Best way to keep affair secret?

jackfrost_can

A work place fling? You're asking for trouble, in capital letters. Especially since you're already married. You want to go through with it, knock yourself out, but if this female co-worker has other ideas about how far it will go, the more chance your wife will find out about it if it goes on for a length of time. You could be setting yourself up for blackmail, or extortion if you hold any authority over this co-worker in the chain of command, and she thinks she can manipulate you to her advantage.
Work place romances are problematic. You still have to work with this person afterwards. Also, since you're married, and your employer fnds out about any dishonorable behavior, you may be seen as a dishonest and untrustworthy person, and of questionable character. This could discourage any opportunities for you (or the female co-worker) for advancement. Granted , an employer cannot base a decision solely on that, but I can guarantee they will look, and find other reasons to prevent you from moving up the ladder.
You want to take the chance on losing your marriage, and possible your professional reputation with a flash of lust? It's your call, pal.

Dillon C (who else)

IF you care for your wife than do what you have to do in the bed so that you wont be temoted to do an one nighter with your coworker, and even if you do get tempted you can tell yourself that your wife can do better, or she can satisfy your temptation.
IF you care for her don't Go out with this co worker
and also Just tell the coworker to leave you alone or get your wife to come in some time, or show your ring, not in her face, but just so she knows you are married and are taken already.
Good Luck

human_meat_is_yummy

best way to keep it a secret: Dont F&ckin do it A$$hole! If your not happy with your wife leave. Cheating is never the answer. If you need a release wack it!

melc

don't do it.. u will regret it... trust me your wife will find out and be devestated..

--*Caitlin*--

Not talk about it on your computer

indm45

has your wife told you about me and her last night thx for the pts

Iron What?

You're going to get caught.

jwliving

not have one!

sharmel

I don't have much advice for a lying, conniving, cheating skunk. But I have plenty of advice for her..... I hope she finds out and sends you down the road and out of sight.

Edieseb

Are you even seriously asking this question? I wish your wife feels the same way and is searching for a "one night thing" too.

Mandy

Don't cheat on your wife! You made sacred vows!

emo eyes

you don't care for your wife if you are considering an affair. Stay away from this co-worker and tell her to leave you alone IF you really care about your wife.

Lprod

If you really cared for your wife you wouldn't even be thinking about it..... and you never know: some affairs start like that, "a one night thing", and then turn into something much more serious when you least expect it and get you in a lot of trouble..... I'd say DON'T DO IT

CW1967

Okay....couple of things..........this co-worker can't possibly have any respect for you and/or your wife if she's knows your married, and is pursueing you. Why would you even want to have anything to do with anyone that doesn't show you any respect? And, how could you trust someone like this co-worker, who wants you to cheat on your wife? How do you know she won't tell your wife, or others you work with? Bottom line, she can't be trusted, so your wife will find out somehow. And, most importantly, any woman that tempts a married man can't be all that "clean". Be ready for a visit to your dr. and some anti-biotic treatment if you go thru with this.

beanie_babymama

If you cared for your wife you wouldn't even be considering cheating. "Temporary" release? Obviously there are some issues in your marriage you need to address, cheating isn't going to change that. Be a man and handle your business at home. If you want to be with other women then don't be married.

Katrina D

think about what you just said if you care for her you would not even be thinking of it. You took vows of Fidelity remember that cause a one night thing could leave you with out her permanently.

Kate J

You are bored with your wife. Why don't you tell her how you think about the co-worker and see how she reacts? You want to leave, leave.

sherry n

Get a hobby.

It's obvious that what your considering is more important to you than the "family" you have.
What you're considering doing is not copacetic with a marriage and children.
What you have to lose (i should think) is much more precious than what you're considering adding to your life.

Katty

Ok first, if you were my husband, your *** would be out the door so fast you wouldnt know what hit you. But then, I won't ever have to worry about that because he would never do that to me.

Two.. I'm really disgusted to read all the questions about infidelity on here. My husband and I have been married a few years now. The first year of our marriage, he spent deployed, in Iraq. Not once did either of us EVER think of being unfaithful to each other because we meant every word of our vows. People like you disgust me to no end.

If you need a release, grab some K-Y, lock the bathroom door and have at it.

notsoreal

Control the temptations that girl giving you, otherwise, it will make you problem a possible to break up with your wife and your family in general.

â™¥The Mrs.â™¥

You don't care for her you would wouldn't need to escape from her.

Put the time and effort in your relationship. Not a girl willing to sleep with a married man. Regardless of age any woman willing to sleep with a married man is emotionally a girl.

Donna T

Maybe your wife is feeling the same way about needing temporay release and escape. Wouldn't it be a hoot if she beat you to it?

sloegin

That's just absolutley shameful! If you love your wife, you won't do it.
If you think your wife won't find out...think again. We can tell. Also, are you prepared to deal with this sl*t after the one night stand. Maybe she'll decide she wants more. Maybe she'll blackmail you or maybe it'll be a "fatal attraction"...who knows what she'll do. If she's willing to sleep with a married man we already know she has no morals.
Think of all you could screw up for your little "temporary release and escape". Your wife, your children, your job...basically your life as you know it.
Oh yeah...and pray that you don't get whatever diseases this sl*t is carrying.
How do you suppose you'd feel if your wife were on here asking us this question? It would hurt you like hell wouldn't it?! Yeah, well that's how hurt she'll be when (not if) she finds out.
If you have any morals/ethics or any sense at all..DON'T DO IT!!!
My husband thought it would be a secret too. I've never felt so much hurt. It is too big to even describe in words. It almost destroyed me. I'm begging you...don't do this!

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