Am i a mistress?

Katie G

sounds like he doesn't want to pay child maintenence or anything - loser. Sound like theoretically you area mistress but not really.

Pit Bull

Mistress..........halfway between a mister and a mattress.
Is that how you see yourself?
Surely you can do better.

NATIVE NEW YORKER

I DON'T WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS BUT IT SEEMS TO ME THAT HE HAS HIS CAKE AND EATS IT TOO......YOU MAKE IT TOO EASY FOR HIM. HE WILL NEVER MARRY YOU. WHY SHOULD HE? YOU GIVE HIM EVERYTHING WITHOUT MARRIAGE.

Saint

No you wont. Get a new man, preferably one who isnt married. ()

flyboop_2000

Probably not; this guys sounds like a skeezeball, especially since he's dodging his wife and kids. If I was you, I would lose the guy before you get involved and your life turns upside-down.

Lucy

yes you are a mistress, and it sound to me as if you are not getting what you wan tout if it, leave him and find someone who wont want to keep you a secret

Gossip81

YES

raftart

NO NO and NO! this man is using you, wake up and smell the coffee honey. x

angelhart47

He has a wife and your not her so yes your a mistress. He's living with you but yet he's gone back to her a few times. What does that really tell you? He's either to cheap to pay what he'll have to pay when he divorces her or he doesn't want to divorce her. Why should he he's got it made how things are right now. Your there for him, his wife's there for him. You allow him to come back when he feels like coming back to you and he'll just continue to do this as long as you welcome him back.

Caroline

He is your live-in lover. If he is still married to her, then of course he is committing adultery. 'Mistress', 'lover' etc are just words. Sort out what you want from this relationship and tell him!

lisa

no it will not find someone new.if he has not got a divorce by now he wont get 1 .if he cares bout u he would introduce u no matter wut the consqenes .but i think he may have sum 1 else on the side

Fox Hunter

first you are a home wreaker and second yes you are a mistress.

But I do like your style Purdy is such a classy name

baby girl

I went through a similar situation only my dude is not married things c`hange if you have the patience to wait soon hell become tired i don't feel that you're the mistress if he is staying with you but no one wants to be a secret he's hiding you for more than just her bleeding him dry there is always a way around that like going to court and getting a divorce if they have not already. A dude always back tracks it's in their nature they think once they leave they are missing something but that's the way it is

tryinghard

Yes you are a mistress. Ask yourself if this is all you deserve?

It won't ever be 'normal' until he leaves her properly and is not afraid to let the world see that he's with you. Tell him to get a damn good lawyer and sort it out. Good luck.

Jenn C

NO IM 26 BEEN THERE HAVE A CHILD BY MARRIED MAN. HOENY HE USING YOU LET HIM GO U DESERVE SO MUCH MORE FOR YOUR SELF

tjtwix1

yes your are his mistress sounds like he has got his cake and eaten it , if he hasnt left his wife after 2 yrs he never is . if he truelly loved you , you wouldnt be a secret

confused1

did you ever think about that wife and them kids, can u even imagine what you did to them? they must feel heart broken, and that there father doesn't love them and there mom.. u have absolutely no idea how it is for them.. god.. and that man left his family, if he left a wife and kids don't be so shore he is not going to leave you...

seattleman

Mistress...hard to say. I'm not into labels or judgments. I understand how these things can just evolve and there never seems like a good time for him to tell his wife that it is really over and he has moved on. So, he is a chicken. This guy needs to grow a pair. He's been gone for 2 years, so the wife must know that he could be doing whatever...and he is...with you. Although it's been ample time, you remain his dirty little secret because he just doesn't want to deal with having to tell his wife and kids. It's the path of least resistance to just put it off until tomorrow. It's not as much the money as he makes it sound to you...his story is massaged in an effort to make you feel a certain way. If this really bothers you and you need it to change, then you'll have to make change happen. I suggest you move out until he comes clean to everyone with all this. He will either make it work or you'll be free from this quandary. I mean if he's a liar and a manipulator, then he is capable of doing the same to you later on. If he won't be up front with his wife and kids about his realities, then who needs it?

mjcchef16

yup you are his mistress

whatever2006

well duh!!!! Of course you are the mistress

nico

not anymore, as long as he doesn't go back to her again

laraldm

sounds like you are a mistress to me

shellysnapz

after 2 years separated with his wife and he's still keeping you a secret...hmmmmm i don't think your a mistress but he should fess up and start paying for his kids...plus if he goes back again....tell him to stay there and you find someone who wont keep you a secret any more....your wasting your time with him hunny...don't let this guy keep you a secret any longer..

sashtou

I think it will only be different when it blows up in his face ~ and you might quite likely come out worse off.

You'd best seek the truth ....and make your moves accordingly.

Best of luck.
Sash.

cheyanne

no it will not ever be normal if you were dating him knowing he
was married. if he left his wife for u and u knew he was married
in the first place but u still pursuied this relationship, what u
take from other will be taken from u in the same manner

brunette1706

yep - your a mug!!!

3GOLDS

Yep, you are the other woman......You really can't help who you fall in love with can you??

If your BF really loves you....no matter how much money or or what this will do to the kids....shouldn't matter. You guys would work all of that stuff out.

You need to ask yourself is this worth it? If so....give him an ultimatum.....
This is not fair to his wife, his kids and you.....

Your life could be normal.....get this sorted out!!!

Renoguy

I would not say that you are a mistress, but I would say that you need to pay attention. Things will most likely not change for him because you have proven to him that they don't have too. He gets to have you in secret and then go to her anytime he wants. You allow this to happen so there is no reason for him to change. Sorry!

crazygirl3k

if he loved u that much he wouldent keep u a secret u tell him he as to choose and tell him u will not stand for him running back to his ex wife all the time i hope it works out for u good luck hun x

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