Anyone else in a situation like me?

I have heard that with this recession, the rate of divorce is dramatically decreasing. People just can't afford to get divorced right now.

I am a SAHM with a 5 and 3 year old. I always worked until I was laid off about 6 months ago. The job market is looking bleak. I am one of those individuals in a bad marriage but I don't have many alternatives. At least at this point.

My husband knows this and it's likely why things have gotten worse. I've even told him that I won't leave right now. He would have to do it. Until I found a job. My 3 year old is now asking me, "why do you fight with daddy?". I ask if his dad has talked to him about this and he says yes. So alienation is starting already.

I never want to lose my kids. They are the light of my life. But I see my husband would likely be difficult if I chose to divorce him. Right now, he travels a lot and I love the peace when he is gone.

Has anyone else gone through this? How do you make it bearable if it is in your best interest to stay together? Please no cynical remarks. I want to hear if anyone else has gone through, or is going through something similar.

Kal

I don't know why your marriage is bad. Most marriages can be saved if both parties are willing. Why do you fight all the time? Have you tried counselling? Divorce doesn't always have to be the answer. Why are you alienated from your husband? You got married for some reason, you liked him then, I assume. Did you not love him when you got married? To make it bearable, you must start by being civil and polite to each other,and stop pushing each other's buttons. Stop rising to fights and maintain your peaceful nature. Then really take an honest look at why you are at an impass with your marriage. Always act towards your husband with dignity. You are responsible for your own actions and for your own feelings. Get some marriage counselling. He must have had some good qualities or else you would never have married him. Have a good honest look at your own good and bad qualities. See how you can bring out your own best qualities. Your child needs stability, don't forget.

pcgirl2006

Watch the movie Fireproof and get the book Love Dare.

I think any marriage can be saved. With God all things are possible.

Take Care

blinky42

I left my husband when my son was 3. I went to technical school and got a full time job to support my son. I got daycare assistance and housing assistance at a very reduced rate through the DHS. There are alternatives, but you might have to make a lot of calls and do a lot of checking around. I am glad I divorced my husband, but each marriage is different. It depends on how bad things are. If you can get along and don't fight a lot in front of the kids, and most importantly, if you love your hubby, it is better to try to work things out as long as he tries himself. Good luck to you.

cassmac

. It may be in your best interest to stay with him now , But it is not in your children's best interest if all you do is fight and use the children as pawns. As you think of the future just remember that it could be years before things get better in the work force, so try to get along or get out .

Skylight

Been there done that still dealing with him and im divorced for 5 years!

Michelle

my mother has gone through this for 16 years and still do now.
I feel really bad for her.
She has gone through so much for me and just to have me by her side.
If my mom left and left me and my little brother with my father
i would have been beaten everyday because he's a drunk red-neck.

â™¥B@BY~GURLâ™¥

O YESS HUNNY BUT YOUR VERY LUCKY BE GLAD HE IS GONE ALOT I HAVE TO LOOK AT MINE 24/7

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