Am I overreacting?

radiancia

In my opinion no you're not. So many people will be like oh whats the problem, are you insecure dont you trust him etc etc but honestly is it so little to hope for a bit of loyalty and devotion to you (especially so early on!!) I would be offended by it and it would probably make me a little cold towards him in the physical department for awhile too....

star_gazer

TEll him if he goes then your girls can go to a girls strip club where men strip. SEE WHAT HE SAYS.

lilshrtcke2001

Give hima condom and let him know that you now own 1/2 of everything and that if he wants to go he might want to pick the best one there and keep her cause you are keeping everything else. He should be doing what makes you happy not trying to cause scars so early in the marriage. I feel you have chose the wrong one and you will see this later.

Brian W

Tell him that's fine but while he's gone you are going to strip for some guys on webcam.

west

be upfront and ask him what would he do if you were to do the same

Shawna S

No! You are not overacting.......Bachelor's parties are for BEFORE the wedding, and he missed out......Of course, you can always strip for him...........

SassyGirl

I dont think your overreacting AT ALL! your married now, and mind you, not even married for a couple weeks yet.. so I would tell him it would mean alot to you and to the start of your marriage, if he doesnt go...cousins or no cousins, there will still be some naked woman rubbing her ya-ya's all over his face.

Rhonda N

I say no-I had this issue too and I told my hubby when we got married that I was the only naked chick he would ever see and vice versa-It is a respect thing!

NoMaD!

The bachelors party is suppose to happen before you get married, and is a backwards tradition anyway. He is married and shouldn't have any reason that's valid to have half naked women hanging off of him. I don't think its overreacting, how would he feel if you did that to him. You need to communicate your feeling to him and he should listen and try to understand. In my mind if I knew it was something that would hurt my wife I wouldn't do it out of love and respect for her.
-NmD!

Lady Hewitt

No you are not over reacting at all. I would not want my husband doing this to me and to my marriage. Be honest with him and tell him how you feel and ask him to please not go. If he really loves you he will not want to hurt you this way once he knows how much this really bothers and upsets you.

sushihen2

no, you are not overreacting. The reason a couple gets married is because you love each other and you dont want anyone else and you dont have the desire to go looking at others. Ask how he would feel if you were to go to a strip joint and get all hot over another male? bet he couldn't answer that honestly.

mahassa84

No you are not overreacting girl! You need to set him straight right now! Some celebration he gonna go up to that club and get him a lap dance and all fix it up girl or he will be gon fo eva o.k. e-mail me amd i want to see how it turns out.www.mahassa84@yahoo.com

Barbo

No, you are not over reacting, but here is what I would recommend. Play along with it and tell the cousins that you want to send him something special at the club. Then when they are there slip the manager a 50 spot and ask him if you can do a stage dance. Not only will this suprise your husband, but your bound to pick up a few bucks along the way.

Good Luck and let us know which club it is and when.

:o)

wingedladyk

I agree with you . It should of been done before. I dont trust those places. stand your ground and if he has any respect for how you feel, he wont go. If he still does, well then you know the real him and how he will be in the future.

notyou311

You are not over reacting. There is no such thing as a "marriage celebration." He is just looking for an excuse to go to a strip club. You both need to set some ground rules now, or this marriage is in trouble. Just 9 days and he wants strippers? Terrible.

No your not overreacting, you are techinally still on your honeymoon.

Lauren S

Have you told him how you feel about this? Maybe if he knew exactly how you feel maybe he would change his mind. If not, talk to his cousins and let them know about your feelings, maybe they won't pressure him.

jenny

I would say yes you are.

So you think you know me!?

NO! You are not over reacting....Think about this....if you decided to let him go just this once he's going to want to go again and again....once you let him go he's going to think it's ok to go more and want to as well!

No.

Pandora

He's not going to touch, just look. So yea, you are overreacting. Make a deal with him, if you are insecure. Tell him he goes on a 'late bacharlor party' you have a 'late bacholarette' party..sounds fair to me, and you'll BOTH have a good time! Just remember, no touching ;)

Clarkie

you are over reacting

Erum Mishkat

Phartzalot

You are definitely overreacting.

skywings

let him go. i have married for 6 years and one thing i have learned (possibly the biggest thing) is to never show your insecurity. tell him to go, have a good time and be back by 1. show if that you are confident enough in the relationship (and yourself) that this is not an issue. you have to start out with trust, without it your marriage will be an unhappy one.

incognito

Unless you don't think you can trust him, then I think there is a bigger issue than the strip club. As long as you feel he will behave, and he comes home to you then there is nothing to worry about. Matter of fact why don't you go out on the same night to a male strip club with the girls then no one can be the accusser.

waiting for baby

Please let the man go
at certain time it is best to show some pride
remember one of these days you might want to go out with the girls

Poppet

I have let my husband go to a strip club for a bachelor party. It was a one time thing and he had a good time. He spent most of it outside in the van w/ the keg...he ran out of money. (lol) I had all his plastic money, so all he had was cash....once that ran out...well the establishment asked him to leave.

pisceswoman87

I think i'd be pretty upset too.

imaginative_1life

if you confuse feel with you're husband,why you don't told him.i want to go you together at the party,and end you're all's problem right,

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