Am I doing the right thing by getting married at my age?

SAPPHiRE

you're the only person who knows the answer to this question, if you are having doubts i would suggest not to go through with it, but if you love him and are 100% committed to making it work then marry him. just remember you are young and you shouldn't rush into anything. if he truly loves you, he will wait until you are ready to take this big step.

scrappy06

if you really are ready to get married, then you wouldnt think that youre going to do the wrong thing or even be worried about it. maybe yall need more time before you go all the way througrh with it. if not, yal could argue more saying you cant do the stuff you once done and things like that. think about it long and hard and see what your parents and friends say, because they are around you more, so they would have better judgement on the situation then i do.

Baxter

If you think you'll be missing out, this might not be the right time. But only you can make that decision.

Marriage is meant to be permanent. Longer than living somewhere, longer than a haircut, longer than a career. Longer than it takes for a baby to grow up and get married and have kids.

Til death do you part. Or divorce, which can be even more painful than death.

A wise man once told me, "Don't marry the one you think you can live with. Marry the one you don't think you can live without."

Talk to your mate if you have issues. If you can't, or you're uncomfortable talking openly, RUN! Your mate will be your mirror, your thermometer, and your image of God for as long as you're together. Make sure it's the right person.

See my previous answer regarding the ideal mate for more information.

skyler

if you are questioning yourself then you are too young to get married. there should be NO doubt about it when you get married, and being 21 you will miss out on things especially if you have children right away. I thought i was ready at 21, and i'm now 27 and look back and think how stupid i was to think i was ready at that age. You grow up so much and you learn a lot about who you are and what you REALLY want in a relationship. I'm not trying to talk you out of your engagement, but just make it a longer engagement until you are 100% sure of marrying this man. Congratulations =o)

Newlywed

you are doing the right thing but however if you question about it maybe you arent ready, take some time to think if ths is really you want.

LILMAMA

Well...I'm 21 as well, engaged and i love it. sometimes I'm scared but we know what we both want but if at any time i changed my mind about this i would definitely let him know. if you have any doubts then maybe this isn't something you should be doing...Think about it. Weigh the pros & cons. Do think the love will last a lifetime?? maybe you do but want to explore other options. you need to speak with him. for all you know he may feel the same way. Good Luck & God Bless!

kandigyrl

I cant tell you what to do how long have you been together? If it feels right go ahead or take the time now to have fun so you acn settle soon

d h

I don't think that there is a "right" age to get married. I've heard people that were in their mid thirties refer to themself as "too young" to get married.

You're either ready, or you're not.

If you're afraid you'll miss out on something else, then you're probably not ready for marriage.

Divorced and looking

21 is a good age... but maturity is the key... just be sure you are both ready and understand this is for life... don't be like my ex.

tigerchick411

It depends how mature you are at 21. Ask yourself that. Are you getting married for the right reasons. Or just to "be married"....not good to do it for that reason.

Rubber Duck

Run, run as fast as you can. Save yourself. If you really care about the guy, don't ruin him with marriage. Good luck kid.

Afraid??? then don't do it cause if you do you will be wishing you didn't later down the road!!

Jessica

Are you guys ready financially...that is very important. Most divorces are a result of money problems anymore.

peacfulwar

You should be fine, but your the only one who can honestly answer this question. Trust yourself!

whiskeygrl319

When in doubt, get the heck out! Not being smart, but if u are worried about missing out on something else, then you really shouldnt do this.

Precious

as long as you are in love and know that you mean you are in love go for it

Msdeb gee

DO YOU LOVE EACH OTHER ?if so get married i was 18 when i married my husband and we have been happily married for over 28 yrs do you miss out on some things maybe but it doesnt matter if you are w/the love of your life
my son got marriedat 19 to a 16 yr old girl i wasnt happy cause she was w/child but they live w/ us and he goes to college and she is about to get her hs diploma with home school and go to trade school and they are very happy .... my oldest son got married in jan he is 26 and his brides is 20 and they are happy but i will tell you this ,make sure you have things in order in your life GOD your spouse your fly then friends if we do that things are just a o k god bless

jsha2424

i don't know why you would be in a rush. live together, finish school, make a career then focus on family. my opinion good luck though.

sheskiistoo

I have no idea what your experiences have been, nor your beliefs about marriage and life, but I can tell you a little about mine.
I married at 21, I overlooked my flaws and his. I felt he could satisfy my insecurites, and I thought I could change him into the man I wanted him to be. I was very wrong. My insecurities about myself increased, and it took me a long time to realize that I could not change him.I didn't think anyone would have me as I was, and I had often felt that I'd settled for a relationship less than what I really wanted.
If I could do it over, I would not be in such a hurry. I would date more men, casually, before thinking of such a committment. I
My suggestion is to give it some time. Wait until you are sure. An engagement of a year or more is not uncommon and it gives you time to remain committed until you are ready to take the next big step. (Don't start planning the wedding just because you are engaged, give it time!)

SmartyArty

you don't sound ready.

browneyes12399

I asked myself the same question I was with my bf for forever and it just felt right. Best thing to do is dont doubt yourself once you decide. i was 19 and now im almost 21 and weve never been happier. Make the choice thats best for BOTH of you. and dont regret your decision, just because you wait, doesnt mean it cant happen. theres nothing wrong with a really really long engagement.

wiazardofoz

I got married at 18. Needless to day we divorced 6 years later and 2 kids. I was way to young and had that gut feeling not to do it but we had been together from my junior year at high school. I would follow your gut instinct!! I anything you feel says not now do not do it. It's not like your calling it quits between you two, just slow it down till you feel ready. Good Luck.

bay area curious george

Twenty one is way too early and your affection with your bf is still infatuation. You both need to mature some more. Wait at least a few more years and when you've both into your careers.

SweetPea

As long as you two love eachother and understand that a marriage should be FOREVER, then it's okay. Good luck.

Calvin the Bold

Every one has their time. You should think about your current financial situation and make your decision accordingly.

Good luck.

Blondie<3

if you really really love him and know in your heart that he's the one then you better cause think of your life with out him.I lost my love and now im so depressed. Dont make the mistake of letting him go if you really and truely love him

Mean Carleen

you keep using the word afraid...that sums it up for me. Twenty one is young to get married and if your doubting it you shoudnt do it until you are SURE your ready.

sar

If your responsible and can support yourself right now with no help then yes your'e ready otherwise have a long engaement and take it slow what's the rush?

dukalink6000

Well, I understand the need to begin a family, but make sure you are getting married for the right reasons, and not merely because you're 21.

kitcat

It's not so much your age but it's your mind. If you are not sure have a long engagement. No one says that you have to get married as soon as you get engage. Some people take year after engagement. I would however recommend pre-marital counseling. This might help you put to rest some of your questions. Congratulations

feel_n_learn

It seems like all these questions and concerns your having at this moment, that inside, your not ready quite yet.

In your heart youll know when you are ready, youll have no doubts, no questions, no concerns, you'll be just....ready.

Take some time, dont set a date yet, let these things and worries dissolve before you jump into something big like marriage.

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