Abusive Spouse......?

Delta

i would surely be the first to intervene. staying silent believing it's not "our marriage" does nothing but aggravate things. this is probably why some men continue abusing their wives... because we r not doing enough. i'm with u in that... and thumbs up for bringing that subject up :)

Kristiane-Cubical ninja

Yes I would and yes I have.
I do not sit back and let the people I care about get hurt if there is anything I can do.

TwinsPlus1

I would encourage my friend or relative to get out but what can you do?

If you assault someone you risk jail.

If you force them to leave that person isn't that kidnapping and a felony?

There really isn't a whole lot you can do if the person is an adult and refuses to leave. Also, sometimes by voicing serious concern you get shut out of that person's life.

cjmessy

Often times when you speak out to an abused woman she will shut you out. I would still do it, and let her know that anytime day or night, I would be there when she was ready to leave. Hopefully one day she would have the courage to take me up on it.

LUVmeORhateME S

Its human nature to want to help any person that is in a abusive relationship.
But beside all of the bull-%&#^ the person has to want to help themselves. You can only do so much for that person. In the end it can only come down to THEM.

Say it Like it Is :)

My cousins ex beat her when she was pregnant. Luckily for the guy~ I was not able to locate him and run him over with my truck.

Kaya M

Michelle you can help that person as long as they are strong enough to leave the abuser. It does no good to intervene if they are not willing to leave.

willn2pleaze

I don't believe that anybody would stand back and not say something, but how many many people will actually go and confront the abuser at their house? You must understand that these people are adults and you can't make them do anything, they must choose to leave and not be hurt anymore before you can really help.

Barbara

I felt the same way until I went though an abusive relationship myself. No matter what you do.. You'll stress her out more if you scream and yell at her to get out. The best things my sisters did was to leave me alone they didn't speak to me or come over. I didnt get out until I was ready. And believe me they did everything they could, they even called the poilce. One of the sisters Im talking about got in one a year after I got out of mine. She stayed in it for a year! It can happen to any of us.

golfgirl3

I did, and I would! Unfortunately, that person unless they are willing to must want to have help. I helped someone who every time I would think she was "out" would be back "in". I finally told her that I cared for her but unless she was ready to leave for good I could not help.

zebulon

please watch the movie " return to me" and then you will understand why people stay out of domestic problems of others. scary things like that do really happen.

Daniel

I personally wouldn't allow any friend of mine to get hurt but i would be careful and see what kind of abuse is happenin before i take any action. I'm very protective and loving and will lay my life on th line for someone i Love.

Dee

Honestly i was in a abusive relationship b4 all my family & friends stood by me it took 4 long yrs to finally get it to stop even though i left him at the start,but when one of my friends was in a abusive relationship i tryed to help but she didnt want to know now she"s still in that relationship and its still the sam so somepeople dont want the help...

SPW_83

I am studying to be a social worker and I have seen these situations all the time. Personally, I would talk sense into my best friend or family member if I saw the signs of abuse in their relationships. What is really crazy, sometimes these women simply WILL NOT leave their spouses/boyfriends when they abuse them. There's a thousand or so reasons why these women do not leave, so I won't even write about it. However, what I have noticed and have learned is that men who abuse seek out weak women. These women give the vibe that they won't do much if these men abuse them. Remember abuse can be defined in several ways, there's other forms of abuse vs. physical abuse. I seem to think I'll never get abusive guy because I'm crazy I may snap and bull out a knife or something hahahha, but yea to your question I would def. try to help a loved one from abusive situation.

Janet W

The problem with abuse victims is that they usually try to defend the abuser. It's almost impossible to reason with them. I would definitely call the police if she had bruises or marks but that's about as far as I would go. Not because I don't care, I would be so worried about her, but I know it's pointless. The police can't even do anything unless they see the marks or bruises.

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