Advice Please? Should I let him walk away from me?

Lake Lover

His answer sounds like b.s. to me. If he were mature he'd pursue you if he was truly interested. I'm wondering how old he is and how his previous relationships went - what his goals are - does he want to settle down with one person or date around. Hard to tell since you didn't give many details. I don't think it makes sense to spend time on an individual that isn't giving back to you though.

Respect his wished but remain his friend.
Keep contact but give him space.
Only time will tell.

amy_smith_bsw

Try and talk through this until you both feel sure you are making the best decision. The issue is likely more complex than it first appears.

xdrunk_againx

if you feel connected with him, dont just forget him and dont let him leave. ok so he likes you, but if you feel so connected then i think that means you feel something for him too. and if you dont, tell him how you do feel and that hes such a good friend and means so much to you. people that make you feel so comfortable like that are hard to come by, dont just let him leave. hes just scared, and you need to show him he shouldnt be

kpax

This is a hard situation, do you love him and think he is worth it? Is this a person you would like to be part of your life and future? How long have you been together?? Talk to him, ask what are his fears? IS something wrong in the relationship, do he love you? Tell him how you fell. If he responds or what evere he ansewrs and you can deal with that and maybe change something, maybe it could work. Go on.. you have nothing to loose. Good luck.

aloysious

I've been there, done that. He's not ready, may have baggage. It's best to move on. After I got over my "issues" I've regretted blowing off at least one of the ladies I was with, if that's any consolation.

thebulktiny

Sometimes people need some space. Other times they have moved on with another relationship and do not want to hurt the other party. I would give him no more than one week. At the end of that week make an appointment with your local minister or the minster that married you. Maybe he can help you work it out. If the man will not accept this and go with you, throw him to the curb and keep on going. There are better fish in the sea that donÂ´t stink.

sunshine girl

let him go he obviously does not care if he can walk away so do what is best for you and move on u will find someone who will want to be with you

ead824

If you are asking than let him go. If there is any doubt in your mind on how you feel or what you want to do, forget him.

kaala79

Let him go. Sounds like an excuse to me. He just wants to end it, but doesn't want you to get hurt. He doesn't sound interested. There are men out there that will give you their all! Good Luck.

prancingmonkey

do you believe that? c'mon! Go find a grown up boy

Mike Hunt

He probably has baggage that would severely affect your potential relationship in the future. I would let him know that you would be open to taking things further when he is ready and let him come to you.

karekare330

tell him you care for him as well... reassure him you won't hurt him. obviously you're not as connected as you thought you were if he's feeling insecure... talk to him about it.

Georgiegirl

He is afraid of emotional ties. He does not want hurt. Also he is being selfish with himself and you. Closing oneself off does not guarantee no pain throughout life. Explain that you are have feelings for him too. You want him to stay but can not promise for the rest of your life you will not hurt him. Be open and honest.

Joe

yea, you should just leave him alone for a while

EMT

If he really likes you or as they say love you and you let them go. They sohould come back if not then it was a game to them.

really_confused

this example is apt for your situation however hard it might sound, i guess it's perfect advice for you.
' SET HIM FREE ! IF HE COMES BACK , HE BELONGS TO YOU , IF NOT THEN HE WAS NEVER YOURS'
So just let him go, if it is your destiny to be together, then u will!

prawn_headed

move on... if he does loves you he will not say weird thing like that.

kirakira8

Let him go. You can't "not let him get away" because he is going to do whatever he wants. Let him know you miss him if you like - but only once - them say goodbye. He'll come back if he wants to.

bluez

Interesting............tell him how you feel and then be done with it.....let the ball be in his court. It could be how he truly feels or it could be a lie to get out of the 'relationship'. Good luck.

greenbaypackers1920

just walk away and go he said that want to end it now and not want to get hurt cool you are free woman!!! go go.... if he got hurt or try kill himself or something tell him you told me want to end it now and you didn't want to get hurt and now you doing it. I am not going though this crap.

Just go and If you want to stay with him then that would be the biggest mistake ever becasue if you find somone even better than him an dthen you can't break up because you are with him smile.

Maestro

To be perfectly honest, if he is having feelings for you...why would he want to walk away? It doesn't make too much sense to me...even if he has a fear of getting hurt, you don't walk away from someone who you have feelings for because you can go through life without really getting to know anyone that way...I'd let him walk because I think there is something more he isn't revealing

City slicker

if he was starting to have feelings for you, maybe you should see what the actual issue is? then make your mind up after thinking about it.

JACKIE M

Well, as the saying goes let him go if he was meant to be with you he will be back and if he doens't then it wasn't meant to be. I know it is hard to let go of someone you care so deeply about but, wouldn't it be harder to try and hold on to something that really isn't yours? Good Luck!

boxing_fan_4_wlad

Yes, you can't force him, too much drama is why hes leaving, everything is risk versus reward.

sassy1

remind him it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.if you have true feelings for him fight for it.if you cant let yourself love you cant let yourself live.its like not driving for fear of an accident.life is about taking chances.but if you only feel for him as a friend let him go or he will get hurt.

wrdsmth495

He's not reliable. Maybe he's not ready for a relationship.

Either way, he can't be depended upon at this point in his life.

Don't let yourself get hurt. Just walk away...and find someone who really wants to celebrate having feelings for you instead of being scared of it.

wayouthere

Tell him that life is full of pain. If he is worried about getting hurt, then he will never live. Try to find out what he's really thinking.

Then if he doesn't accept it, you'll have to let him go because you can't make him love you; however, don't lose sight of him and close yourself off to the future possibilty of a relationship.

Love doesn't always show up exactly at the same time for people. He's at a different point in his life than you are. Keep yourself open but don't wait around for him. Just be yourself and try to be happy with your life.

Hope this helps.

piggystizzles

honestly you should let him go but still be friends with him and maybe later hell realize that hell never find someone like you but just dont let him disappear from your life you would be good friends then and can love each other and be together and you never know but never let someone like that leave your life at least be friends.

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