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jacksmom
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I'm going to tell you exactly what I told Ashley in her post. This is almost exactly the same question, except you're older and have been together longer. I feel kinda guilty repeating myself, but it's a good answer and it's almost the same question. I hope you'll forgive me.
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think it's fine. I was married at 17 (my husband was 19). We're still together (a little over a year and a half) and we're doing great. It's not a question of age, it's a question of maturity and the willingness to accept the commitment. If you are both willing to accept the responsibilities of marriage, then it's fine. You need to talk about what you expect from each other as husband and wife, and discuss the way your lives are going to change (if any).
People say it's too young and that you haven't done what you wanted with life yet. That's ridiculous. Modern society preaches that marriage isn't neccessary at all, and that it just "gets in the way." This is a lie.
Since my marriage, I have had a son, started college, written a novel, and continued my fulfilling career as journalist (which I had started during our engagement).
Marriage does not keep you from doing the things you want to do. It offers you a constant companion to enjoy the journeys of life with, and the stability of knowing that you have someone who will comfort you if you fail, or cheer you on if you succeed. Someone who will be there, no matter what.
Don't give up on something wonderful because you are worried about the future. Don't pass up the opportunity to marry someone you love because you think in 10 years you'll get "bored" and have an affair. It doesn't work that way. Marriage is work--you have to work to keep the flame burning, and work to stay interested each other. But it's the most enjoyable, fulfilling and rewarding work you'll ever have to do. People who get "bored," "cheat," or "stop loving one another" are just too lazy, and give up easily. My mom was divorced 3 times, and on my wedding day told me it was only because she lost sight of what she was fighting for. She told me to never give up, because as long as I keep trying, those things won't happen to me.
You've got to be strong, but you sound like a strong woman. If you're still in love and still wanting marriage, do it!!!!!!!! |
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DEE DEE 29
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No you are not. If you two are still in love and both want it, make it official, I say go for it. |
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rencar32002
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I don't think it's too young to get married. But you are still young. If you don't have any children you should wait a few years before you plan on having them. The only reason why I say this is because I believe married couples should get to know each other as a "married couple" first before children come in to the picture. If you guys know each other since you were in high school and you know each others family well, that does help. But because you are asking the question maybe you should wait another year or so until your more comfortable with the idea. Think about it. And of course any fears and/or questions should be discussed together. Because when you do get married discussing issues together is definitely a must. Hope this helps. Good Luck! |
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jacksfullhouse
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No way, you can get married now. If you are financially stable, I say do it. |
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~J*me~
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No my parents got married at age 20 and 19...they were together all through high school and they are still married with 3 kids... |
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babygirl
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I would say no. I got married when i was 21 and we have been married for 6 years now and are still happy. If you love this person and want to be married to each other go for it. You are an adult and are old enough to ger married |
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♥NF♥N♥TY
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if your mentally mature and can take the married life responsibilities then your not that young at all for marriage. ;-) |
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William K
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Wait a little longer. Not as long as my wife and I (I was 45 and my wife was 33, and this was 8 months ago), but do wait. The older you are, the more likely the marriage succeeds. |
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>((>Fishy Face <))<
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It depends on you two and how sure you are of a future with each other. |
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Jeancommunicates
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You are the right age to marry. |
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flowergirl
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no it's a perfect time to get married! |
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mama
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age is only a number its more about maturity. If you and your partner are positive that this is it, and you can be honest with yourself that their are no big "deal breakers" happening now, then go for. But only you can answer your question. |
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Dan821
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I say that you are not too young, but you should consider all of the issues like money to live on, kids, etc before you make that commitment. |
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American Beauty
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You probably aren't too young, but you may want to wait a while, since you sound rather hestitant about it. Enjoy your freedom a little longer, before settling into marriage. Think about it. |
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Mommyof4
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Please don't listen to the people who tell you marriage isn't worth it. They are SO wrong. Marriage can be wonderful if you are willing to commit to making it work. Don't get me wrong, marriage isn't easy....no relationship is easy. You have to work at keeping your marriage strong, but it is so worth it. Marriage is great! I love being married. I married my husband at 17 years old (NO! I was NOT pregnant). We've been married nearly 19 years and I love him more today than I did when I married him. We have a FABULOUS marriage. Not an easy marriage, but a great marriage.
Only you know if you are ready for the commitment of marriage. And only you know if your boyfriend is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. No one can answer those questions for you.
Good luck! |
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pnk517
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Only you can know the answer to that. Speak with a counselor, or someone that you trust.
Don't be in a hurry. The divorce rate is through the roof, and it is getting ridiculous. |
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ekbensah
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No, there is no such things as "too young" once you hityour twenties; if you both love each other, then go for it! Be happY!!;-) |
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KACL 780
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Ignore the statistics. If you both feel that it is right, you both want to do it and are fully aware of the consequences and, most importantly, you both love eachother, then get married!
If your relationship with your fiance is anything like mine with my girlfriend - no fights, always able to work things out, enjoy eachother's company, laugh together, cry together, inspire eachother etc - you'd be mad not to stick with it!
If it feels right, do it - to hell with what the cynics say!
Best of luck! |
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YinxSphinxmen
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Nope! I think that's definitely a decent age. Go ahead with it! I hope ya'll work out = ) |
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JesJ
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I just got married at 23 last September (just turned 24 in January) and My husband is 26 (about to turn 27). We were together for 6 years before we got married.
I definately say it is a perfect time in your lives to get married because you're still young enough to spend time alone toghether just the two of you before having children (if you want to have children)
Good luck & Contratulations to you and your fiance!! May you share a lifetime of happiness and love! |
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Goodfellar
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OLD SAYING.......Follow Your Heart........Love has no age limit..... |
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JessiePoo
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I'm 21 and I would marry the right person. I don't think its all about physical age. Its more about mentality and if you know the person well enough, are you willing to spend the rest of your life with them(at 23 you should have a LONG time left) But follow your heart and don't rush into to anything. Give it a lot of thought.. the good and the bad. |
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Michael H
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You are not too young. In fact, if you have been with your fiance since high school and you are 23 that would mean that you have been with them for aproximately 5-6 years minimum. Most marriages that fail, do so within ther first 4. So what are you waiting for? Your not getting any younger. |
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KB
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No not at all if you feel that you're ready to then go right ahead!
Good Luck!!! |
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everythingszenidontthinkso
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your not to young. my husband and i have been together since high school to and we got married at 23. we have been married for 3 years and we wished we would have done it sooner. we are very happy and we have come to the conclusion that people who say your to young to get married are jealous. if you really love someone you should be with them no matter what other people think. |
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Dee
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If you love her and she loves you, GO FOR IT! 23 is not too young to be married. We see kids who are 17 getting married and you my darling are 23, plenty mature for a marriage. My brother got married at the ripe age of 21 and they are about to have their 3rd child and are going strong! Good Luck! |
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cool321steve
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do you want to be with her in 50 years? - if the answer is yes then my answer is yes? if you hesitated or said no - then the answer is no. |
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Pearlinpc
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By you even thinking that you may be too young is an answer in itself. Since you didn't give details it is imposable to give a direct answer....... Marriage is a very serious step for anyone. a step, not to take lightly. Questions you have to ask yourself 1- Do we enjoy everything together ?(same interests) 2- Am I willing to give up my social life and settle down? (all to often your single friends fade away). 3- Will I be able to work on our marriage daily? (more often than not this does not happen....love is like a fire and if you don't stroke that fire daily it will die out). 4- Do you see yourself with the same lover 40 years from now and speaking of lovers are you compatible in bed???? If not marriage will not improve that area of your life. 5- Will we grow closer as we grow older? I could go on and on with questions to ask yourself..... Think long and hard......answer these questions and you will know what is right for you. |
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jessica
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Absolutely not!!!!! If you love your fiance, then just go with your heart, mind and your gut, not what your friends and relatives say!!!!!! This is your life not theirs!!! |
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yellowjeff
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No. |
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hushnowjustplayit
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It depends on how mature you both are and if you are both capable of supporting yourselves.
It's possible to make a go out of a marriage from being high school sweethearts, but sometimes the problem with that is that you might wonder what it would have been like with someone else, that it, you haven't done much comparative shopping. |
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