Are overweight spouses less attractive?

SuzyQ

You like what you like. What are you going to do if you marry a very fit person and 10 years later, they are overweight and at risk for these things but you still love them???

*asdflkj;

Honestly, for the people who say I will love my spouse no matter what. You may love them but you aren't attracted to them anymore. A lot of them are just bs-ing when they say they will be or haven't been there. Why do I say that? Because, 2 years ago I would say the same thing. I'd be attracted to my husband either way. Surely I have the utmost love and respect but as we both gained weight I can see we aren't attracted to each other. it's quite depressing. I'm trying to loose weight he's not and I'm getting tired of it. I desperately want my heatlhy spouse back. Diabetes is a BIG deal in his family so i'm completely worried about that. I try to get him to eat right and I'll cook healthy meals but he refuses.

Giustapporre

What you are asking is not unreasonable at all. What you should keep in mind, however, is that that is not all there is to it. A relationship has much more to it than just the physical component. If the physical stuff is all that matters, then the relationship (and the people in it) are indeed shallow.

freakboynv2008

most people will tolerate a few extra pounds but they don't want to be married to the blob.

avi

I love my husband. I would love him if he were 135 lbs. or 535 lbs. I just love him. I could never find him disgusting.

Miss M

Being overweight is not healthy for sure but its not uncommon. But overweight people have feelings just like skinny people do. Alot of spouses become overweight for many reasons; stress, depression, no time to excercise or prepare healthy meals. But if you are that upset about your spouse becoming overweight, you should be the one to help them overcome that problem.

Lovely

Its okay to love someone with certain conditions.

However, most of us will love our spouses and children...unconditionally.
Your husband and kids for instance will love you no matter how shallow and selfish you may be. Thats unconditional love.

Anonymous

I think the reason why people "get negatively attacked" when they post questions pertaining to their spouses being overweight, is because when they do so, their tone is usually very condescending & rude. They way they portray their spouse usually displays that person as a lazy, fat, slob who sits around all day eating. Hardly ever do you hear in that question any positive traits from the complaining spouse. It also typically makes it sound like the complaining spouse no longer loves their "fat" spouse anymore, and they usually sound very judgmental of their partner.

Regarding lifespan... there are other habits that shorten lifespan that people aren't as harsh about - smoking, drinking, drug usage. People are far more tolerant of these things - alcoholism is labeled as a "disease", smoking is labelled as an "addiction" (and it hurts those who have to breath the smoke in), and drug usage can be fatal.

How many spouses come on here to complain about those problems?

ZaZa [Lily is here!]

There are two different things you are saying here. No, it's not selfish and shallow to want a healthy spouse. It's selfish and shallow to say you are no longer attracted to your spouse because they have become overweight, and that you are "disgusted with fat." If that's how you feel, that's how you feel, but that's not what marriage is about.

Cheekote

I agree with you.

I've watching what I eat and staying fit. feel much better and lighter. lol

Lauren

Yes overweight spouses are less attractive.

Who would want to be married to a fat slob.

Not me that's for sure.

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