20 years old and getting married?

Miami Hurricanes

I would say dont do it 20 is very young and feelings change at that age. One minute u think ur in love and then later ur out of love. U shoul djust have fun and be young while u can life is too short. You have forever to get married why do it now? dating will not hurt.

cotton3860

I was 22. My girl was 18 still in high school when I proposed. We married in August after her graduation. NO SHE WAS NOT PREGNANT. in fact we didn't do the nasty till after we got married.

we just had our 13 year anniversary.
yes we still love each other and our marriage is doing fine.

Poppy

It can work but you've got to work at it. Everyday you've got to work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It's give and take.

Kristine

My husband and I married at 20, he was 23. We got together when I was 16. I am now 24 and we have a 2 year old. I don't regret it and we are still very much in love. Everyone is different and only you know how you feel or if it's right. Good luck

nite_angelica

I moved in with my bf at 19 and got married at 20 and we were crazy in love - no I wasn't pregnant.

We had 2 sons and were happy for a few years, but we both changed a lot during those years. We split up at 25 (we were the same age).

Some people get married that young and stay married... many don't. Nobody can answer that question for you.

Good luck to you guys.

steph

I married at twenty.. divorced now of course.. but if you want to get married.. I say GO FOR it.. live life.. love each other BUT DONT absolutely dont have kids.. til you guys have been married for awhile.. so if this does end up being a starter marriage you will not have pook kids.. in between it.. Good Luck and Best wishes!

CynCity

I was 21 and no baby or anything, well now ther is Don't pay attention to what everybody tells you. People are gonna tell that your to young blah bla bla, have fun blah blah blah. But all the fun i had was with my husband. And yes weve had our ups and downs but more ups thank God. Now we have a baby and he is so awsome. It made me love my husband even more.

butterfliesRfree

What I have to tell you is I did the same thing and we did end up getting divorce. But I wouldn't go by other people. We also lived together a year prior and no, no baby (not then). Thing people don't realize at your age is there is STILL a lot of changeing going on between 20 and 25. You'll be surprised BUT PLEASE don't go by what others' say, you may be making the right decision. ONLY time will tell....and there will be a LOT of time...after you are committed.

of course people are going to ask that because you are young, but don't even worry about it, just do it if you're sure that he's the one. Good luck!

Sparkle21

Im 21 and just got married- When you know you are the only person you can see yourself loving the rest of your life and there is never that one person whom you cant picture yourself living with out- Go for it! But dont ever go into it thinking Divorce is an option- Follow your heart and back it up with morals and the conviction of this is the man for your life. God Bless and Best of wishes!

Amy

My little sister got married this last summer at the age of 19, but told the family of her engagement when she was only 17. We all thought it would all blow over and when we saw that wasn't going to happen some of us tried to talk her out of it. Eventually everyone came around and she seems to be very happy with her husband. They plan on starting a family next year. You can only do what feels right to you! If you truly love each other go for it!!

sweet_thing_kay04

I have been around for a long long time and what u are doing is normal. I work with the public and I know of alot of people who have gotten married because they were in love. People seem to have forgotten that is the real reason why you should get married.No matter what age u are.So I say follow your heart and I wish you all the happiness in the world.Just remember one thing.When things start getting predictible just switch things around and keep him guessing..You probable already know this but a relationship takes work..Good luck

(Not so) angry Charlie

Don't listen to other people if you are in love and really want to dedicate your life to this one person, go for it.

Sean C

Good! It's your life, you are in love and getting married for your own reasons. Don't let other people dictate your feelings for you.

saintlouisheat

go for it. do what makes you happy

Mary

I am eighteen years old, and I am married. I find it interesting that you asked to hear from the people who it worked out great for, but I think it is important to also take in the bad information.
I have only been married for five months, so you must consider that while listening to my advice, but I do have a lot to say.
I love my husband to death. He is a wonderful man. With that said, if I had a time machine I'm pretty sure I would use it it to go back in time and wait longer to get married. People always ask me why I did it, and if I have kids, too. We don't have any kids, I've never been pregnant. And why we did it is a long story. We had great, great motivation to do it when we did, and I felt as though I would NEVER want to be with anyone else. So did he. I understand where you're coming from. But sweety, please please please please please wait. I envy you in that you have not wed yet. I am very mature for my age, but that doesn't change my age. I am still a kid. I wish I could have lived my life more.. been like other 18 year olds. Now I'm settled down. Life can be long ... if your feelings for him will never change then why not wait a little while longer untill others approve more and you've continued to test it out. Things you would NEVER imagine could come up, and feelings you thought were cemented in place forever can begin to budge. As unthinkable as it is, you might one day regret marrying him. If you are liberal about divorce then this is less of an issue as it is for myself, but divorces are still never desirable. Take it from someone who's done it.. and please wait.

Katy B

Do what makes you happy...I got married when I was 21, and everything's fine!

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iiidontknowdoyou

Got married at 18 thinking he would be my one and only, had first kid at 20, got divorced at 24 with three kids! Still missing the fun I should have been having while I was young!!! My advice....wait!

am3rican_spy

First, stop and make sure. Love is very blind, open your eyes past the love and look at what your doing. Your not crazy if after that you still love him and wish to marry. Second, it's a LARGE commitment (mr.Obvious here) are you ready to devote your life to one man? And is he ready to do the same? There are a lot of things to consider, but no matter what you do best of luck to you, Remember, it is a hard choice to make, so make it wisely.

Veronica

YES and have been married for 21 years and still going!
We married when I was 19 and he was 20 and there was no baby on the way. The only reason was love. We didn't have children until I was 23. We did have fun. What better why to spend your entire life than with your best friend and the love of you life. You are right...there will be plenty to work through. When people ask us how we stayed married so long we simply say we love each other enough to work through everything.

Kim

My husband got married when he was 20 and stayed married for 12 years to her. They divorced several years ago... no kids involved. My parents married when my mother was 20 as well...they too are divorced, although they did remain married for 24 years. Both couples married just because they wanted to... and they did remain married for quite some time :)

I wish I could provide more positive results for you... but I have none in my experience. I know many people beat the odds though. You know what you feel and are entitled to do what is best for you. If this is the man you want to marry and you are ready for the commitment...the I wish you all the best!

Vanessa

too young to marry in my opinion... wait at least a couple years, go to college, get a degree, be old enough to drink etc... makes this much easier in the long run and if you are in love you still will be in a couple years. My opinion... wait it out.. you'll be much happier in the long run. Believe me I did it and i am still happily in love with my man!

ken401lam

Living together, or should i say finding a place to live together is hard. Plus you don't know where your career is going to take you. So people normally have the 20-28 as a working career or at least know where (what city) they are going to be settling down in.
If you know the answer to these two question. Than I quess marriage is okay. But then you have a next question. When do you plan to have a kid? To early, mean after a year of marriage, people will talk. She marry because she is pregant. If you don't care about that. Great. The big question is who is going to take care of the kid, why your husband and you is working? If you plan to stay home, can his monthly income now support the family?
If so, starting a family wouldn't be a problem. Good luck.

Babarina

YES.

I was married at 20, baby at 23, and I'm still happy 10.5 years later and we have the best relationship that I know, besides my parents. And we didn't live together till 2 weeks before we married.

Very happy, and content. People asked us why, we told them, We know we want to get married, but we also know once we are on our own we probably won't be able to afford a wedding and it would just get put off. Why wait, we just knew we were right for each other.

My case may be a little different because we knew each other our entire lives, we weren't really around each other alot, but once in a while we played as children. My Aunt and his Mom were best friends. So we crushed on each other for 15 years or so before we dated, then dated on and off for 2 years, one year steady. Then decide we were meant to be.

A Benway

congradulations.

Ed76

you all ready live to getter so go for it. I got married when I was 18 and me and my wife have been happily married since then (with no kids involve).

True it was hard in the beginning because well we weren't quite ready, but we pull it through and are very happy.

Good luck to you and don't worry nothing can brake true love.

One quick thing though I don't know how you guys treat your self's or get along, but you must learn how to ask for forgiveness even though you are right. learn how to listen and then talk and don't insult each other instead talk like human beans:)

Good luck again:)

CableMan

I was 19 when I married my wife, she was 23. I wouldnt change a thing! So many people called me crazy and stupid, but look who is laughing now HA HA!

private

If it's meant to be then it will also be there next year. Wait, your relationship has alot a ground to cover. I know that's not what young people want to hear but the proof is in the pudding, the statistics for marriages failing in your age group are almost 100 percent. You would have better luck buying a lottery ticket. I know you won't listen... kids never do. I can only hope you at least don't involve a "little" life in your adventure.

Cebsme

I got married when i was 18 not because i was pregnant, not to run away from home, not because i wanted a daddy. But because I love my husband, i want to spend the rest of my life with him. I knew that at 18 and now almost 6 years later (January 3rd is our 6th wedding anniversary) I still know that.

We still don't have kids, though we want to soon. Young marriages can and do work. When it comes down to it you must live your life for yourselves not anyone else.

Support â™¥Kymâ™¥

I got married when I was 19 for the same reasons you're thinking about getting married. I'm now 26, going through my second divorce, and the "man of my 19 year old dreams" is happily married to another woman who is now carrying his 2nd child.

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