Being pursued by a married man, should I tell his wife?

MiSS LALA

I wouldn't tell his wife, that's just going to hurt her and most likely make a very uncomfortable situation for you.

But what you could do is make friendly with his wife, this might scare him into thinking your going to tell her, and maybe make him back off.

if that doesn't work, then its really a good idea to go to a supervisor or boss you trust, explain that your not trying to get anyone in trouble, you would simply like him to leave you alone. theres no harm in that, and it should solve your problem.you should never have to feel uncomfortable at work.

Buddy12345

Homesaver!

Ryan

Tell his wife.. he is worthless

kitten

I understand you've told him your not interested but warn him that you'll take drastic measures if he won't stop this nonsense. but don't tell him that you intend to tell his wife coz he might cook up a different story and keep his wife well prepared for your complain. instead just tell him that you will take severe steps to prevent this situation. if he continues, go lodge a complain in the police. that way his wife will anyhow find out. handle it professionally and legally. don't leave him the chance of having the upper hand to harass you. good luck.

i don't think you should tell his wife directly... she doesn't know you and besides, she wouldn't believe you anyway and take the side of his husband.
just tell the guy to leave you alone. try recording his conversation with you if you can and maybe you can tell the security or his wife on him if you have enough evidence. then maybe then will he stay away from you. if he's really persistent and that you don't know what else to do that is.
or you can just tell him in a mature manner of saying that you don't want anything to do with him and ask him nicely to stay away from you.
if all else fail, record him and tell him to the authorities.
you're a good person. you are mature enough not to meddle with someone who has a family already. that's very professional and adult of you. a salute to people like you.
just keep ignoring him for now.. and try not to get in his way. that's all. just keep out of trouble. do your work when you go the building. and that's just it, nothing more, nothing less. oh, by the way, try to be with someone always. like your friends or best friend wherever you are in the bldg. just so you'll know you are safe. good luck.=)

CHICKA

Tell him it's harsment and log it. You don't have to keep fending off this guy. If you want to be non-aggressive you could go up to him when his eating with his family and ask him if this is his sister and nephew, and if he says it's his wife have a confused face, like you didn't know he was married, he'll have some explaining to do....

Alan

BOOM! Drop the bomb. Tell his wife because that's wrong and nasty to do that to another women. My mother was in this. His wife got to the Guest Housing phone before he did and she got her (my moms) voice mail. She knew something was up and she told her flat out what was up. ( this guy was Army).

Dancer16

tell him enough is enough. if he doenst like his marriage or hates his wife he need to confront her like a man. if he loves his wife and doenst plan on leaving her then then needs to BE a husband. he wouldnt like his wife cheating on him right? so why should she like it if he cheated on her. he has a son that looks up to him and he should be a good role model. if he loves his son he wont ruin the marriage with divorce (saw all this to him). if you don't like him tell him u cant be with a man who doesn't respect women in the way he obviously is doing.

then say if he doesn't cut it out, you'll inform his wife that you're making her very uncomfortable with the feelings of harassment or with the being hit on and you think she has the right to know.

really hope he stops

please answer mine, its just an opinion question on journey's "dont stop believing" song. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArIX2OMPuOiguS9xCUqk_Kjsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090421220026AATSA3Y

Bryan

no dont tell her but shut the door on him.

Red Butterfly

I don't think so, the wife might say you're the one making advances on her husband and he might actually tell her that too. I think the best is just to ignore him totally, don't talk to him unless it's absolutely necessary, I would say don't talk to him completely but am worried that might cost you your job.

Effie

Wouldn't you want to know if you were that woman?

I know I would. Don't tell him first, you have already told him once. Tell his wife so he doesn't have a chance to lie to her.

Mandy

I don't understand why you can't call security when he is harassing u. If you are intimidated by him then you should tell ur boss or security onn the down low or get a restraining order. The best thing that u should do is threatening him by telling him that his wife will get a call. if that don't work them u should get a restraining order or ask someone to go with u when he is around to witness this. He may be trouble for u and ur job if u don't break it down to his that u ar serious and want it to stop.

PEACE*

Binst

His wife is none of your business. You can tell him that if he doesn't leave you in peace, you will contact her. That usually works.

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i suggest you try talk to him about this again seriously. he must be thinking that you're just playing hard to get that's why he keeps on pursuing you despite all these that you've done to him.

if it still didn't work, then go tell her wifey!

good luck girl.

Mark

No. He has not done anything that harmed you. You have no evidence if he will actually do it so don't punish him for his wrong motive. Maybe he's just a flirt. Just avoid the guy and hopefully he gets the picture.

Rx4u

Tell him that if he bothers you anymore you are going to tell his wife and you are considering a restraining order as you have made it plain that he is harrassing you. If that doesn't stop him, then you probably really do need to be very concerned. Take care.

Anne S

Can undertand you wanting ot tell her, I'd be warning the man you may do that... but would not.... the backlash for you could be bad in that you may end up having to defend yourself and then face others at work if he says you are a homewrecker or liar..... keep telling him no, but I would also conisder aksing someone at work (a boss) to ask him to stop approaching you it is bordering on harrassment i think.

Alex

YEs

Tell her so she knows who shes married to. Tell her, tell somebody, spread the word.

Farmer

just keep shutting him down, he'll soon get the message. if that doesn't work, then find out who his supervisor is and put a bug in their ear that this guy just won't take no for an answer.
that'll get the monkey off your back.

Mike the man

you never said what he has done or said to you it sounds like you just want to stir up some drama. i say you better find some other way to deal with him or you might get fired if you piss him off you sound very immature like i said you didn't say what he said to you or done.

drsundar_maxfac

you get married soon.. don ruin his family for his personal acts

TruthSeeker

Most will tell you to mind your own business. BUT I can say as a stay at home mother who had to put in a TON of time and effort to catch my husband cheating, I only wish she had just come to me and told me what was going on. Yes, you should tell.

w000w

You should tell HIM that you'll tell is wife if he tries to pull anything. And if he does, do it. Immediately.

momo

Man! if I were in your position I would want to tell her too! but that can back-fire very easily. She would probably want proof, etc.

Just do what your doing, there's not much you can do but to stay away from him. Hopefully she will find out on her own.

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