Afraid of husband after fight?

Answer This!

Yes your wrong, he was saving your life, they could have stabbed you or something, maybe he went a little over board with it, but he was defending you.

They grabbed and threatened you, i would hope most husbands would do what yours did in the same situation.

Katie

Of course you're wrong!!!! If this is even true, he was protecting you. I would hope to see such fury in my man's eyes if someone ever went after me like that... it means he loves you and will kill for you. It's not like he went after you. Chill out.

CableMan

IF anyone EVER grabbed my wife like that, they would be taking me to jail for murder...

You are not wrong, you have never seen this part of him before and it scared you. He loves you.

D and G Gifts Etc

Yes, Your husband did what any loving husband would do he protected his wife. When he hit the first guy how was he to know what the second guy would or would not do? So he took action first to protect you and himself. And if you are going to hit somebody the rule of thumb is to make sure you do a good enough job that they are not going to get up and kill you. Your husband was in no way wrong. If he was the police would have arrested him.

mr_nice_guy1125

Just be glad he's on YOUR side. I don't know about him but I don't know if I could live with myself if I didn't defend my girlfriend like he did you. And you HAVE to freak out on these people. Otherwise they'll lick their wounds and do it again to someone else. Next time, those two will think twice before trying that ****. He saved you and probably dozens of other women.

DJ.

Not afraid. You might not have seen him llike that before, but dont fear him. It is clear that your husband loves you a LOT, and would **** up those guy's faces to protect you. He probably would even have killed them if they laid hands on you. Don't be afraid, he protected you. What you got there is special.

emmie

Wow. What an awesome husband. He's been with you this long and has been "the kindest, gentlest man [you've] ever known." The only thing that could make him change was someone threatening his wife. Be proud, girl - you got yourself a real one.

Pam

He definitely overdid it. But he was also in a position of protecting you from being harmed by these 2 strangers. Not an easy position to be in. Even kind and gentle people can get physically violent when they sense danger. I would talk to him about it (without being accusatory - he was looking out for your safety after all).

fanofozzyosbourne

Yes you are wrong......He was defending you, not hurting you. You should be proud to have a man that would protect you like that :)

killerspec

I am married for 4 years now. I am sure that my wife ain't seen me angry as of yet, but in saying that if someone came up and did that to her I would react the same. It only goes to prove just what you mean to him. Talk to him and ask him what happened. By the sounds of things he loves you more then you know and only wants to protect you.

Hope you sort it out and I think maybe he is in a little turmoil over it as well.

Tracy M

I'm sure that was shocking to see that side of your husband, but he was protecting you from harm. Don't automatically think his fury will one day be directed at you.

arklatexrat

I think you should count your blessings that you have such a brave and strong man who is willing to put his life on the line to protect you in a crisis situation.

If that rage were ever directed at someone innocent, that's a different situation. But I will tell you that I imagine my husband would have acted the same way (unless he were carrying his handgun which he holds a valid concealed carry permit for in which case he wouldn't have needed the BBQ sauce bottle), and that I would expect him to come to my aid if necessary.

Would you rather the homeless guy have beaten you up and robbed you both while your husband stood by and did nothing (or ran and called 911 or something?) Please, get real!

By the way, I think if I were you I would pick a different grocery store to shop at (or at least a safer time of day or something) from now on!

aa889d

Sounds like he was protecting you.

Unless he has exhibited this type of behavior TOWARDS you, then its not in his nature to do so. If a couple of bums placed a hand on my family member(s) after we politely refused to give them money, there'd be police and ambulance involved as well.

Once a guy starts fighting for some reason (especially his family), its going to take a lot to stop him.

Again -if it was me - I probably wouldn't have stopped beating them until the cops came and pulled me off of them. For all he knew - it was two vs one. Better to have fists (and BBQ sauce) of furry in that situation. There's NO such thing as "kinda" fighting. You're either walking away, or your trying to KILL the other guy..... well he was protecting his wife / family and was in category #2 at the time.

alley792001

I wouldnt be scared of him he was protecting you

C_DOGG

Yes your wrong. he was protecting you. don't judge him to harshly for protecting his wife. I would have done the same thing.

lisalisa, your awesome!

Hurting and Unhappy

He was protecting you, so why so afaid?
Is this the first time you seen his temper?

cant wait !!!!

you should not be afraid. you should feel good that your husband was protecting you. the guy called you a bad word and put his hand on you. you should love your husband more for keeping you safe.

BLKBELT1

dont be affraid of him, when a man feels someone is trying to hurt someone he cares deeply about he will go to no end to save that person. in this case his job in life is to provide and protect you. He would have died for you that night if need be. when someone fears loss of that magnitude that will stop at nothing to insure your safety. I would have done the same thing if that happened to my wife

jeffrhodes

He seems very protective of you. How does he react when people treat you badly? Maybe the whole event reminded him of something in his past to trigger such an outburst. You could ask him about it. Since he hasn't acted like this before, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

I got answers!

Yes, you're kinda wrong. He was protecting you....be glad he was there.

Fergy

You stated that your husband is kind and gentle to you. So if I were you I would keep those images of him and mark this incident down as a man protecting his wife, which is exactly what he was doing. I would like to think that I would take the same kind of action for my wife. I would not want or allow anybody to touch her either like you were touched. So why you have this fear of your husband is beyond me. It may not be fear that you are experiencing but rather shock. You might feel very lucky and blessed to have a man who loves you enough and will protect you as he did. You will be fine after this initial shock wears off. I don't like violence either but this was protection for his wife. No more. He will not harm you at all. If you can't see that then you are not looking hard enough. (smile)

averagejoe

man someone put their hand on my wife they way you describing i would have done the same

phatchick182004

He was protecting you, there's no need for you to be afraid of him. I can only hope that my fiance would do the same thing for me.

lizanull

I think that anyone who grabs your shoulder and calls you b@#tch is the one who better be afraid! Some of the most "kindest, gentlest" people you've ever known can go into a killing rage when someone they love and care about is threatened in any way. Your husband was probably afraid also (his behavior to the contrary) but when he saw that guy touch you and call you a bad name, he just lost it and his fear was replaced by anger that a total stranger would have the audacity to lay a hand on you and insult you. WOW! I think you saw a side to your man that you've never seen before - the side that says "I'll kill or seriously hurt anyone who does anything to hurt or frighten my wife."

St. Kitten

It sounds like he's very passionate about you. Testosterone and that. If he ever lays a finger on you, though, get out.

Cassius

Don think you need to be afraid of him since he acted that way to protect you.

Alwyn C

His anger wasn't used against you, he was protecting you. If you are worried about his anger being used against you, then don't get into a fight with him.

PATRICK C

He went into protection mode!

don't worry about it- talk to him about it--- he was just scared that something would happen to you. I'd do the same to someone if my wife or kids were in jeopardy- or what I thought was jeopardy.

KNCArmyWife

Welll... Im glad your ok :)
I wouldnt be really worried about it. People are really protective over the ones they love and he probably thought he was protecting you and got carried away. If he has never shown any signs of aggession to you, I wouldnt worry too much. Talk to him about it- if he is as nice as you say, it shouldnt be a big deal.
If someone did that to me my husband would snap too...

Graham P

There is no need to be afraid of your husband, because of this situation.

If he has never hurt you before he most likely never will cause any serious harm.

The situation he was put in is a different context. He may have felt he had to go overboard or he might have had a bad day and/or he might be very protective of you.

My father was a professional killer but never hit a woman in his life as far as I know, although his temper when giving orders to people e.g. when captaining a boat was more heated than needed.

He also had the evenest temper in social situation if someone was trying to haress him.

People act diferently in different situations. Most likely he saw the love of his life in strife and the animal in him came out. My father these days wanders around in a frilly apron and duster in hand.

Guys are more naturally prone to moments of violence than women, whilst women are more prone to taking long term revenge on their enemies.

If a man is constantly violent or is shouting you down, or purposely intimidating you al the time, I would be concerned.

I am a very placid guy, verging on the sissy; but I have moments when I want to hit a woman, or feel a need to lash out viloently.

I might occasionally break something in frustration, but the only time I recall hurting a woman was when I was being hit and the girl hurt her hand.

Your bloke sounds even more good tempered than me.

Your emotional reaction (of being scared of him) is quite common and understandable but you really have nothing more to worry about than before the incident.

Just to be on the safe side, make sure he hasn't changed medications recently or is suffering from pent up stress, he hasn't discussed with you.

Just give hime a nice massage, to relivieve potentail stress. Even if he isn't stressed he hill likely appreciate the thought.

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