Am I a bad person?

eyebum

Yes.

Inda

Don't feel bad, you're not a bad person. You're just human, with certain needs. Obviously there was something missing in your relationship, and you tried to communicate it to him, and he did not listen. If he thought you were that important he would have listen. That was his mistake. Now you getting married so soon, I think you should have taken a little more time to think it over. They say that you should at least give yourself a year and a half, to really get to know each other. Hope it really works out though.

Rabbit Ritto

Accept the fact that you did hurt him...BUT there comes a point that you have told him to stop and he hasn't. Tell him next time that you will get the law involved if you have to. Your sorry it worked out the way it did but you want to be left alone now.

bones54

You're an awful human being. What's wrong with you?

imacutiey

yes u r cause how r u going to leave ur boyfriend of 2 year for a man u just met and go off and marry the other man???? if the tables were turned how would u feel???

irishlad

Your not only a bad person but an ****** too for getting married because you just don't sound mature enough to cross the street by yourself

usmchawkeye

lame

athorgarak

hurt happens
although he hurts, it is silly for either of you to spend more time and energy worrying on what might have been
are you a bad person? WE ALL ARE BAD PEOPLE!

Geo06

i think you should be more clear with him .. you hurt him .. did you really loved him ? why to stay with him for 2 yrs and then to leave in such a harmful way ! anyway i think you were selfish but there is what is worse .. dont care it goes with days !!!

JoJo B

Your not a bad person. It is always best to tell the truth even if it ends up hurting someone. He would have found out sometime, and it's best that you were the one that told him. It is important that you are with the one you love and not in a relationship with someone you don't. Staying with the other guy when you really loved t... would have made you a bad person. You did the right thing and are not a bad person.

Alex-wine

you could have told him a lot earlier... and even if he didnt wanna listen, you sit his a** down and MAKE HIM...
now, to tellyou the truth, you look bad...

i feel bad for him,,whats his number..?
:)

EIliot

Well no I don't think you are a bad person because men do this all the time and in even more cruel ways. I however think that you should have been upfront with him when you left him initially and even now that you are married. I don't mean to be a skeptic but I wouldn't want to marry a man that I met at my office or left my boyfriend for since 1) He met you at work and he will probable meet someone else there also. Just that you would not be the one this occasion. 2) If I was he I would have been cautious about you doing the same to me.

I don't think its what you did but how you dealt with everything.

sooner

First of all, was he a bad guy? Do you still have feelings for him? I think what you did was horrible. To leave one man for another that fast is cruel and very lacking of character. You should feel bad you took a man who was with you for 2 yrs and tossed his heart to the dogs. I'll be surprised if he ever recovers from this. If you were with him for that period of time he was totally committed. He took his time to make sure you were the one for him, and didn't rush you to make difficult decisions. I hope you don't have children, because the one you dumped was pro bally the better man and the children will let you know. You may have lost the best man you ever met because of an affair that turned into a slam bam thank you mam marriage. How would you like to be his shoes or try to live each day knowing the pain you caused.

Brooke F

my opinion your not a bad person, but not a great one. you could of handled the issue in a better way. when you tried to talk to your ex boyfriend he probably didnt want someone else liking his girlfriend and his girlfriend liking him back . i mean would you want some girl hitting on your husband. But he does need to move on and get a life-you found your husband and your ex needs to find a good and loyal girlfriend that he can depend on.

rosebud1320

He's going to hurt and you hurt him. But you love this guy and you married him, this is life and sometimes it hurts. He'll get over it eventually, but be patient with him, you borke up with him and then got married 5 weeks later. You have to give him a break.

sedonalove

He'll get over it in time. Time heals all wounds. (And wounds all heels) It was better that he heard it from you, rather than someone else. You are not a bad person, and don't be blaming yourself....it takes two. Maybe if he would have been more attentive, who knows.....
Good luck and stop feeling bad for yourself.

Matt

Yes.

davionmw

girl, you got issues, how can you marry someone, you only been creeping with for such a small amount of time, you need to watch out for that ex-boyfriend, do you look at the news, people are hurting other people, because they were hurt, change your phone number, change jobs, stop calling, move out of town

David T

Hey, you said you tried to talk to him, but he didn't want to listen. That's not your fault, it's his. You did what you had to do. Don't feel bad for it.

NutstersChick

Well, he did have 2 find out.
Better from U than from Someone else.

terribletm

yes way bad married him already your also nuts

QuestionWyrm

I've been trying to become more assertive recently, and in my reading, one "rule" comes to mind that illuminates your situation.

Other people's problems are other people's problem.

His life is not your problem. You have no obligation to make sure this guy is healthy and mentally fit. You have no obligation to make sure that he succeeds in life. It is his problem to get over you. Dating someone does not mean you are now responsible for their life. Breaking up with someone doesn't mean you are now responsible for their feelings.

You should tell this boy that you are done with him, tell him that he needs to live his own life and you are living yours. Tell him that he needs to move on and that he is not your problem. If he continues to call and harass you, call the police.

Eternity

You are not bad.He'll get over it don't worry.

kim

it don't make you a bad person just inconsiderate. It was very inconsiderate of you to find another man and move on with him while with someone else. That is cheating and so don't be surprised when one day the new husband cheats on you too. What goes around comes around. Just apologize to this ex-boyfriend and maybe he will move on. He probably feels bad about himself is why he is still after you because you made him feel like there was something wrong with him.

Babygirl

You did the right thing so ur not bad and if he didn't want to hear it then u should let him go or ur just messin' up ur marriage just 'cause he wants u but u got a special someone in ur life........

a_chic45102

so i don't get this u known this guy for two weeks and u marry him???? well the truth is u never did love the guy were with then because there is no one is in love with smeone and then all of a sudden u go with another guy that is crazy personally i think u need to actually sit dwn and talk to him and tell him that ur sorry

fuad_enjoy

u r not at all bad, , , what u have done is , very kind for him that u told him , what exactly happened , , , , u might b very very bad if u didnt reveal this to him n continued to have affair with ur ex,,,,,,,,,,,,,
now u must b satisfied n u shud b
what happened is a fault not urz but both of u were not genuine for each other coz u were inconsistent and he didnt give a damn to hear u.......................... happy ending for both of u

ndmac

Yes.

Mean Carleen

I dont know if your a bad person but you are a cold person. You left a man you been with for 2 years for what reason cus I didn't see any written and you marry some dude after a few weeks, AND dont have the balls to tell the ex that you were going to marry him. Your feeling guilty because you KNOW you did this man wrong. Shame on you.

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