Answer this honestly please?

cheetah7

Yes it's possible, especially if the love is gone before the marriage actually ended.

T.T.

i really don't think so because if you can get over it that quickly than you probably weren't in love.

allansc2005

The old saying is true "the longer you love,the longer you hurt"

chattylady47150

Love can be haulted if a person hurts you. Pain can surpress the love if anger is present. Does love die? I honestly do not think so I believe it is redirected. People drift apart sometimes. After all we are all only human

jaimestar64cross

no, you can't after being married for that long and that's the honest truth. Some say they are over it but if you get involved with them you will see they aren't over the previous marriage or the ex. Even if they stayed in a bad marriage for that length of time(for the sake of the children) - you don't get over something like that so quickly, too many years spent in pain will not make the person emotionally able to move on so quickly, they will take the "baggage" into the next marriage or relationship - make sure they have resolved the "issues" that caused their last marriage to end.

persnicady

You hit the nail on the head! My wife and I have been married 24 years. It just isn't possible! Love gives you the strength to handle everything that comes along, forgives everything, doesn't keep a record of wrongs, and gives you the patience to accept what lies ahead for you. It requires that you both give 150% to youre marriage.

bex

Yes I guess so.

It depends how long ago this person emotionally checked out of the relationship. It could have been 15 years ago.

SWM 38 _4_ YOUNG GF

NO WAY !!!

mariposa

i dont think ur love is not gone.... it is just that when u r with some1 for such a long time...love is no longer love...it is SO much More than that...but bcuz of this u come to believe that u dont love him or her any more... it is like u will always love him....but sometimes it fades into the night...and while it is still there , it is also hard to stare ...hard to hold it in ur harms

souljagirpart2

yeah

seek_fulfill

Are you talking about yourself, or your husband? If your husband, yes it could happen. You seemingly still have feelings for him. Then try to mend things, if possible.

GrnApl

If the love is gone long before the end of the marriage yes.

Sweetserenity

Love can be gone in a single breath...thats why we have to work at it. Its the commitment and the willingness to stay in the marriage...its the dream that dies slow. When the pain..or perceived pain...is great, love just dies. Its immediate and sometimes permanent. Rebuilding and starting a new life takes time..but the love, is gone.

out of order

I doubt it. It makes it even harder when there are children involved and contact with him is unavoidable. Sounds like something may have snapped in him, but you will need to take your time to heal. You will wake up one day and be ready to move on...promise.

cartmansmom

No, I don't believe so.... However some people say stuff like, it was over for a long time before it ended, if thats the case you may be able to get over it quicker than I think... everybody's different. But I always heard as a general rule for getting over loss or a breakup, that you should give yourself half the time that you were with that person, before you're really over it. Because it is a loss, and you need to greive.

oldman

If your marriage was over for a long time and you where just hoping it would work out and you where just hanging in there then yes....or if your spouse cheated on you then yes. Only you know how you feel...there is no "time Frame"....everyone grieves differently....and lets face it a failed marriage is like a death....you need time to grieve...how long depends on the person. All I can Tell you is if it feels right....then its okay *S*
Best of luck....with your NEW life

guess

wow! no it's not easy,,,,i wish you the best of luck..

Catlady

No way. You may be over the feelings of love...they may have been gone a long time ago, but you can't get over 24 years of anything that quickly. It takes time to work through that kind of stuff...

I would think it would depend on the 24 years. If the marriage ended quickly with out any for sight probably not. if it was unbearable or was drug out for years i suppose it's possible. Are you looking for a time table??

olderbutwiser

No Mam, there is NO way! I have been divorced for 12 years, after a 25 year marriage, and it has taken up till now to even halfway get my life back in order......6 or 7 months is only the slight beginning, or was for me. Mine involved her cheating, so mine might take longer, but I still think it takes a long time. Best of luck to you!

superpink99

Ok..........

if you really loved each other during the past 24 years of your marriage, i assure you, you'll always feel love it won't be gone

BUT

if during the years you were married true love was not present im sure after a week it's gone hehe........

crkristy

Once you've had someone in your heart I believe you always have a place for that person that never truly disappears or is totally destroyed. Sometimes anger over rides love for a period of time, but know love is never gone that quickly. Maybe suppressed and kept at bay, but not gone. Depending on what caused the separation will determine the extent of the alienation. Pride, hurt, anger can all be disguised. Being married 24 years can give a person plenty of time to build resentments, hurt, anger, etc. Look at the relationship for what it was and what's happening now. It's important to know your role in the outcome and recognize how you feel about it. Address it and try to move thru the pain. Good luck.

tynersexy

no i dont beleave u can the heart cant be turned on and off like a light swith. u love who u love

Douglas D

It's entirely up to you. I think you would be unfair to yourself if you judged yourself wrongly whether it took you less than 6 months or if you never got over it emotionally.
I try to use this simple guideline when making a self assessment on similar issues.

If it took 24 (or however long) years to get the whole thing into the state of affairs that it is now in, then how can you expect it to be completely unravelled in any less time?

That way, I think I can forgive myself if I am not getting over a certain issue as quickly as I would like, but at the same time if I do, then I can consider myself LUCKY.

HonestGuy

I wonder too.
My wife of 15 years "stopped" loving me in about 4-5 months.
I'm still separated so I don't know if its permanent.....

I had no warning until after she had started the affair.....

livinhapi

its possible especially if the love you have for each other is gone and the marriage is not that productively positive and happy, i wish i can meet somebody like you who seem to be very mature and responsible, pretty individual!

Cbot38

only if u're easily distracted by other things in your life.

P/T Doctor

I don't think u can get over 24 years in 5yrs. Been there ,done that! Even if it was a terrible relationship it takes time and lots of it. The best thing is to find a new man-woman friend and look ahead not behind. I think of my X of 23yrs on a daily basis and the divorce was 6yrs ago. The answer is no-it cannot

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