Another question for the women!?

upfromnutin

i hate questions like that cause it makes me want to seriously slap your wife. What she needs to understand is that you are a good man (hopefully) and you want her to notice and appreciate that. You should tell her the truth, (what you told us). I am a women, and it completely annoys the heck out of me, when women argue and complain about finding a good man and then don't treat them right. While all the other women out there are meeting and dating her male equivalent. Women are spoiled (usally a man spoils us) and hate not being paid attention, tell her how you feel first, then focus on something else for a minute, and see what she does. If that does not work, you might have to wonder who is she giving your attention to.

kerriiowa

Your marriage is in trouble sweety. Consider a marriage counsler

columbo

Wow, every woman's dream lol. sorry that is not helpful is it lol.
Your wife is so wrapped up in her, that there has to be a reason for this, solve the root of the problem and you can solve the problem.i am a woman and even i don't profess to know why we behave the way we do sometimes Hun. You say she "wont let you" well how does she stop you, does she object to notes been left or you telling her you love her, how is she reacting. It is possible she has deep rooted issues here you know nothing about. it could be a childhood thing , a self protect issue, insecurity, lack of trust, these things may not have been apparent to you when you met and married but when you are with each other in a home for a long period of time things surface that you didn't see or didn't deem important at the time.talk to her, make her listen, if you cant then write her a letter and ask that if she does nothing else just read it. this will make her think about what you say, she may not even realize she is shutting you out as much as she is. like everything communication is everything.

applecheeks

I think that man needs to be with me instead so I can attend to his needs.

nikkiby_nature

Suggest a weekend away to revive the love between you both!!

sasha

She's very lucky...she should wake up and smell the coffee. Most women would love to have a man like that.

faith

Can you call my husband and tell him what you do? I wish mine did all those things. I am the one who does things like that! She should appreciate what she has. Men like you are hard to find!

247

This is a question that a man or woman can answer.

Clearly... the marriage is in trouble and she will need to know that Husband and Wife time is crucial to a sucessful marriage. It seems it's definitely time for counseling.

She (especially) will need to face the hard facts and will need a major wake up call regarding her priorities. The simple truth is
The "DANGER" signs are looming and the situation is a hand is a set up for divorce, cheating or emotional abandonment.

RUN as fast as you can to a marriage counselor or therapist. She needs to go with you but in case she's not ready, you should still seek guidance.

Georgina

First of all, I would suggest letting your wife know your thoughts and feelings. It could very well be that she is not aware that you feel this way. Let her know you appreciate what she does and what she contributes to the family but also let her know what bothers you. A good foundation for a lasting marriage is communication and an open mind. As long as both these lines are open and nothing is left for interpretation you should be ok.

Good luck.

horseknickers

time out! talk to her first,if this isn`t working,pack your belongings and go.get a lawyer and pay child support.

haki

take a vacation

nwnativeprincess

COMMUNICATE, TELL HER WHAT YOU NEED.

Try telling her she is not giving any attention. With kids, its difficult but doable.
Some people are just not "lovey dovey" in the way you are describing. You may enjoy being touchy feely but she may not.

lady_reed_03

Is she depressed or have any other issues she is dealing with that may cause her to become distant? I was the woman who did this to the man I love and trust me she will be sorry. Confront her and tell her what she is doing. If this does not work, leave her for a period of time. If she wakes up and realizes what she has done, love her and forgive her. If she is still acting the same way, consider other options (i.e. divorce) because no one deserves this type of treatment.

flutterby

Sounds like she's on some kind of drugs, or maybe she is depressed. Who knows but you need to get to the bottom of this problem cause she doesn't sound normal and it's definitely not healthy for your relationship. Sounds like she is on straight robot mode. No feelings, emotions, etc.......

NaVy WiFeY

She seems ungrateful and a little too busy! Explain how you feel to her... or just stop doing them... maybe she will notice!

~* We Hold Our Hatchets High *~

Maybe your just trying to hard and shes taking you for grated my sister does the same thing.so maybe just stop one day until she notices and when she does say well you wernt appreciating those things so ive decided to stop.

Minxy

Take away some of her distractions and stresses so she can focus back on you. Give her a break and take the pressure off all that lovey dovey stuff.. It makes you appear like a limp wristed fairy. She wants a man back!

Gerry

Time to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your wife, there is an underlying issue here!

shakalitious2000

who is this women of yours? i wann meet her and knock her out...how could she waste a man that loves giving her attention...u r a good man..let her do her thin...when she comes looking play hard to get...:) works everytime..

addiee

ur a good man.. someday when ur tired of trying.. she would wake up and look for u again.. she is so lucky to have u and i haope she realizes it before its too late for her.

iyamacog

Sounds like you need to open up the lines of communication with your wife, to let her know what you're thinking/feeling/experiencing. WHAT are the other things that have her so occupied, if she gets all the assistance you claim???

emmettgolf

Some women and men are just like this. It doesn't mean that she doesn't care for you. All you can do is tell her that you feel neglected and are not getting what you would like to get out of your relationship.

spaceskating_girl

usually I would think having a very open conversation may be a start. The purpose would be to analyze what the reasons are. It could be something trivial that the man has bad breath - which can be addressed. It could be more severe like that the woman since a while had an inner termination of the relationship. And there can be a multitude of reasons for that.

Now - having that conversation in a really professional and constructive way is impossible if you are not trained in how to do this. Therefore I would recommend that you seek the help of a professional. Someone who is specialized on couple's issues and is a psychiatrist.
Perhaps you can get your wife to go with you.

Once both of you understand a little better what each of you is thinking and feeling you can start working on either changing certain habits and behaviors (again with the guidance of a professional). Or perhaps you may have to separate in order to become happy.

From my perspective as a woman - and I almost hesitate to say that because I don't know how you may react - if it would be me it would mean that I do not have any interest left for the husband. And for some reason (whcih? financial perhaps?) I am still with him. (Actually if it would be me I would have gone since a long time instead of letting the marriage getting to this stage).
So my gutt feeling is that your mariage may be at an end point with no return and separation is the only way for both of you to more happiness.
Sorry for those rough statements, please note that I could be completely wrong.

sophia_of_light

Keep doing those things, if she refuses and if you have children get a sitter without her knowing and tell her she has no excuses to not go... Get in her way often, when she goes off to do things tell her well I'm going with you, if you can't make time for us I will!

You may have to be a bit bold and tell her "look I'm a man and need your attention, I don't want to go else where, I need you!" You are the man of the house so what you say goes (most of the time and with it being something of this nature I'm sure she'll give in a little) Put your foot down and just tell her you need more of her time and if she can't give it to you then you'll have to look at different avenues, not that you want to but so just that you can feel human again this might make her really mad but it maight make her understand that you are loanly and in the worse way b/c she is right there...- let her know it's serious and things are going to change! Have a new rule of "husband and wife time" if it has to be twice a week on the same night or every Sunday what ever be creative - (put the kids to bed earlier, make a game of it and have it be fun, the kids will enjoy this too)... My husband and I call out the word neglect when we feel we are not giving it our all, we make a fun game out of it - silly but it works and makes us realize that maybe we could do things different.....

You need some effection and nothing is wrong with that and you shouldn't feel bad for having to ask your wife for it, she is your wife who better to ask then her? She probably doesn't even realizing that she is neglecting you....

FRECKLES

SOUNDS LIKE YOUR A GOOD MAN.

fupher

Communication is essential!
You have to talk to her, you have to explain to her how you feel and ask her how she feels. Very often these kind of things are due to miscommunication and if you make the effort to sit down and talk to each other I'm sure you can come to a solution. As an example, you could set up a 'date night' - at the frequency that works best with your situation, weekly, monthly, etc. Where you can get together and reconnect.

â™¥beautyflyâ™¥

all this that you tell us tell it to her,she will understand you.Good luck

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