Asked husband to take STD test?

fluke

he feels guilty because he obviously cheated on you.

Scott from Modesto

If the test comes back that he has no STDs, will that be proof enough for you, or will you still think he cheated?

His lack of response is because if he did cheat, the chances of him getting an STD are slim at best, so he knows he'll pass this ridiculous test.

The Foul

uh.... i'd be less worried about STD, and more worried that he's shagging another woman.

nonameblonde

I think I would have had a real problem with the hotel room renting and coming home at 9:00 a.m. the next day.

Elle

I'm not sure you will feel much better even after he does take it and he doesn't have any STDs. He probably won't ever come clean about it.

Hoptoad City

What the hell. You need to figure out what he was doing and why he didn't come home. I think you have a lot more to worry about than him not arguing about taking a test. He also doesn't seem to care what you think.

Marina

I think it's a bad sign that you had to ask in the first place!

An0nym0us mAn1Ac

If you asked the question, you should be ready for an answer.
I'd say if a guy has to rent a hotel room in the same city he lives in, there is probably something going on.

***~***

Ooh, I'd be worried if I were you too. That's not the reaction I'd hope for. Make sure he goes!!!

Melissa G

he obviously cheated on you.

so good move, making him take a test.

Oddeye

I think you should wait until you get the test results before you make any conclusions.

You are taking care of yourself first and foremost. Good for you. Don't go jumping to conclusions that your husband did do something just because he agreed to take an STD test BECAUSE YOU ASKED HIM TO! I've never cheated on my girlfriend, but if she asked me to take an STD test, then I would do it without any trouble.

Why?

1) Fighting with her about it is stupid. There's no way I will win that fight, even if I'm clean, because fighting will imply that I'm guilty of cheating.

2) If I take the STD test and come out clean, like I should, then I'll have some strong evidence against her that I DIDN'T cheat.

3) I love her and that's what I'll do for someone I love.

I bet your husband, if he didn't cheat, is thinking along those lines. Now, if your husband did cheat (and got something out of it), then he's probably going along with the test because he's curious as to whether or not he contracted a disease.

Regardless of the test's results, you are going to have to have a serious talk with your husband about the trust in your relationship. It seems obvious to me that you don't trust him, so it should be glaringly obvious to the both of you. Relationships won't work without trust, and I fear that a divorce might be on the horizon for you even if he comes up clean.

In review, you should: Get the results first. Come to your conclusion based on the test. Talk with your husband. Contact a marriage counselor or a divorce lawyer.

Capablady

I think you need to decide for yourself if your husband is trustworthy. If you don't trust him, you'll never have a happy marriage.

fchyenne

i think it sounds like he cheated

mags2313

Sounds like he was unfaithful that night and he knows it and he assumes that you must know it too.....
He could've been with a guy or girl too.. Don't rule that out.....
Sorry, but all signs point to he did something he wasn't supposed to that night.

elmafuddyesmate

I would make him get the test, even go with him to make sure he goes through with it. Then have it out with him - why did he stay with his friend in this hotel room instead of coming home to you? Why couldn't he drop the friend off and just come home? Did he call you to say he was going to stay out? If all else fails, go on Oprah for a lie detector test!!

kitkat_137

In my experience, women read to much into male behaviors; however, in this case I would also be suspicious. I assume that you have questioned him about his guy friend at work and why he was the one who needed to rent it.

missdoubleyou

sounds like he cheated, sorry

mac

I still think you should be a little worried. If he truly didn't do anything - why wouldn't he have gotten upset with you when you asked him to take the test? I would've. I think I would be upset either way. Bottom line - he was out ALL NIGHT until 9 am. You know he was doing something or someone. I wouldn't let this one rest until you get answers.
Good luck hun!

just me

Whatever you do, don't do it with him until he takes the test. Also you have the right to ask some tough questions and he needs to answer them. He needs to tell you why he felt OK doing this kind of thing. If you feel good about his answer and he passes the test then you can decide if he gets a pass this time. However there should be no question about the consequences of a repeat performance.

just bored

BE worried he didn't argue he is feeling really guilty,usually when there so calm about things its GUILT.Plus maybe he wants to take the test....you should try talking about it more with him explain why you want him to take the test. There really is no need to argue just discuss it.

wiz kid

You know he was with a women at the hotel or a gay person. Let him take the test. Make sure it doesn't happen again or really get on his case. Is he gone different times unexplained. I think he is seeing someone else. I would not put up with it.

wizjp

Simplest way out. What could he say?

uneekqamar2004

If he didn't give up a fight then you should be worried because any other normal person would've taken offense to that, especially if they are in the right.

Kate1661

i think it was really good of u to ask... maybe he reacted like that cause he knew you were suspicious of him lieing about the room and why he didnt come home till late... so he decided to say yes instead of arguing so that u believe him and maybe he wants to prove to u that he was telling the truth. even if he does get it done though it doesnt mean hes telling the truth about the room though it just means that whoever he was with didnt have std's and they were safe maybe. so just go get it done and then see what happend after that... dont do anything until u see the results. hope i helped... good luck!

golly geesh

YOU KNOW HE CHEATED either way stop being stupid about it. Don't matter if he got a STD he cheated call it all off.

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