Am I horrible, should I end it?

I met this great guy a few months ago and we get along great, we go out on dates and have a blast and we talk and have lots in common.
One day he apologized for lieing and told me that he was married...he said that he didn't want to lead me on and if I didn't want to talk to him anymore then he understood.
I had already felt so close to him and was more attracted to the fact that he told me the truth before we slept together as opposed to after. I told him that we could still just be friends.
We went out again and we since have slept together more than once. We talk everyday, but I feel bad now and I just want to stop sleeping with him.

We have great conversations. He gives good advice, we share lots of things in common. He is a really good guy (despite his infidelity) and I hate to lose his friendship. But I don't know if we could still be friends and not sleep together.

Should I end this totally? I need help.
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This is good stuff you guys are dishing me. Even the worse responses are good. It's what I need to hear.

I really AM a good person, but I have experienced alot of wrong done to me and became sort of numb to how the the wife might be feeling.

Cause I have been the woman who was cheated on and I felt like no one thought about me, so why should I think about any one else's mate or significant other.
But deep down I know that is the wrong attitude.

I still have some hope that there is a guy out there that won't cheat. SOMEWHERE, but in the meantime I probably shouldn't hold on to this guy because he's the "best" of the garbage that I have tolerated in my life.

I hear you guys talking, please keep it coming I need to hear it all. I need it to sink in!!!!!!

Thank you ALL!!!!!

time to move to google

you are providing him with a vital ballast to his life, you are even helping his marriage! in a society where things were not shoved under the carpet this would be somehow incorporated into your lives. but where we are it is not fine. it is as "not fine" as it would be if you were married to him and the other woman was writing this question. i thing you should break it off altogether and let him scramble to put the peices together, even though yes, friendship, love, etc. etc.

ladyme

Definitely end it! Only girls with low self esteem go out with married men. You deserve much better!

Allison, aka Nice Lady

You want to be "the other woman?" You trust the judgement of a man who cheats on his wife?

Get out of this and grow up. Tell him to go home to his wife and be a good dedicated husband.

Miss America

End it now. He is married! Relationships that begin with adultery are doomed to fail. It will only bring heartbreak. I'm sure he is a great guy but someone else thinks so too (his wife). Find someone who is free to pursue a relationship free of deceit and guilt.

Kathy R

Put yourself in his wife's shoes. How would you feel if your husband was cheating on you? Walk away now before you destroy a marriage.

regina_lie81

Just think it. If you are his wife, how do you feel?
Then decide it yourself, do you want to continue it?

nite_angelica

He's a really great guy? He's a freakin' liar and a cheater. Where in that equation does 'good guy' come in?

All he did was wait until knew you were hooked before telling you he was married. He didn't have this 'moment' where he knew he just HAD to come clean about everything. Please... you are an idiot and I'm guessing you are far from the first or the last.

I guess keep seeing him, because the bad karma you have created for yourself is going to come back and bite you in the azz big time. When women see married men, they cause their own self fulfilling prophecy of not being able to trust men.

Stupid, stupid, stupid.

myourchisin

of course u should end it....either that or he needs to end his marriage. its just not right

apples

you fell for that... hahahahaha. he is NOT a good guy. and you are NOT a good person... and I'm not going to validate your behavior and say sure its ok to screw another womens husband...

karma is a *****... you should remember it will be your turn someday

Mrs Anthrope

You already know what the "right" thing to do is - you're just waiting here for one response that says it's okay to keep screwing some other woman's lying cheating husband.

Then you'll keep doing what you have already rationalized in your own mind.
"Just be friends" - you need to just be honest with yourself, if there's any hope of you being a decent person who respects herself..

Hope he's still a "good guy" when you're the wife he's cheating on...

man with questions

put yourself in his wives shoes...how would you feel about your husband sleepingwith another woman and beign close firends with her

Rachel

Totally end it. Immediately. This man is married - how would you feel if you were his wife? Don't let him sway you. Move on.

A Yo B

End it. He has his Kate and Edith too. Sorry his cake and he is eatting it. Trust me he is using you and his wife. Get out and find someone that can be all yours all the time.

possum_chops13

In my opinion - stop sleeping with the guy. You don't want to be "that woman". Be friends if you want to, just don't have intimate contact with him. If you can't just be friends - then end it totally, right now. I'm sure he's a great friend to you, but he's a cheating mongrel to his wife. His wife deserves better, and so do you.

bwah-ha-ha

You know the answer! You should end it! That "bad" feeling you are experiencing is called your conscience and it's meant to morally guide you through life... you also have free will, so the choice really is up to you. You can chose to ignore what you know is right, or you can do what you know is right... he is using you by the way! -just so you know.

stinkinggenius2003

Like Santa says

Ho Ho Ho

KTCM

If you feel like you need to ask this question then you already know the answer. This is poison! If you continue you will be the "other" woman forever. Of course you need to end it. He lied to you - he is lying to his wife. Don't waste another minute on this - you need to find someone who will be faithful.

How would you feel if you were his wife and he was sleeping with someone else. He is just a wolf in sheeps clothing. A smooth talker, a player!!

Break away and never go there again - YOU ARE GOING TO BE THE ONE HURTING IN THE LONG RUN~

Thomas

you had the chance to end it when he told you the truth that he was married. why you slept with him that is way beyond me to understand and now you wanted to stop sleeping with him.

Yes, you should end it totally!! No more friendships, talks, and dating.

Suzie

Yes, end it. You are hurting someone. If you have ever had your heart broken you would not be doing this. Also, karma is a ***** and someday, you will pay.

doz

End it!!

If he was going to leave his wife for you he would have already done it.

Lily

Yes, I think so. You are helping him commit taboo. It's not good. You'll be better off if you end it. Don't get too attached or you'll be hurt even more deeply.

Wendy Jean

I don't think your horrible, your human. You fell for someone and then when they told you the "dirty" truth, you still had feelings. I think that is being a woman, we get so much more emotional than men about most things. I understand you like him and all of that, but do you really want to be the other woman. You don't have him, his wife does. Know what I mean. He can't be there for you if something goes wrong, your sick or whatever, you can't call him just whenever you want to talk, there will be times when he can't see you because he has a wife. If he is unhappy in his marriage, then he needs to deal with that problem first, then you and him can date after his divorce. He probably has no plans to leave his wife, he has his cake and is eating it too. I think you should just walk away while you still can. You deserve better!

Beatngu

Good guy, except for the infidelity thing?! Are you kidding me? He is scum, he is a piece of.... TRASH. (and that is putting it nicely)

If he was a good guy, he would have never slept with you. Not once. Because good guys respect their wives and the vows they took. Good guys also don't lie. So, you have a liar and a cheater and he is still a good guy to you? Open your eyes....

Tell this man to go home to his wife. Tell him to not contact you. And you, stop messing around with a married man.

MyMarriageRocks

You are not a horrible person. But stop sleeping with a married man!! You don't want to be a homewrecker. If he leaves her Ok then you can go be with him. Until then stay away!

You need to end it and find someone who is single.

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Put yourself in his wives shoes?? how would you feel about your husband sleepingwith another woman??? So end it is the right decision you could make, because in the long run you will be hurting your feeling.

45 auto

He played you like a fiddle? To get you in bed>
If he has such great conversation why don't he use it with his family>Dump the cheater> And get yourself respect back>

S&H

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