Am i too young to have a baby?

CeciliaM

Having a baby is no way to show someone how much you love them. He has to want this baby as well. Does he want to have a baby with you right now? He may want to wait a while since you are both still young.

And I don't know where you are from, but $20,000 a year isn't much, especially to raise a baby.

ronidl76

LOL....hold on...........LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do you really think $20,000 a year is alot of money? Give me a break, kid. Of course, you're too young. You don't even know what it takes to raise a family, as you shouldn't since you're only 17. I predict you'll get pregnant, get married, and be complaining about your husband not staying home or helping you or his cheating in 2 years. Do yourself a favor and grow up before you bring another life into this world. Where the hell are your parents, anyway?

Mrs George Clooney

well if i were you i would wait
I was 19 when i had my son and it was hard hard hard!
Infact there are NO words for how difficult it is to bring up a baby when your still a teenager yourself

Enjoy your youth AND your freedom before settling down

Sunshine

Wait 7-10 years.
You're very tied down with babies...why rush it?

alanolney

Well judging by your question you are too imature to een consider having a baby. Grow up a bit first and your only 17. Get a life first before you consider bring a child into this depressing world.

Golis

Are you asking, "Should you get pregnant?"
no ... wait a bit (having a kid is NOT the way to get someone to know you love them... there are MUCH better ways)

Are you asking, "Should you have an abortion?"
no ... keep the baby and start your family

Wise up! Just how far do you think $20,000 a year is going to take you? The fact that you think it's enough for a family of three to get by on tells me that you're not ready for this step.

Your parents will likely be disappointed because you're making permanent decisions at such a young age. No offense, but most people your age really don't know what they don't know. You will now have given them more to worry about.

Think about the baby, too. He or she is a whole other human being that you are going to be responsible for, and that child will have more needs than you can count. Becoming a parent means that your life is no longer your own. Be prepared to make a lot of sacrifices and for your relationship with your partner to be put under extreme pressure.

Have you discussed this with your partner? He may not be ready to take on such a challenge. Perhaps he'll want to settle into a home and enjoy life as a couple, learning more about each other, growing even closer, sharing and setting goals. Those are often the times that older married couples look back on with such fondness. You would be robbing yourselves of that joyful time. Please don't do this.

Smooth Lyrics II

20K a year is NOT stable! That is less then $10 an hour! Unless you live in Mexico, that isn't going to get you too far! Don't don't it!

wizjp

20 K for 3 people isn't stable.

Under 21 isn't stable

wait

random mentalist.

very yes

Leigh08

YES you are way too young - and a $20,000 a year job isn't ****. There is no way that could put a roof over your heads, clothes on your backs, utlitiesat your house, supply a car for you to drive, cover insurance, food, diapers, formula etc. Do you want to have a child and live off of other people tax dollars? B/C that is the road you are headed down. If you told your mom and dad this they would probably think you are insane and band you from seeing this boy agian. Or better yet think of charging him for RAPE b/c you aren't even legal yet.

corny

If you need to ask approval from strangers then in my opinion it is the wrong thing. Wait a few years until you have qualified and then think about starting a family. Good luck

Kitty

No, you're fine... Just make sure your trailer has room for a crib! (And tell your b/f to stay out of jail for a while.)

Truth Hurts

20,000 only sounds like alot because your young. but its not enough to raise a baby. wait until your out of school and if you need to have a baby now to show him that you will be with him forever...dont get married.

formersalt

Give some thought to the idea that when your friends are going out for the night, you'll be home taking care of your little proof of affection.
Wait awhile, get your yaya's out, have fun and be 17. You won't believe how quickly the age of 17 is just a distant memory.

lolljayne

what is the rush? finish your studying, party, get a job and have some fun. enjoy yourself while you can because having a baby is not easy. live a little first.

paradox

My man and I make 4 times as much as your soon to be husband and we wouldn't have enough money for a baby. Concentrate on buying a home and finishing school if you really love each other a baby can wait.

Ann D

$20,000 - where do you live? If you think $20,000 is financially secure for 3 people then you are sadly mistaken. A trip to Disney World alone costs at least $7,000. The answer to your question is YES... you are too young to have a baby and if you think that by having a baby will prove to him just how much you love him, think again. You have your whole life ahead of you to have children. My advise to you would be to be financially secure first. Finish school and enjoy your marriage. Your mom and dad would be a lot happier for you if you were secure with yourself, your husband and your future. Life is tougher then you think. Children are a lot of responsibility and are very expensive. Do a search on line to see what it would cost you to g=have a child for a year and I bet it would amount to almost half of your fiancee's salary.

Jenn

It's completely the wrong thing to do.
You are too young.
Your parents will be furious.

i think u too young, give it a few more yrs before having a kid. the decision is really up to u too.

having a baby to prove your love is not the right answer. 20000 is not "quite financially stable"
You and your fiance need to decide together when the right time to start a family is. 17 is pretty young but only you know if you're mature enough to start a family.

Yvette D

I think you should enjoy each other more before you make any decisions that you may not be too much sure about....A baby is huge part of ones life..You should try to take one step at a time....You will know when its the right time for you to get marry, have a baby, and be an ADULT....Don't rush your life....Enjoy every spect of it....

If I were you I would wait at least a couple of years and enjoy your life while you are both young there is plenty of time to have babies after you have lived a bit yourself you are only young go and enjoy yourselves.

jet-set

Way too young! Think again please.
You've the whole of your life in front of you, you haven't even started to live for yourself yet, never mind having a baby to care for.
Believe me, you'll make a much better mother, if you've had time to do all the things you want to do, before tying yourself down with a child (they don't stay a baby for long)

Update - you don't say where you live, but I need to say to Garretts, in the UK, the age of consent is 16, so to say this is rape is a nonsense.

Why so serious?

I think you should do it if you really want to and think you are ready, but be sure you know what you are getting into. A baby costs a lot, and 20,000 a year isn't THAT much. Plus, it will be stressful, often wreaks havoc on current relationships, and pretty much takes over your life. I recommend that people be married for at least a year before they have children. It's your call.
If you are already pregnant, have it. But if you have a choice of getting pregnant, I'd say don't. Your parents won't be pleased unless they are weird hippie accepting parents.

Derric Mac

S T O P!!!!!
Before you get into what you really have no clue about. First off making $20,000 a year may be just fine for the 2 of you, but add a baby into that and you're talking about literally NOTHING!!! Between me and my wife we bring home close to $50,000 a year and we're still strapped most of the time. This has nothing to do with loving the child, love will not feed, clothe, shelter, or be medicine for that child.
I say get your family established FIRST and foremost before you bring a child into it. You are still young, as is your fiance, enjoy each other. Don't be an idiot and automatically want a baby as soon as you walk down the isle. MAke sure that you're bringing your kid into the best possible situation.

spelling nazi

Yes, you are definitely too young, and $20K is not enough to support one person on, much less three. Or are you getting help from your parents?

bee

Definately not the right time for a child yet.
You need to finish all your training and grow up a bit more and then think about it.

12121212

Well it is a major big responsability, it isnt just finacial being a parent, I cant say if that is to young as I had my 1st child at freshly 18 yrs old. But finish up your schooling and than think of children,you dont have to show love by giving a baby hun! Everything happens for a reason, and if you do get pregnant well bless it, and if you dont well you know it wasnt the time for some reason. Live life for a bit girl!

LEGEN ...wait4it... DARY!

By having a baby doesn't mean that you love him so much. Look at what happened to britney and kevin.

You're still young, let your love one to build his career first..and you too need to finish your course first.

Finish what you have to finish..plan and think ahead

jessica

well actually i was in almost the same position i wanted to have a baby as well to show MY boyfriend how much i loved him. but i realised that i was too young (around the same age). eventhough we were also financially stable, we still weren't ready for that kind of responsibility. that is a 24/7 job that you can't quit. and sometimes you will just want it to be the two of you. so that's what changed my mind, hope it helps you. and as far as my parents they will FLIP! so you should probably wait a little until after you get married. in the mean time find other ways to show him how much you love him, and how much you want to be with him. HOPE IT HELPS!

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