Am I a golddigger for wanting to marry wealthy?

çµç¸ Heemei

Honestly, I don't think you're. You are doing what anyone with a good head on the shoulder would do. I can't imagine why would anyone want to marry for "Love" only? You want to marry for someone who can provide a good environment for your future family. Biology gives woman the ability to carry their children and have to stay home with the new born for a certain period of time after giving birth, a man who cannot afford not having a wife not working just doesn't cut out to be a family man. If you look at certain birds, the female will choose the male that can make the best home for it's young.
My mother told me a story when I was growing up, there once was a girl who is madly in love with a poor artist, she married him with only
Love" in her mind. They lived a hard life, she finally grew weary of this type of the life style and asked her husband when she can get to have a meal that will fill up her stomach and a shelter. The artist then drew a two paintings of a house and table full of food for her and told her, that's all I can do for you with "Love"
The moral of the story is telling young girls, Love is nothing but a short spark, life is the long reality.

Mark

If your love of money is greater than your love for that person, then you are a golddigger. It's not wrong to want to be financially stable and secure but to make that a number one priority seems like a crazy idea for me. If you marry for money and he looses all of it due to health or accident, would your love turn sour? I can live life without money but I don't know how I could survive without love. Without love, everything seems like a total waste. Remember that the love of money is the root of all evil and the scriptures says "The just shall live by faith" which means you are going to have to trust God that he will provide for all your physical and spiritual needs.

ozncj

Yes if you just want to marry wealth then you are a gold digger by definition.

a woman who associates with or marries a man chiefly for material gain.

To me a marriage isn't going to work if you don't know how to be broke together....everyone has ups and downs even wealthy people. Money doesn't solve all problems. How about this....meet someone you like and see where it goes. You can always make more money. Just make sure he has a career or at least a steady job...but to not date someone because he isn't wealthy enough...you may be looking for a long time.

hunter849

Yup, ur a gold-digger.

If u want $, here's an idea, why don't u work hard and EARN it urself?

NONAME

Yeah, you're a gold digger.

BeeBee

educate yourself become financially independent

do not look to other people to take care of you otherwise you are at their beckon call

grow as a person then you will find a great man not a sugar daddy

Heidi [B2B 5/31/09]

It's all what matters to you in your heart. If you have what the man that has ALL those attributes wants, sounds like you guys are set. Good luck finding that man though. Women who "want it all" usually never end up finding it because there is usually one thing missing, real or imagined.

When I got together with my fiance, I had no idea he was financially well off until over a year down the line. I was 19, he was 20, and already owned a home - but didn't tell me until we had an established relationship. So don't be surprised if this guy keeps that stuff personal until you've gotten to know each other.

Jane D

I think you have your ideals all wrong. Okay so you have had many generations in your family who have had to struggle. Your not alone here. and yes more marriages end in divorce now a days but its not just the poor. wealty do too. I think you would be cutting your self short not experiencing love in its full degree and loyalty . so much more than money out there. If you want it that bad who's stopping u from making it on your own. but not with a hand out and not for the wrong reasons to use some man for the al mighty cash. you can be self reliant and you can be assertive and make your own way rather than riding on someone coat tells . this is not right this is wrong. You think God would be okay with how you want to do this. NO he would not.

thats an easy way out and its not all glory and party times . thers lots of sadness that comes with it. infact sadness in anything rich or poor . I'd re think your choice.

4REEE

You are NOT a gold digger!

It's all about anthropology. You want to make sure that your offspring won't get sand kicked in their faces at the beach, if you get what I mean. Survival of the species... All of that stuff.

BUT, please consider the counterpart to this: If a guy has $$$, good looks, personality, loyalty, chemistry, and a strong spiritual life, you better be a 10!!!!

If you're fat, ugly, don't take care of yourself, in big debt, but you're a loving person, he isn't necessarily going to sign up for that.

Guys tell me, "Women are gold diggers. All they want is money." I tell them, "Hey! Knock it off. They can't help it. They wired to desire security."

Gals tell me, "Men are all alike. They just want a good looking gal with T & A." I tell them, "Knock it off. They can't help it. They are highly visually stimulated."

It's a 2-edged sword!
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