Am i a bad husband or not?

SimpleGirl

You're not a bad husband if you really just wanna clear your head. But considering the fact that you are going with a female friend, I don't think your wife will like that. Keep in mind that this marriage is as stressful for your wife as it is for you. You are in this boat TOGETHER. What I would advise you to do is to plan a trip with your wife instead. You can leave your son with the grandparents for a day or two and go on a vacation together. Never lose the romance, dear. Trust me, it works wonders.

donotbuyakia

You are a lousy husband. You are leaving your wife to have fun with another woman, when you admit it is hard when both of you are sharing the workload? I don't think it is possible to be any more self centered.

dudleydo

Yes you are being a bad husband, you think you are stressed, I cannot imagine what your wife is going through. She will find out that you are going on a trip with some chick and your marriage will be even worse. You are selfish and you need to grow up. Your responsibility is to take care of your wife and your child, not take up with another woman for a week, or a night, or a day or any time. You want to go on this trip because you want another woman, why don't you admit it????

MissE

If you were my husband the divorce papers would be waiting for you at your arrival in mexico and the locks to the house would be changed.

alice

I think if you go,,,, you will regret it the rest of your life. I think it will be the wrong thing to do and that you are a selfish inconsiderate person who is a cheater at heart and you just want to pleasure yourself, going with another woman, whom your wife doesnt know,,,,,why doesnt she know her if youve been married for two years,why are you hiding her....i bet you would like to clear your head , .....ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION : YES yes and yes your a bad husband and a POOR EXCUSE FOR A MAN.....and a shitty father too

Nina

So you are going on holiday with another woman so you can relax????
Why don't you relax with your wife instead. Don't you think she could use a break too.
How would you feel if she went on holiday with another man?

Do this and you will put a severe strain on your marriage.

v_kay_666

there is no nothing more, you shouldnt go and youre not a bad husband for wanting to get some free time, but you are bad for wanting to go to mexico with some random chick

jlcjd

if your wife was in mexico with another man you didn't know while you were home with the baby, i don't really think you would like that. if she can't do what you are doing, then you probably shouldn't be doing it. probably not a bad husband, but making some bad choices for sure.

U have not still been a bad husband..see i think u felt bad because she agreed to you and in ur mind its like she doesnt know its a female and u r feeling guilty...i think u should stop the trip and why don't you and ur wife go for one...if u can give ur baby 2 ur parents to look after u can definitely go...and remember marriage is never stressful...u or i would we people make it stressful...

purplerazor

how do u intend to clear ur head when u going wit sum booty? hmmm, someone's asking for trouble

Logana

Shame on you, you know this is wrong.

Colleen T

I understand why you are stressed, lots of major events for you over the last two years!!! However........ bad choice of timing of a holiday( so soon after having a baby) without your wife and child and bad bad choice of traveling companion!! You are setting yourself up for trouble.....big trouble.........and I think you know this already.....Be honest with yourself. Really think about this trip, and think about what is most important to you....it should be your wife and baby........if you must take a break how about getting the grandparents to look after baby for a few days and take your wife away so that both of you can relax together.....All the best.

Mystique

Introduce your friend to your wife & let them bond so that she can see what kind of relationship you have with her, then if all goes well it should not be an issue. It might happen, but I doubt it.
Just put yourself in your wife's shoes. How would you feel if you were staying home with your baby & she decided to go 2 Mexico with a guy that you didn't know? Would you honestly be ok with it?

Katie P

I don't know of any woman who would let their husband go to mexico with a female friend, you're just asking for trouble. would you allow your wife to go on vacation with a male friend? and don't say yes it won't bother me, because deep down in your soul you know it would bother you, all kind of thoughts run through your mind, if I was you I wouldn't go, by not going you might save your marriage. why not take your wife on vacation? you could still clear your mind, good luck,, I hope you do the right thing.......

Spindrift

You are trying to get us to give you permission, to validate your plans, and frankly, you know what you are planning is horrible and a total betrayal of your wife and son. Shame on you. You say you need to relax and clear your head, what about your wife? She loves you she gave birth to your son, what about her need to relax and clear her head? The best thing you can do for her is to call off the trip or take your wife and son with you instead. To answer your title question, yes, you are a bad husband. A real Frankenstein.
If you find yourself unable to do the right thing and you go ahead with this bogus trip that you lied about, and if it was really to clear your head, you could just as easily go with a male friend so you are even lying to us. Why not free your wife and divorce her, move in with your female friend and support your wife and son, but let her be free to find someone who has honor and morals and who would genuinely love her and your son. You are despicable.

Tori

just for the record i may let my husband go to mexico but definitely not with another woman let alone a woman i do not know....but i don't find you wanting time to relax a bad thing...it does not make you a bad husband...but remember that she has been married for 2 years and has a child as well...maybe she wants to relax...see if you can get your parents or hers to watch the babe for a couple nights and stay in a hotel and relax together that may make both of you happy and a way to relax as well as reunite...good luck...

daydreaming

You should not got but you should have some "free time" its better you get nanny or a grandparent for little while and you and your wife take a short vacation. Maybe to some resort close by enjoy it.

rosetta222

wtf is this question a joke? that is a thousand percent not ok for you to do. why dont you take your WIFE and baby with you instead? or if the baby is too young, just wait a year or 2 to go and in the meantime you can all take a weekend trip someplace close and calm.

your wife just had a baby omg, she's probably still breastfeeding, definitely getting no sleep, is going through a lot of changes in her body physically and emotionally.

if you go on that trip you are being a really bad husband. sorry to be so blunt but the fact that you would even consider that esp with another woman is incredible.

bzzzymom

Good lord. Please do not go on a trip with another woman!! Being new parents is stressful but you guys need to be helping one another right now. She will definitely feel betrayed if you go with some other woman.

You can go clear your head alone or with a guy friend. Why do you want to go with another woman?

Brunette wife

Your a lousy husband for going away with another woman even if she is just a friend which i dont believe anyways.

If you need to go on vacation go with a guy friend.

What the hell are you thinking.

Piggy

Mexico? A bit dangerous in the current climate.

Nadia

In my mind, everything was fine until the last couple of sentences. So to answer your question now is YES, you are bad for doing this!

You are decieving her by not telling her who you're travelling with! My gosh how stupid can you be! If she ever knew this, this could ruin your family.

Men! Some of them are sooo stupid! And you are one of them. How can you justify this and thinks its OK? I feel sorry for the baby. His father is a selfish individual who cares about noone but himself.

Andrea H

Maybe not a bad husband, but you sure are an immature and selfish one. You are a father now, so time to grow up buddy boy. If you want to keep your marriage, you will cancel this trip. But sounds to me like you want out. I feel sorry for you wife and son.

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