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Robin F
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Build a secret savings account with your mom's or family's address.
Get enough to get away from him.
Prepare your family.
Muster up the guts to speak with a professional.
Good luck and God bless.
You can handle taking the risk.
Feel the fear and do it anyay.
God would not approve of you being hurt by him.
God loves you more than that. |
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ndnqt1966
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You do have a choice.....it may take a lot of hard work and sacrifices...but you can do it....Why stay with a man that is abusive? Do you realize how this is affecting your children? I would work as many jobs that it took in order to support me and my children....as long we were away from him...that is all that matters.....Don't forget that he is your children's father...and he has an obligation to pay support to his kids.... |
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TexanBrat
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woman's shelter, legal aid....child support and the like....might have to change your standard of living and get a smaller place or something, but hey...it won't necessarily be a worse life...what state are you in? |
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pepzi_bandit 2
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**** the money......move out b 4 he really does you damage.
last time my ex hit me I was like 1 inch away from the corner of the juke box.............he could have killed me or damaged my head,,,,,,,,nothing is worse than being bullied and beaten
please move out |
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I love my baby boy!
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Call a local shelter. Do you have parents or friends or family that you can go to for help? You need to get out now. If he's beating you, imagine what that's doing to your children! |
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Kris L
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Call your local 'crisis center' and have them connect you to a battered women's underground. Both you and your children deserve to have a better life ... and staying with him for financial reasons is WRONG. You may have to go on welfare and live in a battered women's and children's center (which will be 'safe' so your husband can NOT contact you) for awhile, but once you are 'out' and able to think better, you will see that this 'little bit of hardship' will be the BEST THING you have ever done for yourself or your kids. |
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DD
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Seek help now. Any man that hits a women is scum of the earth trash to me. If I were you, the next time he laid a hand on me I'd call the cops asap. Once you have his abuse documented, get a lawyer and divorce his ***, he'll still have to pay for the kids through child support. Good luck, don't be a victim. |
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jessjess0310
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find a womens shelter NOW!!!! Get yourself and your kids out of there. Take your car and your kids, and look in your town for a safe haven for battered women and children. most towns will have a place like that. research it online, and get the hell out of there. they will help you with aplace to stay and food for you and the children. they will help you get a place of your own, and possibly help you with a divorce. i just can't stress enough to get out of there. the money will come. when you are on your own, he'll have to pay to a butt load of child support, you may also be able to get some state funding, such as food stamps and things like that. you can do this, just get out of there. take care. |
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hghostinme
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Your never trapped in a cage that has no locks..........you hold the key........when will you use it...money and excuses are no reasons.....seems to me your being selfish ( i know thats rough ) but again your thinking of you.........what about the Kids.........dont you think its time to unlock the cage and let them out ??? There are so many rescources today for this kind of things the internet alone holds thousands.........so again you hold the key..........quit blaming them for your short falls and maybe then he will be able to see his !!!!!!!!!!! For your kids sake ................RUN!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Shon
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If he is hurting you, you need to report him to the cops. You then need to contact some family members and let them know what is going on and ask if you can stay with them. I'm sure someone in your family or your friends, even your husbands family and friends should take you in. |
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MsB2U
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Go to a shelter with your kids, welfare would be a hell of a lot better then putting yourself and the kids through with this mess... |
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♪Msz. Nena♫
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You're not trapped.
File for divorce. He'll have to pay child support, you'll get half of what you have, possibly more if you can provide evidence of abuse.. and a restraining order.
A great divorce attorney could work wonders for you. |
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J9
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Ok honey you have a problem on your hands. You don't have to deal with that. You need to find out all your options. What I would suggest doing is contacting the domestic violence hotline in your area. They can help you weigh all your options. There are DV shelters everywhere that help women who are in these types of relationships. They can provide shelter and food. Just be careful because if you decide to leave the most unsafe time is when you try to leave. If you do decide to get out of there don't let him catch you. Take everything you can....money, clothes etc. etc. and never look back. You deserve a happy lifeand a great husband. |
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rc2365
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Call the police, while he's out somwhere. The police will come and put a restraining order on him. Don't be afraid of life just because of money. The government will help you with money. I think they give you a check for each child. Good luck. |
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jaded
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why did you marry and have four kids with someone who is not human. ???? maybe things have changed along the way, and they can change back. just a thought. |
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sugarBear
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Your NOT trapped. I think you should find a job & leave him. There are some things that can be worked out in a marriage but not if he's physically & mentally abusing you. |
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Sarah C
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I can't help you out money wise but why not try checking out this website england.shelter.org.uk/advice
have you got family that can help you out at all? |
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John
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Wait till he's at work ... saving the universe, pack you and the kids and go to a shelter, relitave's house, a police station ...... anywhere where you and your kids will be safe.
Florida is nice this time of year!
Oh yeah... be sure to remove all that excess money from the bank accounts before you leave.
Be safe ....... |
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AngelGirl
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tell the police if he is beating you, or one of those helplines. start looking for a job, and soon enough youll b able to leave |
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Girls! Girls! I do adore
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If you really are in this situation then you need to call the police asap. There are many resources for women who have been through domestic violence. You need to think past the financial and start thinking about your kids. You need to get this man in jail and you and your kids into therapy. If worse comes to worse their are battered women shelters. |
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tyronebootlaces
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I say get a devorice and then ask for police protection with a restraining order on you husband. If he violates the restraining order he will go to jail or anything he does to harm you and the children. Ask for family help that might work. Move if you can. |
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Nikki
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Do they have a women's refuge in your area? I'm not sure where you live but if you do id STRONGLY suggest you get in contact with them.. they offer support, councelling, put you in a safe house till you can sort your things out... will do everything they can to help you and your kids... you so need get yourself out of this horrible situation.. you know that this is wrong, you should not be treated like this, do not put up with it any longer. |
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ღKrissyღ
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Ok call a shelter they will help you get into a subsidized apt meaning that you only pay a percentage of your wages to the apt.
File for a divorce and get a restraining order this will give you full custody of your kids and keep you safe from him.
Good luck sweetie I have been there before and will never ever ever put up with that crap again yes it was hard at first but you will be amazed at how children appreciate you leaving and actually help you to have a more peaceful home. |
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notagain49
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Sorry for what your having to go through.I wish you were in Texas.I might could help some.Get some help.There are places to help women and kids get away from people like him.Good luck. |
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Lady Webmaster
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Yes, I know of a place that will help you, a battered women's shelter until you can get yourself a place and income to support yourself and your children. I would urge you to call one on your lunch hour at work. They can help you get rid of them and get child support and an order of protection for your children. Please get out as soon as you can.
Best of Luck,
Lady Webmaster |
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daughter four
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Please call a woman's shelter. If you can't find one, call 911. Shelters are loving, nurturing places for mothers and children and they will help you to start a new life. I know, I used to volunteer at one. Sometimes the fathers learn how to get their act together but that is secondary. Take care of yourself first. |
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Jaydee
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You do have options. In this day and age women are so empowered it ain't even funny. Do you still love him? Would you stick with him if he trys to get rehabilitated? Can he be rehabilitated? He needs help. Will he go to anger management therapy? You need to gather the strength to leave. It will not be easy. There are women's shelters, if you don't have family to stay with. For the welfare of you and your children you have to leave him. If he is abusive he will eventually hurt you really bad, it's only a matter of time.
You really don't want to ask strangers (people online) to help. They have city and state agencies for that. |
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nfldwct123
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Where do you live as in province hard to help without those specifics. |
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yankidee_1
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Hi,
My daughter used to work in a shelter for battered women-the first thing is you have to want it bad enough to get up and go/ for us that's sometimes easier said than done-However there are places that you can find, maybe through Community Action programs that will give you direction. The only draw back is you have to be willing to leave everything behind so he can't find you--
good luck kid |
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Gaia Raain
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Contact your local domestic violence organization. It's going to be difficult, but with their help, it is doable - and trust me, it will be MUCH easier than being abused. Plus, your kids will know that they deserve to be safe. |
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