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A question for people who have cheated or been cheated on?

For the people who have cheated: Do you regret cheating or do you regret getting caught?
For th people who have been cheated on: Do you think the person who cheated on you regrets it or regrets being caught out?

I have been cheated on (not by my current fiance) and i know it hurt more than words can tell. Although my ex apologised and begged for forgiveness i truly think he only regretted being caught out. Does anyone else feel this way?
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Ah Kev, i don't know if you are referring to me but if you are you should read a little more carefully. I was cheated on. I have never cheated and never will. I love my man and my family too much.


    




Doctor D
ive cheated alot and yea i regret almost everytime now that i look back i had some good relationships going and i miss them


=]
I think my ex just regrets getting caught. i was so forgiving so they just took advantage of it and cheated like 5 more times. I eventually gave up on them. =[
so much for my happy ending <3


blessed mom
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I didnt sleep with this man but I talked to him all the time and we Kissed a few times. I regret it so bad I get sick just thinking about it. I didnt get caught but I seperated from my husband and came clean to him about it. Now thank God we are together and happy again. We went through some hard times cause he was on drugs and I turned to someone else for help rather than tring to talk to him. I had talked so much I didnt want to talk to him about it anymore. So I regret it


lbj09
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Yes. I was in a very long relationship and i thought it was getting weird. He was calling much and we didnt go out as much as we use to. And i found out he was cheating, i caught him with her. At first he didnt care, he spoke to me the first time last night in 4 months and finally said sorry. I dont believe he's sorry, i think he felt as if he had to say sorry, not that he meant it and if i was to get back with him im sure he would do it again. I still havent got over the entire thing. how sad..but i'm doing better.


antisobriety
I cheated and was young and dumb and regretted it. Entirely its a terrible thing to do.


lost_as_a_goose
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My ex husband cheated on me. When it first happened he claimed he regretted it, but I truly think it was more regret about being caught. Since that long ago time, he has told me how very much he actually did regret it. It has taken a long time, but I believe the words he said to me came from his heart. I just hope this taught him NOT to make the same mistake with his now wife.


Leo
i was very young when i married my first husband and cheated on him though i never got caught. my second husband cheated on me and had i realized the hurt pain and anger it can cause someone i would have never done it even if i knew i wouldn't get caught. my second husband never apologized. in fact he never admitted it to my face. he was just pissed that he was caught.


redhead27
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oh yes... he was only sorry when he was caught. it took days of me continuing to throw the evidence in his face before he fessed up. it was lie over lie just to get the truth. the fact that he didn't even tell me the truth when i asked the first time showed me he really had no guilt for what he did.

then, get this, he told me that he didn't think he did anything wrong... so psychotic...


Mrs. B
I have cheated in the past (not on my husband, a prior relationship). There were reasons that I felt were valid ones for doing what I did. I was in a very abusive relationship, and rather than just leave, I chose to cheat. I do regret it, and not just for getting caught, but for making more drama in the relationship than there already was, which was alot.


Mrs. Sanchez ♥☮♥
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I've been cheated on.

It hurts more than many things. And no, he does not feel one bit of remorse. He's a completely horrible person altogether though, so it makes up his whole personality.

I'm always terrified it's going to happen now, although the man I'm with now is the greatest thing in my life.


kat
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I have been cheated on when I was pregnant with my second child but didn't find out till 2 weeks after she was born it was a very difficult time for me and my ex hus was only sorry that he got caught he was never sorry. These people make a choice and do what they do because they can. whether they mean to or not lots of people get hurt lets hope Karma comes there way


cheeky-monkey
I cheated, but didn't get caught. And I really hate myself for what I did. He is in the dark about what I've done, and as awful as it sounds, I hope he stays there, because in his mind I'm still this"nice" woman that he's loved for so long. And I know that I don't deserve that.

And I do think sometimes people are sorry because they got caught, not because of what they did.


Luke
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The people that are cheating are obviously to immature and don't deserve to be in a relationship and that's that...


Alex L
I regret cheating! More than anything in the world! I wish I would have never done it! I didnt get caught, I just admitted to it.


White Hare
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I regret cheating, I wish I never ever did it but I was young and stupid and I'll regret it all from beginning to end forever.


bluize5372
I have been cheated on; and I feel as if she regrets it....just because she got caught.


This is harder than it looks?
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i have never cheated, i have broke up with a couple of boyfriends to be with someone else though... but they were short lived a few months.

i am pretty sure i was cheated on by a guy that i went out with for 4 years, i could never find proof but i just knew it. oh well i am married to a wonderful man now and i know he would never cheat on me. hes jus t that kind of man


i think cheating is something most everyone goes through builds strength


Nikole
I have cheated and I regret the cheating, I am glad I got caught cuz it wasn't fair to my boyfriend and just messed up. I love him and it was just a big mistake.


jonathan g
i have cheated but i was very srry about it
altough the damage was done i wanted to get her to understand but the trust was gone


ibme999
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I had both of this happen to me.

I never got caught. Lucky? Perhaps. I made sure that I covered my tracks, had a pattern down way before I ever started thinking about cheating on him. I never once swayed from my pattern. Do I regret cheating? No. I was starved for attention. After sleeping with the husband (now ex) for nearly 20 years and no sign of affection, I couldn't handle it anymore, I went and found my own.

He cheated on me way at the beginning of the marriage. I was outraged. He didn't care about how I felt. I caught him, confronted him, he was very aloof over the entire situation. But I continued with the marriage. I didn't want to go through another divorce.

In 2000, I walked out the door and never returned. I moved to a large city and have been single ever since. Why? I haven't found the right guy yet. Am I lonely? Oh heck yes!! Would I cheat again? More than likely not. I've learned from the past, I know the warning signs of a bad relationship, so I think I have a good grasp on things now.


mirror--image
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yes. because if they were really sorry about it,
they wouldn't have done it in the first place


makinascene
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i kinnnddaa cheated (it was just a drunken kiss, not a secretive full blown hookup), but my boyfriend knows about it and completely is fine/forgave me.

but I still AWFUL about it to this day. i never ever ever ever want to do anything like that ever again.


John Puckett
I've been cheated on with my current girlfriend, but she regrets it very much. She didn't get caught, but fessed up. I think this situation may be different, but I completely feel your pain... Words can't describe the hurt...

My recommendation is to end the relationship unless he actually is sorry, because it WILL happen again if it's just regret for being caught. Don't get hurt again, because it's just not healthy.


dalitiguous1
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Who cares; it's all the same. Some regret it, some don't. Some say they regret it and don't; some don't say anything but regret it greatly. Regardless, they may or may not repeat the behavior. Welcome to the human predicament. Just remember that a lot of people really like monogamy just because that feels better to that person. If that's the way you feel, then you need to find a like minded person. The problem is recognizing that person as everyone will tell you that they are monogamous at heart. Time is the ultimate answer and that's why it takes so long, usually, to find the right mate.


Just Me
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I didn't get caught. But I can say that I don't regret what I did. I would have regretted cheating if I had been caught but not regretted the act of being caught. yes I am still with the person I cheated on and no he has not found out about it. If our roles were reversed I wouldn't blame him if he had done the same thing.


ScSpec
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