A sensitive question ???

doobie

it depends. at the mo if i was financially stable i would be out the door but thats because my partner is a cheat. however if my partner was a completely different person and i had just fell out love with him but we were still friends and could live together amicably then yes i probably would stay just for the kids. as i see it now is i am doing right by my kids, my time will come in the future. as long as my kids feel safe secure and happy i will do my best to uphold that. when it starts to affect them and i am more financially stable i am gone!!!

Who Knew?

If I fell out of love...then yes I would. you should never stay in a loveless relationship because of the kids, they can feel that stress as well

KAR36

I would work on the marriage in counseling to see if
both partners' needs and desires could be accommodated.

Sometimes people do not want to change, like with self-destructive or abusive behavior. If that were the case after counseling attempts, I would not stay together for kids.

Kids suffer as well in a home with fights, etc. when the parents stay together but do not get along.

momof3granof1

I have done that got the tee shirt no Bex left well he did our lives where such a misery and we got on better apart and both moved on in our lives and we were skint as well.

Bex: Well done for leaving you can only give so many chances to someone and three he was luck.

nanny chris w

I'd stay with the children and make the man leave.

bad_bob_tx

I think I would really really try to save the marriage . Ever think of counseling .

Angel x x x

im not sure anyone could answer this question until being in this situaton!

Whipass Chick

Probably leave Bex, at the end of the day if your not happy, then how will the kids be happy growing up in that sort of environment, as for the cheating, no f*cking way I'd tolerate that, once would be it, he'd be a eunich! lol

Faith

I am in your exact situation and I am staying with him for the sake of our child hoping things will work out but there is only so much a person can take. Just have friends and family to lean on and try to make things work. I hope this helps that you are not the only one.

Bluebell

I did just that in the past Bex because it is better for children to have a stable and peaceful environment to live in, not one full of negative energy, rows and everything that goes with a marriage breakdown. So for the sake of the children you leave. x

Rawrrr.

i would find a way to make it easy for the children, but i really don't think i could stay with the guy.

Nickynackynoo

If I was very unhappy and the situation was making my child unhappy then yes I would leave, staying together for the children doesn't work, my parents tried it and my brother and I grew up listening to them argue day in day out, it was a relief when they finally split up.

Afi

I would leave them like a shot...which I have done.
Financially stable or not.

royaliscross

depends. if she/he can be a partner in doing stuff and after talking about it, could reach a point where you two can coexist. then i would probably stay. not for the sake of the children, for the sake of my life.
i don't think "for the sake of children" thing is valid. if you stay together and fight fight fight...it'll not be good for the children too.
so using excuses "for the sake of children" is really for someone who is afraid and using the children as shield. sorry to point this out but please think about it. it's true.

me-wa

I would stay for the children UNLESS it was a bad relationship. but if it was peaceful... and just not love.. I would not leave. I would only leave if things were bad. Once the kids grew up, I would move on

Rosessis

the childrens sake is the poorest excuse I ever heard of . Leave leave now don't allow yourself to continue to live in turmoil !!

gettingby

I would leave if my staying was worse for the children. As much as they could be hurt by their parents' separation, it could be worse if they had to watch them fight, be sad, etc.

Red Rose

Yes I would leave him. I always stayed because I depended financially on him. For medical coverage and being able to meet the bills. But if I could do it on my own. Yes I would leave. When I was working I didn't make enough.

â™¥ Beaver Diva Sue â™¥

Been in that situation bex and my kids would always come first....financially stable or not !!

sparkles

No Bex for my children I would leave i left him and had nowhere to go so I was in a refuge for woman it was terrible and dirty i felt so guilty but I would of put up with anything rather than go back to him anything he was a proper well he just was so no money means nothing to me.

question

If I had money and my husband was cheating on me.. i'd be out the door.. you bet. Im sure you did the right thing.

kim h

I do not think that staying together for the children is a good idea. It gives them a distorted idea of what a marriage is. They know when there are problems and when there is tension. They get stressed out over it because they can feel it but they do not understand it. I would not stay in a loveless marriage for anyone.

RanaBanana

I cannot even imagine ever falling out of love with my husband. I've been with him over half of my life.

bestadviceever

I left because life is not worth living unless you are in pursuit of happiness..

THing4CSA

Having been in this very situation once before, I would leave again! without love there is nothing!

Hope

Party foul! You made a commitment a vow for better or worse! What are you teaching your children by not honoring your commitment. Divorce should only be allowed for abuse or adultery victims. Seek guidance from your church.

cute_chica

If I didn't love him then yes I would leave. I believe a marriage should be more than being with someone who helps you pay the bills.

no, dont stay for the children, if your unhappy with your marriage, get out of it. your are teaching your children to stay in a relationship that is not working, Teach them its ok to get out of something that doesnt work.

"33"

what's with this falling out of love garbage...it's a copout used by people who have no notion of committment, no integrity, no honor. people who follow the "whatever makes me feel good this moment" doctrine.

there is no "in love", there is no "out of love". there is only one love....and if you don't have integrity, honor, or a sense of committment you will NEVER know this one love.

yES, pRiME MiNIstER BAd

I find that its not neccesarily for the children .... but because of some other insecurity or need... and women sometimes blame the kids for not walking

I would never stay just for the kids.... they are not stupid, and would probably be happier with us apart. Whether they know it or not..... yet

I think that women that do stay in bad/abusive relationships are setting a bad example to those kids...

i'd just wash.... and go... money should not come into it... this isn't the 70's anymore an you girls can survive without us... ..better than we do without you

..obviously a mature, self sufficient and very independant man like me is excluded from that last comment... i don't need anything doing... and can do eveything myself... â˜º

bunny

I guess my question would be, how do you JUST "fall out of love" without number of warning signs? Without giving yourself a chance to speak with a marriage counselor about your feelings, or even your husband?

Damm straight I'd stay with my kid, unless I was abused or he was truly a terrible human being. That is a part of a commitment to child rearing.

But the bigger question is...what's at stake here? Nothing? A family? A man who has no idea what's going through your brain you're ready to dump without exploring your feelings at the sacrifice quite possibly of children?

Honey, you may have plenty money, but I question your intellect and maturity on this matter. I really do.

Get yourself to a therapist before you do something that may be wholly stupid without thinking it through. Money, OR NOT!

Sincerely,

Grace

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