What to do when ex is turning off the phone so I can't contact my children?

My ex is really being unbearable. He has always pushed the limits where our children are concerned it seems like he hates me because our children love me too. I recently this year finally got remarried to the second guy I ever dated and we have been together for five years and when it was right we got married we also have a three year old together but I didn't think getting pregnant was enough for us to get married at the time. I hate divorce and I wanted to make sure and I'm very lucky to have found someone that loves me for me. My ex got married a year after we were divorced and it lasted less than a year. I felt sorry for him because we kind of grew up together and I do wish the best for him. Really I do. We were getting along fine I mean it was a dream come true. Two adults putting their children first. Now when the kids are with him they aren't allowed to call me or talk to me. My daughter's B-Day is tomorrow and he won't let me talk to her. We are now going back to court.

daisymae

Sounds like he still has alot of growing up to do and it also sounds like he hasn't dealt with the left over feelings from the divorce. Unfortunately, he's trying to punish you but he's using the kids to do it and that is sooooo wrong, because he's hurting them too.

I've been in your shoes twice, and my advice to you is to keep your cool and not say a word about it to him. It's a game to him and if you try to talk some sense into him you'll be acknowledging that it bothers you, and that's the whole point of the game. DON'T give him that satisfaction, Be nice to him and speak well of him to the children and don't play his game on your end, that would also acknowledge he's hit a nerve. My four children are grown now, and one thing I've learned is that they see EVERYTHING. And as they grow up they have a real clear picture of what's going on between you two, and who's the instigator and who's the peacekeeper. It's very hard right now, i know. Be strong for your kids. You can have a special day set aside for your daughters birthday when she gets back. It really doesn't matter what day its on, she'll know you cared enough to do something special and she'll have two parties!

FairyPrincess

You're going to court. Be patient. Your ex, regardless of the fact that you grew up together sounds like a manipulative idiot. It's unfortunate that you and your children were put in the position you're in because of him. I hope everything works out for you.

Christopher B

If you two can't settle it like adults, then settle it in court. I can tell you its not doing your children any good to see their parents haggling like a couple of school children. I don't care what you say, it takes two to tango.

smack

he sounds like an immature buttwad ... he should get together with my ex ....

FRAGINAL-NOYPI

File a case against your ex so that he will allow telephone calls.

MichaelR

You and your ex sound like you're still in love with each other and are unknowingly using your children to keep the flame alive. Maybe you should let it be for the moment. It's easier on the kids.

madamesophia1969

What about a cell phone for your oldest if she is old enough to handle the responsibility. Otherwise good luck in court.

Deirdre S

Are you me? I am going through almost the exact same thing with my ex-husband. We are a little further along in the process so I'll tell you whats come of our situation so far. 1st, if you can call from a cell phone which you can get an itimized (showing all calls) statement for, do it. Make sure you record (written of tape) every call you make with date, time, and message left. LEAVE MESSAGES!!! If he has a answering machine rather then voicemail, she will hear the calls and know.... Most imporantly, keep trying.

shrty.0525

document document document.

go to court.

if he won't let you call you could always do a welfare check if you're worried about them. The police will go there and have them call you.

vickie g

Be sure and document EVERYTHING, dates, times, etc. as the Judge will be more open to you if you can show just cause.
Put everything in writing in the future, and do not allow you EX to push your buttons--emotionally.
Make a list of items you wish to have addressed in Court, as it is easy to get frazzled and forget stuff you wish you had covered.
Consider purchasing a pre-paid cell phone for your kids to have if he disconnects the phone. No judge will have a problem with this. He can't be made to have a home phone, but he can't refuse you access to the children if it's your cell phone they are using, and of no cost to him.
Best wishes to you!!
This too shall pass!!

michael m

contact them at a preset time at a friends or relitives house or email them with a new email name

the_silverfoxx

if you and him cant settle this matter like adults then settle this matter in court. my opion?

cantcu

Good, court is your only recourse! Call him and ask to talk to her, it is not a crime to record "your" conversation! And he does not have to give permission! At least, not in my state! And you are not law enforcement!

Keep a record of all contacts that you have made as it will be your word against his! He can't dispute a record!

dfreebyrd59@verizon.net

Write her a letter and send it certified so you have receipt. Good luck

pleeks

You can't tell him what to do. He is probably very resentful of your good relationship with the children. You need to get your remedy through your lawyer in court.

Shammi

I think you should concentrate on your new life with your new bf, and try to forget you ex. If you given your childern responsibility to your ex with your consent and he is giving better future to your children then you should not intrupt day to day in his new life with his new wife and children. And if you are worried about your children future and worried that your ex will not taking caring your children than you should go to court to take custody of your children.

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