besides possession of drug paraphernalia/contraband is illegal in most states so the pipe could get you in trouble whether it is yours or not.

When you grow up, pay your own bills, and live on your own, you have "rights" but until then your mom and dad are in charge.

obscene gene

Basically you have no rights. You're a minor in your parents custody. Get emancipated if you want your freedom.

Bob

All parents do it. Mine did it too. Be thankful your parents didn't murder you for sleeping at a guy's house the way parents in some countries do. Recently, in Ontario, Canada it happened. Enjoy the roof over your head as much as you can until you are of legal age and then move out and live like an adult if you want. (...and then crawl back home once you enter the "real world" and realize it's way more stressful paying bills and a mortgage)

go_milk_a_duck

Consider yourself lucky you aren't my kid.....life as you know it would be over. Obviously, your mother is doing her job. Until you are 18, you don't own anything. You live in her home, you eat her food, you use her electricity for the computer you wrote this on, which is probably hers too.

She assumes???? well YEAH!! You've already shown you can't be trusted, and if you treat her like she doesn't have the brains God gave a goose for not believing your stupid lie, she would be well within her rights to see to it that you don't have access to the car, computer, TV, games.....

You don't care if she doesn't trust you and you aren't going to change. We'll look for you to be in the system soon, and you WILL change, trust me. And just what teenage behavior does she suspect you of that you aren't doing??? Proof or not, you'll have to earn the trust back.

Spend some time studying.

Î¦

You're a teenager living in your parents' house. There is not much you can do unless they physically abuse you. Besides, nobody "holds" a pipe and Visene. Just admit it and everything will be O.K.

fifty

Never ever hold anything like that for anybody. You could be suspended from school and face legal charges. Lawyers for these kinds of cases cost about $5,000. If your friend did give it to you, that was a really rude thing to do. It put you at risk.

The first excuse kids give when caught is that they were holding it for a friend. That is why parents don't buy into it when they hear it even if it were true.

The kid across the street from me went to court four times because once he was caught by the police, they were always on his tail. The same thing has happened between you and your mother. You broke her trust and now she isn't going to let you have any privacy.

Since you truly don't care, she will continue with her snoopy behavior. You could have told her that you were sorry for your behavior and that you would never do it again, but only if you sincerely meant it.

Parents have custody of their children and they have every right to look through their stuff. When you are 18 and you move out, she will no longer have the right to search your belongings. You can go to court and become emancipated and move out before age 18, but I don't think the court would approve it given what you have written here.

Nini

lol... wow... my mom did the same thing. you'll love her for it later in life. it's when you're parents don't say anything to you that you should be worried. when they care enough to go through your stuff that's love. i use to hate when my mom did that. my dad never did looked through my stuff but my mom felt it was her duty as a mother. you only have one mother. you admitted that you lied to her twice so you've given her reason not to trust you. a mother's intuition is stronger than you'll ever know. she may not have proof but she's in tune with her inner voice that's telling her to check up on you. hang in there. you'll be eighteen and hopefully off to college. you'll have your freedom and when you're away from her you'll realize you miss her. love her now and later you can enjoy your freedom away. like i said, you only have one mother. i realize now as a mother my mom had been telling me all those years as a teenager... "wait til you have your own kids and you'll better understand". now i do. lol... it'll be ok.

TAG

it was your friends stuff hey ok whatever but you havnt really given her cause for trust when you have lied in the past you hav to earn trust and its hard sometimes almost impossible to get back. At 17 you do deserve a certaian amount of privacy especialy with personal items but if you dont have anything to hide it shouldnt be such an issue

Citizen1984

Legally your parents can search your stuff and there's nothing you can do. Next year you will be eighteen and you can move out and have the rights of an adult.

Hide things where she won't find them if you want to protect your privacy.

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sounds like a bee yotch (can i get in trouble for that on here lol o well) but as for the question i have no idea sorry

Leah

i dont really think you have any rights as far as that goes.

you need to make it clear that you can be trusted, which, honestly, would you trust yourself given the evidence?

talk to your mom about whats going on. if you go to parties where there's drugs and alcohol, say it, but also make it clear that you are a responsible, almost adult, and she need to trust your judgement.

i found that after being honest with my mom that i was out with people who were doing those kinds of things, but at the same times assuring her that i was not being an idiot, she was more willing to trust my judgement. but if you are being an idiot, just make sure you get your priorities straight.

it sounds like you need to earn some trust though. i got caught, drunk, hot boxing my bathroom when i was 13, with a few friends. i was 15 before i was allowed to hang out with those same people again (6 months before i could leave the house or use the internet).

but you also need to make it extraordinarily clear that unless she stays out of your stuff- there will be dire consequences. make it clear that her breaking YOUR trust, makes you have no problem with breaking HERS. make it clear that fishing through your stuff will only make it worse- it will only make you want to disobey absolutely everything she says. which is true right? that's how it made me feel when my mom went through my stuff anyways. even though as a parent, she needs to be watching over you, especially given that you've already broken her trust, she doesn't need to be going through your things.

try not to make it sound as extreme as the above, be calm and clear. because if you don't, she could possibly decide that it's a power struggle and you're going to be the one going down. she could even take your door off at the hinges, for example....

i think ive just babbled a lot. but good luck!
:)

jewmihendrix

i think it is immoral, but legal because they are your guardians and they handle all your other business

fridig

personally im a 15 year old girl who is stuck in a similar situation your 17 from what i read about law enforcment stuff your technically almost legal they dont really have the right to do those stuff to you, just talk to her about it or something because that isnt right, just explain it.

good luck though.

Mini bubbles

Princess of musica u clearly have no respect for your parents your mother is just looking out for you she went through all that pain to give birth to you and spent a shit load of money on you trying to give you a good start I life and this is how you repay her and the same goes to the person that started this you have no idea how much she loves you and she only wants what is best for you so wake up to yourself stop bad mouthing her on the Internet accept your mistakes and make it up to her then she may start to respect you again but if you don't care then you really are a dumb shit good luck and I hope you wake up to yourself soon if you want your mum to respect you then you have to respect her first

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