A Girl at work keeps hitting on me and I am married?

babylove20032005

You sound like a nice guy. You care about your wife and another persons feelings.

I think you should tell her that you are not comfortable with the advances and that you have a happy home and dont want to ruin that. She should respect that. If she doesnt then I would let the person above you know and have them handle it.

Take care!

IcanoutfishU

You need to tell her the truth.

1) I am not interested in anything but being your co-worker.
2) I have a wonderful wife at home and your behavior is jeopardizing that.
3) I would hate to have to report this to human resources, but if you can not keep it on a professional level, I will have no choice.

beth

Tell her you hope she didnt get the wrong impression about how you feel just by listening to her and tell her you have a beautiful wife at home and your sorry if she misunderstood.

i_can_be_your_hero

just tell her that you're a dedicated married man and it makes you uncomfortable when she hots on you. If that doesn't work just bring your wife to work with you one day. she should get the point then

mikebe

Tell her how you feel. Talking solves 9/10 problems.

Tell her that you don't want your personal life to interfere with your working life, and if it continues, you'll reluctantly have to go to consequences.

Aron1968_30

If she is having problems with her marriage, its possible that she is having ego problems too... and flirting with you... getting attention from you... makes her feel better about herself.

If I were you, I'd be VERY careful not to flirt back, or lead her on in anyway. Be friendly, but not TOO friendly. If she starts getting bent about you not flirting back with her, talk about your wife and how in love you are with her.

Good luck

Kitty Kat

I guess have your wife bring lunch to you one day or something? Make sure this woman sees you too very happy together.

I don't know, sometimes that makes women back off, but sometimes it makes them try even harder....

Or, GROW A PAIR AND TELL HER TO STOP HARRASSING YOU!

you could try avoiding her as much as possible

or if you say something about it to her
im sure she'll get embarassed or something
and stop

drama_queen

Just tell her straight out that you're married and don't want to be disrespectful to your wife.

Peace and Love

hmm maybe just make it clear that you are extremely happy with your wife. you dont have to like state it whenever she starts hitting on you. but you can do it subtly, maybe she will take the hint.

Sir Richard

If your company has a HR dept, speak to someone there about your "suspicion" and ask them to discretely observe the situation. Let them come to their own conclusion. So it is adequately dealt with by neutral parties.

Sassafrass

Don't just let it be--you stand up for you wife and your marriage. If it was the other way around they would call it harassment!

Make sure you are not too nice to her--it will just lead her on. Don't even smile smugly like you know that she likes you and stuff...she will think you are playing hard to get.

saved

pray about it.

Smiley

can you temporarily ask your supervisor to let her work under another supervisor, maybe on a task that she would find very rewarding? this is a very uncomfortable situation, and could end up costing both of you your jobs if you aren't careful.

rsdSUCKS!!

let her know that you are in a happy relationship and that you love your wife with all your heart and all you want to be is friends. tell her that when she does this it makes you uncomfortable, just be honost and sincere.

Deep Thought

Your HR department and your in house legal will tell you to mention it to them a so that they can quietly put an end to it. If you submit the paperwork, then they can tell her to knock it off and it will end quietly. If you let it sit and she for some reason gets her nose bent out of joint, she could twist it around on you and then you're in a world of hurt.

Kathy W

Wow! Where can you find men like this? Not much. I envy your wife now because she has such a loving husband who is very loyal to her.
I really think you should tell her straight off, because usually if you don't say anything, this girl will think you like her as well because you just let it be. If you stopped her from hitting on you, she might get the message. I know its bad to hurt her but she has to know otherwise your wife might find out and get the wrong message as well. If you know what I mean.

Kate L

explain to this girl that she is very important to you in the work scene. all tell her u have a wife that you love very much and u don't think you would never be able to handle having anyone other than your wife in your life. this girl should understand

greenwillowtrie

I'm sure you were trying to be helpful when you listened to the girl's problems, and probably it made you feel useful, important and necessary.
Whatever, you have made a free choice and commitment to your wife and you are morally and ethically obligated to her.
You say you don't want to be unfair or hurt feelings but if you don't tell the girl at work, in no uncertain terms, that her advances are unwelcome and take immediate action to halt her advances you will find out shortly just how much you will be unfair and hurt her, yourself and your wife.

sugarBear

I think you should be upfront & honest with her, at the same time be on the professional level. If she hits on you again, tell her straight up YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED & YOU ARE MARRIED. Don't beat around the bush. If you let this go on longer, it might cause you trouble. Avoid all that now & tell her what's up.

Brandie H

Just tell her thanks....but that you are in love with your wife.

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