Abuse in relationships?

punxsutawney phil

it wont get better. leave, before he gets dragged out by the cops.

mamabear

Tell him to get help or leave.

Crystal G

its not about a relationship being perfect sweetie. its about you having self respect, self esteem. you should proceed with caution because this beating came out of no where. it will more than likely happen again. and if so you should get out of the relationship ASAP. you both should probably seek some kind of counseling. he has some issues that he needs to give some attention too. am sure this is not the first time that he has beat a woman and am sure it wont be the last. get some for yourself if nothing else. GodBless

NEMESIS

He did it before didn't he.
Its just that he did it even harder than before.
Or, probably in front of ppl.
Or, gave you a blk eye.
You wrote this. you make the call...

* This world is a large judge mental and non-judge mental world
its up to you to be bright and make that ultimate decision that will
profoundly improve your life as you wish it to be, there!

ladydream67

Well this is a situation that alot of us women have endured but some are 2 proud to say it happened to them.I've been in a relationship for over 2 years where I was cheated on,disrespected,and beat.He is 9 years older than me and to this day I still love him.I am now pregnant with his daughter.I made all those excuses why I couldn't leave but you have to decide what's more important the love of that man or your love for yourself. I didn't care enough about myself to leave but my daughter that Im carrying was all the motivation that I needed.I left packed my things and ran like a thief in the night because I found something more important to me than him.Sister I won't tell u to leave b/c only u can make that decision when you r truly fed up but love yourself more than u do him b/c I didn't and then u decide whether 2 stay or go.

Chelsea79

Trust me, it will only get worse. You need to get out of the relationship before it does. If you need help with this, get a counselor to help you through with it. You CAN NOT side idly by and let this happen. You MUST get help and get OUT!

joyceeleann

Yes I have..you can usually read their eyes that they are capable. It goes from hot tempered to racism of anyone different or who thinks different that him to personal verbal attacks on me to threating me. I walked..I won't put up with it. Love isn't enough to put up with that.

robnluvsben

i was in an abusive relationship and i was with him for about 6 years and the abuse didnt start until about 3 years later after getting together.but the 1st time it happened he promised he would do it no more but it continued and continued so i left him before i ended up dead.life is to precious to lose over a man.

Angela F

If this is something he doesn't normally do, you might want to talk to him about it. He may need help with anger management issuses. Next time, call the cops to take him out, they may give him a rude awakening. If it continues, leave because it is a wicked cycle once it gets started.

Angie

There is no reason 4 him 2 put his hands on u I suggest u leave right away b4 it gets any worse if u didnt do nothing about it now he will get use 2 it and will keep doing it please get away now b4 u wind up missing or treated as a punchin bag!!

dudleydo

This situation will not get better, it will get worse. Give him the boot and look for someone that treats you with respect. Do this before this gets more out of control than it is. This is NOT the way love is supposed to be. Please be careful.

jessy

It would be totally shocking for anyone to just get abusive all of a sudden.I would say its more he is having a mental problem and is acting out of character.I would be kind of scared he is not himself.I think u better get him help and yourself if it happens again .I mean he could really become dangerous and hurt u very bad.Good luck!

In Love

Stop him in his tracks. I was abusive many years ago, and I can honestly say that jail and counseling was the best thing for me at the time. The marriage continued for 7 more years. I do feel that there was a lack of true love between us. But till this day I know I am a better man for having gone. I would never consider being abusive now. Also, if drug or alcohol are involved they must be stopped. But in no way should you put up with physical abuse. Put your finger in his face and let him know that if it ever happens again he can be assured that you will call the police and he can apologize to the judge.

Angela S

It does NOT happen in every relationship. It does NOT happen in most relationships. During the beginning of the relationship, you're both trying to please each other and impress each other. Some call this the "honeymoon stage." That's why it is so important to take a lot of time to get to know the other party. If, after he believes that you are with him for good, he begins to abuse you and is cruel to you, that is evidence of what the relationship will be for the long term. So, you need to leave now. It never gets better because he believes that you won't every leave. It always gets worse. Tell your friends every time he hurts you and call the police. LEAVE HIM NOW.

ttea44

Yes I was there, First it was hits in the head where no one could see, Then one night he hit me in the face left a huge black eye, for the next two years as soon as one black eye left there would be another one. The beatings got worst. I finally left with help from the police he went to jail for three years I fell off the map.
Then A few years later I worked with a lady who was the sweetest lady she told me aboutthe hell she had been living in for 12 years, I asked her why does'nt she leave (I Knew the answer because I had been there) One she thought she still loved him and that she just felt that he had a illness and she wanted to be the one to help him and be there for him like he had cancer or something. Well While getting ready for work one morning I heard on the News about a murder and that the husband had taken his own life. I had not heard the names but I thought Of Cindy Shimwell From Pontoon Beach Il right away , To this day I don't know why she had cam eto my mind.
When I got to work a coworker walked up to me with tears in HIS eyes, I knew I said it was Cindy was'nt it? All he could say was that sob finally killed her.
Honey she was leaving him that night Jan 6th 2002 she was out the door with their 16 year old daughter she almost made it. He came out the door and shot her in the back of her head in front of his own daughter then he put the gun in his mouth and pulled the triger.
At the wake it was real hard That SOB was layed out in one room and Cindy in the other. The familys did it to make it easier on the kids. Well Out of respect to the kids I did not go over to their dads closed casket because I thought if I did I would spit on it so I stayed from from it.
Theres only two out comes to a abusive relationship one is on your own to feet or carried out feet first, PLEASE LEAVE before it happens to you, Don't kid yourself and think it could never happen to you because it can.
'God bless you

ally babes

Have you notice any other changes, Like mood or eating, sleeping habits or anything out of the ordinary? Cause he could be doing drugs behing your back, I was with a man for 2 yrs and then all of a sudden he snapped and beat the living poop roght out of me I kicked him out once I got out of the hospital but for him he started doing E and there were many warning sign I missed

If it has started, I am afraid to say I don't think it will stop. The ice has been broken and I think if it happens again, you should leave. My husband used to hurt me...not often, but he hurt me none-the-less. I had 2 children and I didn't want to leave. Being apart from him was the best thing that happened to me though. They have a relationship with their dad and I found a man who doesn't hurt me.
Good luck.

kystarlyte_kystarlight

Abuse is abuse, regardless of what kind. If it happened once, it'll happen again. Good luck.

juniper555

You really didnt describe what he did to you. Some cases of abuse are worse than others. Read the book "Why Does He do That?" By Lundy Bancroft, its a really good book and it will give you some understanding to what/why he did what he did, and there is no excuse to why anyone should treat anyone like that. Keep your head up girl, its not your fault and you dont deserve that. Dont you want a guy who gives you love and affection verus pain? No girl, I promise that this doesnt happen in every relationship my brothers were raised strictly NOT to touch any girls in anger and they stick by it and go for a walk when they get mad.

getmymackon

Whether you forgive him or not is up to you, but once his fists start rolling there's no stopping until the cops become involved.

EazyBreezy

No- it does not happen in every relationship and No- it doesn't stop- it just gets worse. Get out as fast as you can. You say you have never been abused physically by him, which makes me think you have been emotionally abused before (which is usually the first step for abusers). What to do- get out now and never, ever look back! It will happen again if you stay.

happy

everyone would has an accidental losing temper,by overpressure,by sociality,or something else,so if you think he is not a bad man at all,then forgive him,but if you know he is not a man who you expect or like,then leave him

RPrincess

If they hit once they will hit again. It doesn't matter how sorry he is or what excuse he used to apologize. He will keep hitting you and the more he does it the easier it will get until he beats you to a pulp.

I was with someone for three years. One night he fought with me and punched me in the face. I knocked him on his *** and told him if he ever hit me again it would be his last. Three weeks later he put my through a glass door..... It never gets better... He went to jail and I got out......

saloon girl

Do not forgive him. If it happens once it will happen again. I promise...been there, done that. You need to stand up for yourself, say you will not accept being treated like that, and end the relationship.

Notbusy

I am currently undergoing the 3rd of 5 stages of surgeries to fix what my ex did to me, he never changed, neither will yours. Get out before the pain really begins, believe me it does get worse. I still love my ex and miss him every day, but he tried to take this life from me. No one has the right to put their hands on you!!!! GOOD LUCK

makeloans2

No, it does not happen in every relationship. I've always heard that once a man does get physical for the first time, and the woman stays with him, he is much more likely to do it again, and repeat his behavior. You should tell him if he ever does this to you again, you will call the police and have him arrested, and then you will leave him. Then stick to your guns and DO IT!!

mandy

hsd it in my first marriage!!!!!!!you need to stop hm now before its too late sweetie,he needs to know you will not put up with it!!!!

SuziChi

There is no excuse for abuse! I would leave him immediately!

Ann f

listen it sound like you need help

ALIBUGS

Not good. I had a boyfriend for 2 years. Never an incident . We broke off and in the coming back in an argument he put his hands on my neck as if to choke me. We did not get back together. Years later he told me that the girl that he dated after me ended up in a hospital after on of his beatings..... Think about it

Laura Z

Time to go. Love ain't being abused. I have been with my husband 27 years and NEVER been abused.

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