Can't stop crying since we got married.?

t k

It happened to me but lasted only for a few hours.
I was married "quicky style" in Reno Nevada, in a black dress/ whatever I was wearing at the moment/ had no flowers.....and absolutely nobody from my family or friends knew what was happening.
After we came back to hotel I started crying like stupid and did not know why and felt bad for crying . I loved his so much and it was right thing to get married like that.
I think that during our young lives we are told and we imagine this huge thing called wedding, how important it is,.. we see people going crazy spending stupid money on it, fighting about unimportant details.....We think that's the thing to do.
It is something like when you are trying to reach this hard big goal and when you are on the top and reach it, there is emptyness. No big bells and whistles.
You just need to get over it and find yourself a new big goal -this time a real one.
I had neighbors, they planned their wedding for two years, their families and friends flew from all over the country....silly wedding. They separated after only six months. I wish I had the money and energy they wasted on a wedding instead on building great marriage.
I was married in a hurry, no friends or family, black dress and no flowers. I had a beautifull marriage, we were like one, had four kids......and wedding had nothing to do with it.
Spend the money you did not waste on big wedding on buying your house, great vacation just for two of you, find a new real and worthy goal like get education, good job, built a business, strong relationship with your husband or to have a child.
You were strong and smart to do what you did and when you look at your pictures, admire that. When you see people bragging about their great wedding, look at them closely if that will make them happier.
Stop crying, go ahead and be strong and smart.
Does he love you and do you love him is the only important thing in this whole thing.
You go girl and there is nothing wrong with your hormones. /I hate when people blame hormones for everyting./

Cathrine K

Sounds like you're still under a lot of stress. Are you wishing you hadn't done it that way? Do you have regrets about the marriage at all? Ask yourself some honest questions and try to see if you can figure out where this is coming from. You might want to see a counselor. A new marriage is overwhelming and you might just need some time to settle in. I felt a little lost right after I got married.

Ahh_Sweet_Boredom

Are you upset that you didn't go through with the wedding planning process? Did you WANT a big wedding? Why don't you talk to your husband about having a real wedding somewhere other than Vegas? People have second ceremonies all the time.

Your friend

It's possible that you're crying because you didn't marry in the traditional way and perhaps you regret it. Basically, you wanted to have your family and friends there to support you, but you didn't.

I'm no expert but it sounds right to me.

Traci_girly

Its a huge change in your life...Women are unexplainable..Maybe you have a hormone imbalance or something or maybe your just getting over the shock and stress...In time you should be fine!!Good Luck

daisyrose

maybe cause you had no family or friends there ,and when they are congtatulation it hurts you , weddings are a family affair

Sad G

We can all go through emotional rides in our lives. This may be something deeper - I would suggest you talk to your family doctor. This could be a physical problem.

bill

thats because the wedding is over . and you really wanted the big wedding. not an elopement. now the special attetion is not there.

DEVIL

maybe you should try to replan your wedding maybe your heart is trying to tell you that you missed out on something by not having your family and friends there and not dealling with the stress of planning your wedding and underline your wedding three times because sweety even though planning a wedding is very stressful it is a part of what helps your marriage grow hope this helps

TwoLOUD

menopause ?

PDX

you might want to talk to someone bout this... maybe you are depressed and not knowing it? Or pregnant!

can't say it has...does it upset you that you didnt get the "traditional" wedding??

*~*I love cupcakes*~*

Could just be the excitement of the wedding and getting married not yet set it. It does sound like your happy but your probably finding it hard to believe that it actually it already happened.

Sugarshots

A lot of women get depressed after the wedding. It was a big event with lots of planning and you may never get to be involved in something that elaborate again. I forgot what its clinically called but basically something is so exciting and with so much buildup that when its over, you feel sad because its one-of-a-kind or you may not experience something like it again. Senior prom is a juvinile example, but I was really sad after my prom, knowing I'd never wear the dress again...or go dancing...or be able to have my hair and nails done and would have to just settle into work and normal life with nothing that special on the horizon, possibly ever again.

CindyLu

it is a very sentemental thing but you are gonna have to get tougher or you are never gonna survive the road ahead. You cannot just go bursting into tears at every little thing.

CPT_crunch

I can only assume like most women you planned your wedding day since you were young.... no offense. However the stress of a wedding is a lot for most people, but is it because you didnt get the ceremony that you wanted... and now regret eloping?

if that is it... go through with the ceremony...I am pretty sure as long as it is the same partner, doing the ceremony will have just as much meaning to it as you planned on.

Photographer

You know? That happened to me 2.... people started getting too involved and I ended up eloping, in Vegas. 2 months b4 the wedding.... now I cant stand it when people invite me to thier weddings, cuz I ask: Why did they make it to thier wedding date and we didnt?. I am not bitter but deep down, way down there, I would have wanted a wedding,..... but stress ended up getting in the way. It's ok honey. Time heals everything. I am sure u wanted ur friends & family WITH u that special day

aleasha_Sam01

You can't stop crying? Why does that sound like a bad thing? IT'S NOT! A woman's wedding is one of the most sacred milestones in her life, as well as children and other things. A wedding symbolizes the union and everlasting bonding of a life partner. Love is in the air, and was captured in your wedding dress, your pictures, and is reminded with congratulations. Infinite love surrounds you as you become overwhelmed and well... start to cry.
As long as those tears are tears of joy, you have not a thing to worry about my dear....
Enjoy the newlywed feeling! It's euphoric isn't it?

Good luck with your marriage and your lives together!

the1andonlystory

your hormones are raging. i mean first of all u went through all this and then just eloped. in the back of your mid, you are probably thinking, "why did i waste all this time and become so stressed when i just got eloped??" and another reason i think you are crying is cause, this is new! marriage is GREAT (if its with the right person) it's just like when a woman has a baby, sometimes she can love that child with all her heart, but she is sad (again hormones). it's like so much joy but so much stress of reality. but i think you should tell your husband, if he doesn't already know, how you feel. and i think it will work itself out. it's just us woman, we can be so emotional, lol, j/k!! good luck!

puppies.sunshine

maybe you are already 'expecting'? could be hormones

spring

See a psychiatrist, he will be able to help you!! Don't let any hidden problem affect your happy marriage. Congratulations!! Hope you get well soon.

shadez b

are you pregnant too? Could be hormones. Maybe you're just glad its over, but sad that its over too. you want to relive the moment, most women are at their most beautiful and men at their handsomest. The feeling you two had looking at each other and saying your vows is pretty intense. The feeling of not thinking you can love anyone any more than you do at that moment..and now its gone and all you have are your memories...but don't be sad-you'll have many other great moments too.

Lively

Sweetie, it's a life transition and very emotional. Give yourself a break. Crying is a release and maybe you were so focused on planning the wedding that the enormity of your love and commitment hadn't hit you yet.

My other theory is that on some level, maybe you are grieving the loss of a "dream" wedding, if you ever had that "dream" like many girls do.

Either way, I'm sure that the crying will stop once you are a bit more settled. Just chalk it up to being an emotional time. Best of luck to you and best wishes with your marriage.

Wendy B

I didn't have that happen. I am wondering if they are sad tears or happy tears of the memory? Are you disappointed that you didn't have a "regular" wedding instead of eloping? You can always have another wedding, perhaps for your 5th or 10th anniversary.......Good luck.

kimison_au

Is it perhaps a regret issue that you have? While you say you had a great wedding, are you now wishing that your friends and family were there too?

If not, maybe you are just drained and need a little r&r......

Good luck, you'll be ok

mich

You'll stop eventually! I think that you're sad that you eloped instead of the big stressful wedding. Why don't you renew your vows in ten years and have a reception then?

justme

Maybe having a small, informal reception will help. It could just be that you didn't go with tradition and you need to share it with family and friends.
Good luck and congratulation!
I wish you all the happiness that life has to offer.

supernova

Congarts...u are a sensitive person.

ask me ?

Is it because of the stress level you were in was so high, and the way you ended up getting married wasn't really what you wanted and now you're feeling it? That's the only thing I can think of.

Lucas G

Well of course it got to me a little. But i'm a guy. My wife didn't stop crying till 1 month after and she still wimpers a bit.
It's just a regular reaction. You might feel a bit bad because you didn't get to do it with your family but it'll go away. Your just feeling what you feel like feeling. Only you can say why or how you do something. I cried because it was all so new. I got my wife and everything happened so fast. I wish that it could've lasted longer!! Your just reacting to your feelings. Don't feel bad about feeling sad. What you are crying are tears of joy happiness and adventure. Don't worry about anything you wanted or did do. Just look to the future. Maybe if you still don't feel better talk to your husband about it. Express your feelings. It's totally Normal!!

Hope I helped!! Have a great life and Congratulations!!

Melanie J

You were stressed and now the stress has been removed, so you are crying as a release. It will stop fairly soon.

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