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noneofyourbizwax
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When there are many reasons not to take him back~ He'll probably cheat again. My husband has cheated and he keeps going back to the same woman even when he's caught and knows he is going to get hung in the divorce. Not everyone is the same however. People do make mistakes and can truly turn their marriage around.. It's hard to trust someone when they cheat but people have blind faith. Hey that' s a Warrant song. |
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shorty
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i have been married for two years and about 6 months ago i had an affair not a one night stand but a relationship. i dont know why i did it, but i know i started to regret it and ended it with my lover. i told my husband and it nearly crushed him. i cant tell you why he kept me around but i can tell you why i wanted to stay. i realized that my hubby is the only one for me.i know it will take a long time for him to get over this but i have and will continue to try to make this up to him for the rest of my life. i realized when i was with the other man that he couldnt come close to giving me the love my husband tries to give me. thats why i beg my hubby to give us another chance and starting over has been rocky but we are getting back right |
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Joe K
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Some couples have too much invested in their marriage to end it. |
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LADYQUEEN
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Yeah I would take him back. Why start all over with sumone else when u have invested so much in that person. The majority of men cheat. They have booty calls. The way we have to look at it, we all make mistakes in which we sumtimes regret. At the moment we dont think about the consequences it might bring us so there for we learn from them and thats why we all deserve a second chance. |
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physandchemteach
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I am afraid I could never take back a spouse or boy friend who cheated on me. I do have a little pride, and if I was not good enough I may not be good enough another time in the future.
I believe in complete trust and honesty with your partner. If that trust is broken, there is not way it can be repaired. I let my partner know this from the beginning of a relationship, so there is no excuse for cheating. |
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Dee
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Yes, because I like him, he's my best friend and I want to keep him around. My kids love him too and would be devastated if he left. |
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April M
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Familiarity. Even though it's bad, people like to know what to expect. That's it in a nutshell. |
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sasha
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No, I wouldn't because unlike a lot of people, I don't believe you would ever be able to get back to that "place" again. Like when you never even thought about him or her cheating because you were that comfortable with eachother, thats a level of trust in my opinion that you could never get back again. For that reason you would never truly be at peace and happy because there would always be that underlying dout that was never there before.
That topped off with the thoughts of them touching someone else they way they touched you, how could you ever really be happy? Kudos to the people who can get past all that, I couldn't. |
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Holly
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I always said if my man ever cheated on me that would be it .ok he did after 10 years together and I did want him to go away ,but I prayed and ask God what to do because I still loved him and he said he loved me ,that he just simply messed up .and God said to me I forive you for all ,and are you without sin .so we have worked thru this and are doing great now ,But !!! no second chances .hope this helped its the power of love that brings you back ,people want to play because they get bored .some people are stronger than others ,and can say no to cheating .have a great day |
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JoAnn H
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Nope, My daddy had an old sayin. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I was in deep love with someone once. 9 mo. into it I found out that he was searching personal ads and meeting women. I broke things off then gave him another chance.
The whole entire time we were together I had doubts. Fallowed my gut and found out he was up to old tricks. |
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cowboy
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No, You can never get over the betrayal. There is always the mistrust after an affair!!!!!!!!! |
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C M
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Yes people do take their spouses back after they have cheated, usually because of all the answer others have already given, finances, kids, familiarity and so forth. But the number one reason is that the faithful spouse is insecure and feels that they cannot do any better (usually the wife). Guess what girls, WE ARE FINE WITHOUT THEM! When I was cheated on it was because I worked to much and was never home, so guess what I did? I went to work and told him to have his crap out before I got home. |
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Katze
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Maybe, those cheaters are having regrets, and they truly love their spouses . There are no answers for this, because it really depends on the individuals. Some people are more fogiving than others. Some can't handle the hurt they have been through and would not be able to live a happy live after an affair. It's all in someones heart. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes and learn from them. I would not take somebody back if he/she was cheating with my best friend. Forget it! |
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Farah_Z
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No one is perfect, everyone make mistake. And everyone deserve another chance. Try imagining yourself cheating on your spouse. I am sure you would like to be given another chance if it was a mistake. |
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kevincotk4me
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because i didnt want to leave my kids, didnt last anyway |
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ETxYellowRose
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You don't take them back because once a cheater always a cheater.
And for these women that say well he was cheating with me but he divorced her and married me so it wont happen to me.........don't fool yourself into thinking that.
If he can do it to one woman he can do it to any woman.
You are no more special then the first woman that he cheated on. At the time he married her, she was the love of his life, the one he promised to love, honor and cherish...............just like he has promised with you.
When you cheat, your marriage has lost the trust, the commitment, the honor, the promise, the integrity, the communication, it has lost every thing that matters and everything that it takes to make a marriage work.
Your can swear and promise all day long that you will never do it again........and that promise doesn't mean **** because the trust is gone, you will always live with the thought in the back of your mind that he will do it again. And that is not the way a marriage is suppose to be. |
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pianoplayer
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i wouldn't take him back but when you have kids it makes it alot harder you want whats right for them and sometimes it means putting your own happiness before there's so that they can have the best start in life. also there's the old thing called love if you've been with someone for a long time then its hard to stop loving then no matter how much they've hurt you |
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alwayssmiling
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I always went back after he cheated,because of the kids but I wasnt happy and me dummy finally realized this will never end. so I finally left,hes married now to 2nd wife and he tried to cheat with me,so Im glad its over for us,and no I didnt cheat with him. Im happily married now to my new husband. dated 6 yrs married 7 yrs and never cheated not once. |
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nas88caror 300 09? way to go BK!
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if she cheated she would be out the door |
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ctmaryam_83
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i would say its because of the kids. my parents were divorced for a year. so when i was small i didnt know the impact it had on me but as i grew up i realised that i never used to finished my home work and i was always being caned for that. my teachers would say that i'm a problematic student coz i cant cope with my studies. when i look back i realised that i didnt have the normal childhood like any1 else and i dont have friends because they dont want to be friends with some1 who is not bright. I also realised that i didn't tell my problems with parents i dont know why i always keep it to myself...anyway an incident happened when i was 10 years old and my brother was 4. my brother was having a very high fever and he was calling my father in his sleep. even while writing this i can still cry each time i remember this incident.its because of this my father told my mum 'lets get back together again, i cant see our children going through this'..u see my brother was sick because he misses my father so much. after that my parents got back together again. I'm happy to say things work out and who would ever thought that i manage to go to college and get my diploma but i did and now i'm working in one of the private college back in my country...now i'm a changed person i have a lot of friends and i'm much happier |
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jewel
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I don't know, we're separated for 8 years already and he has his new family now...thoug hwe're still married...i love him no more... |
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logcabindreaming
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When it has happened to my friends - I cannot understand why they would take them back. No way! Once the trust is gone....it is over!
That first girl who said she is now the wife.....wonder if she can totally trust him???? |
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Waterlily1913
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Having been cheated on before, I can safely say, I love my husband, and if he cheated, then he can hit the road. We have 4 children together. I told him early on in our relationship that this transgression is unforgivable.
He has and will continue to be the love of my life, but I have enough self respect to realize that a transgression like this is not simply accidental, but purposeful and egotistical.
Therefore, If he cheats, then he can move on in life without me by his side.
Hope this is answers in some way. |
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mark3200
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People have affairs because something in the marriage is lacking. So, first assumption is that people got married in the first place because the other person had that mysterious "something"...call it karma, balance, whatever. I see an affair as an opportunity to grow the original relationship, providing that BOTH of the people involved want to make it work, are willing to be totally up front and honest about why the one had an affair and the one who had the affair is willing to apologize and eat humble pie until the trust factor is back. Yeah, I'd take her back. |
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cvchick85
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no i wouldn't cause i ain't dumb |
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kat
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well i tried this and it almost never works out...my best friend went throuhg it and they are still together....so you have to strong if you try this one...good luck |
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SpittinThaReal
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The fear of the unknown. If you've been with someone a number of years, the thought of starting all over can be intimidating. The fear of ending up with someone worse than the person you left. Remembering the good times.
I don't know if I'd take him back. I think it would depend on rather he had a long term relationship verses a one night stand. I think the longer the relationship the harder it would be to forgive. |
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wanted one
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Sometimes, you have to forgive people for their mistakes because we all make mistakes. There also are some mistakes that are unforgivable. You just have to listen to your heart and do what it tells you to. |
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