Am I in the wrong?

scott_v1963

Guy rule doesn't apply here since he's not your friend.

It could affect your working relationship, but that may not matter to you.

She's fair game.

Super Mom

Yaaaaa, it is very wrong. That is one of those unwritten laws! There's plenty of fish in the sea, honey. Get out your fishing pole and start fishing in another pond.

cheetah7

Well technically it's not wrong as she is his ex but I'll tell you this, you will definitely be in an awkward positon, especially if you still work with this guy. You should probably give him a heads up only to be on the safe side. Just remember that you don't need his permission to date his ex. You just never know what kind of tricks he might pull.

baby_star78

Be careful you may want to find out why she is his X-wife.

Yeah....I think it would be very bad if he finds out and decides to kick your a** and then get u fired. Don't do it. Hear a saying today that goes something lke this "a mature person does the right thing when no one is looking."

dakotanmisty

As long as you follow the "man code", and make sure your buddy knows your intentions, then you aren't doing anything wrong. That way, it will eliminate any rage from him finding out through the grape vine. He doesn't have any claim to her, as an ex; but there could be latent emotions.

kim d

YES

killer_duchess

first, ask him if he still loves her. then tell him that if hypothetically a friend asked her out, what would he do. if he says it is okay then tell him that you have feelings for her b/c if you don't tell him then it could ruin ur friendship wit him.

CowboyBill

Change jobs and knock the bottom out of it!

gmpranis1

It's not right. He'll feel betrayed. With so many fish in the sea, don't get tangled in someone else's net. Do the right thing.

Marty K

Yes, it is wrong to ask out any divorced woman, unless she was faithful to her husband and he broke their vows by being unfaithful. A good rule of thumb is to not do it, and the fact that he's your friend shows a lack of class, and you would be playing the role of a fiend (no "r"), not a fRiend.

In other words, it just seems like being an advantage taking opportunist, in my opinion.

colecole1979

do the respectable thing don't. it's trouble waiting to happen. but if you want to be silly do it, and do her good. b/c if ur not doing her good, when the s%it blowup, she will run fast. give her azz something to think about.... if and when the s%it hit the roof..... the roof is on fire, you gonna need some water,, cause ur azz gonna burn.. Don't be second, don't eat his crumbs, don't be crumbs, you eating off his plate, I don't want to be second choice do u????

cwgrlmeiniowa

go for it

devil_queen_biatch14

if she is involved with someone else then yes its wrong

zether

nope, not wrong to ask her out, not wrong at all, go for it and have fun

berry

Yes, go ahead and ask her out.

Iceman

DAMN STRAIGHT IT IS

monroe1172002

I don't think so. I don't think it's wrong to ask anyone out as long as their single!!!

d h

You said he wasn't a friend.

I live in small town, and there is always a chance of a guy that works in the same building as me, meeting my ex wife and dating her, or this scenario may have already unfolded.

Part of having an ex wife is coming to terms with the fact that other men are going to date her, and in fact, maybe men that do not know you personally, but know who you are may date her.

How this guy reacts may effect your work relationship, as he may become angry. If it's been quite a while, maybe he won't even care.

Personally, I wouldn't do it, but I don't think you're in the wrong.

physandchemteach

Not if she has been an ex wife for at least 3 or 4 months. You don't want to look like you have been waiting at the gate. Since he is not a true friend, there should be not problem with it. You may want to be prepared in case he does ask you what is going on.

irishlad

No you are not wrong but there is no need to throw it in his face and you should go to places where you will not run into him. He need not know.

Glitter Fly

Nope not at all.

Dr who

If he is not a close friend and she is an X go for it.Whats to loose unless it doesn't work out with you and her.

alya m

if she is free, why not! But..is she the only free woman left in town???

addicted2stamping

I don't think so. I mean that is his "ex". I suppose if you can take it or leave it, and don't want to offend him, just run it by him and ask how he would feel about it.

I'm just me

I don't think so. If he was a good friend, I'd say ask him, but since he's not, no, I don't see anything wrong with it.

Kitty

No, of course it's not wrong. He doesn't have ownership of his ex-wife.

bad guppy

go for it, man. life is short, and u don't see the guy that often.

bluez

Go for it - but be prepared for him to say something.....even though he has no right......

alexnadra

no, it's not! go for it! especially, if you have noticed signs that indicate that she's interested in you! Good luck! On the other hand, if you don't feel ccomfortable, ask a common friend of yours to ask this particular guy about the whole situation and if he would mind if his ex goes dating.

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