Am I cheating?

totallylost

Maria, I don't want to hurt your feelings, and I certainly don't want to judge you, but honey, you just asking the question-gives you the answer. You are cheating. Why doesn't your husband know about your friend? About the occasional lunches and such. Because it's cheating, and you don't want him to know. You haven't done anything physical with man, and I am happy to hear you turned down the drink offer. But emotionally you are sharing time with another man, You are sharing more than lunch or riding together. Do you love your husband? If so, I would break this relationship off. You are becoming to attached to this man, and eventually it may lead to something else. It may not, but are you willing to risk your marriage. If you and your husband have drifted apart and you are searching for something that's he's not giving you, there's nothing wrong in that, if you aren't together. Your husband should know things aren't right, and you should leave. Don't turn to another man before, giving your husband the respect he deserves. Don't cheat, that is the most hurtful thing you can do to someone you onced loved. So, make some tough decisions.....If you want the marriage, then honey, go home and make things right, seek counseling if you are missing something. If you want something your husband can't give you, then give him the freedom to go and look for someone too. Please think about you! What you want? What you need? This other man is married. This involves a lot of people, so please do some soul searching........God bless us all............

Diggs

You are cheating. It's just called emotional cheating!!!! Didn't Brad and Jennifer's break up teach you anything?

ben s

yes that is cheeting tell him you are going out with a co worker
for lunch

kim j

Actions always speak louder than words!!!!!!!!!! every ones interpretation of cheating is different. If u don't think it is cheating then maybe u and ur husband and the man and his wife can all get together and talk about it. Good luck and be careful!!!!!!!!!

pplelavender

No but don't let it go any further you're just flirting

Suzi W

Why doesn't your husband know anything about this? If you haven't done anything yet, you want to.

WENDY G

Nothing wrong with a flirt as long as you don't cross the line! You need to ask yourself how you would feel if it was your husband with another woman doing the same thing.

Timberhawk Man

I think you may be on the verge of cheating.

aSh_=)

nope not really ur just flirting

michelle

if you want your marriage to last then you better hope he dont find out. even though you are not cheating just think how u would feel to find out your husband was hanging out with a girl from work and going to lunch with her....YOU KNOW YOU WOULD BE VERY HURT AND PISSED OFF. i really dont think you should be doing that because it will end up in a bad situation.

If you're keeping things a secret from your husband or your doing things with this other person that you wouldn't do with your husband in the room, then yes...you're cheating.

strong_beautifulqueen

It is cheating if you know that your husband would not agree to it or be happy with it. You have to judge yourself on these matters, you know in your heart if you are cheating because your guilt would convict you. but think if your husband was playful as you are with another woman, would he be cheating?

bettiepagefan25

No ... right now its flirting.

CowboyBill

You are a married woman that would kill your husband for doing the very same thing to a female 'friend' if you found out about it.
Stop it.

miliscal123

you are not cheating yet but stop right now

sammy21

NO just coz your married does not mean you cant have a life! have a laugh with other men its innocent

Erica M

Not yet. You're about 2 houses down the street from cheating. Right now you're still at "Nearing Adultery Lane"

Hypercutie_2

it might be not phiscally cheating but if u have feeling for him then ur emotionaly cheating on him and u could be friends

momof4

In my own opinion if you do something that you would not do in front of your spouse that is cheating.

k c

No, you are not cheating. But it looks like you are about to be. I think you need to figure out what your feeling are for this man, and what is lacking in your marriage that is causing you to develop feelings from someone else.

Anna Nichole Smith

if you have the concern that you are then yes you are

cmac

no it is not cheating but sounds like you could easily cross the line. spending so much time with him and not telling your husband means it could happen. and secretly you may want it to happen or you would not be spending so much time with this man, you don't want your husband to know about. it is a secret.

kitkool

well then go ahead and tell your husband and then you will have your answer.

Archangel

Well would you like it if your husband was doing the same thing with a woman and not telling you? Would you consider it cheating? Rule of thumb for a happy marriage, don't you do something you wouldn't like your spouce doing! My 2 cents.

gravytrain036

Tell your husband what you are doing with this man. If, you read that first sentence and thought NO WAY, there is obviously a reason for it. If you can't tell your husband about this "friendship" then most likely you are feeling guilty. Why would you feel guilty? Well, because selfconsciously you feel you are doing something wrong. So, yes I would call that cheating. If you thought, "well ok", then I wouldn't call it cheating. I would call it a prelude to cheating, you know, its hard to keep your hands off those handsome married men. lol

chris m

The fact that you have not told your husband shows that you think it is wrong so I would stop before it really becomes something.

serpy

NO, but you might be leading up to it.. And your husband should know atleast that you have a "friend"
The fact taht you are asking means you are feeling a bit guilty..

jdsb121305

No not yet but really the question would be if your husband did that to you with another girl would you feel like it was cheating always put yourself in the others shoes and then ask yourself how you would feel if he did that to you and then you will know if it is right or wrong

luvmuffin

NO QUESTION U ARE CHEATING!!!!!!!

Nurse Betty

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That is what matters. What does your conscience tell you? And are you OK with what it is saying?

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