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lynnn30
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I think you are not ready to be married. I think you feel the grass may be greener on the other side, But what will happen you are going to be ALONE if you keep it up. |
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Tammy
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First of all if you truly think your in love with two men, then you don't know what true love is. I would say to stay with your fiancee, but if he is such a wonderful guy then maybe you should let him go until you learn what true love is, so that you don't destroy a good man. The problem with old flames is that they are old flames for a reason and should be extinguished. Good Luck and I hope you make the right choices for you and your children. |
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you are not a good person |
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marleen
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Well honey you should choose only one and cut out the other because this would only affect you in the long run. I dont know but remember make sure you analyze the pros and cons of the person... Remember you can only be with one of them... I would choose the man who is safe and secure... Remember that your decisions molds your future... |
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older girl
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Stay with the fiance. The reality of losing old flame is just kinda freakin you out when you are about to get married.
Yes, you can be in love with 2 men, but got to choose now. |
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thats not love thats what you like. |
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Heyvenn
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if my girl treat me like that,i will give her a slap. |
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Gizzy
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i was having this problem just a few months back, it was just after i had announced the wedding and blamed my feelings on cold feet. i would always start arguements because i wasnt sure about walking down the aisle, i kept thinking how could i be getting married to someone when i can start having feelings for someone else. then we just talked, it wasnt easy but everything was lain out... i realized i was seeking some things in this other guy that i thought i couldnt get from my fiance. and i realized some things that were the same from my end. you really should re-evaluate your relationship and try and talk with your fiance... when it gets to the point of engagement there is something more than just a crush there... try to work it out... good luck |
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kathyw
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Would the 'every day a new adventure' be good for your children? They have routines in their lives and schools to attend. Is that dull routine going to be boring fo the adventuresome guy? Can he keep that style going forever or will he think your life is dragging him down with too many responsibilities? You can be 'in love' with two different men but you can't keep both of them in your life if one is always going to want to pull you away.
Can you be pulled away when you have children and responsiblities? Think about that and whether you can have this guy in your life for the long term. You are engaged to one man. If you chose him, I think you should rethink what it means to commit yourself to a relationship. You're engaged and still looking outside the relationship? Maybe you shouldn't be engaged then - it's not fair to your fiancee. |
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Johnny B
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You can be in love with hundreds of men as this is what Ho's do. Make your mind up what you really want in life because if you settle for second best it will never work out in the long term. If you can't decide then don't commit to anyone. |
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autobot032
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The everyday, new adventure would be great for YOU. Not your kids. Well, let me rephrase that...it would be great for you for now. In the long run you'll regret it and it'll gnaw at you, knowing you got rid of the right one so you could sow your wild oats. You should have done that a long time ago.
Sounding quite selfish to me, you better take a step back and find out what your heart really wants before you destroy a slew of lives in the process of making yourself happy...for the moment.
Oh and here's an idea...ask the kids who they prefer. That's something you *need* to know. |
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Montesa
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You can't have your cake and eat it too, sounds like you want perfection...you want the best of both worlds.... |
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nobody_000
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ok u can't possibley fall in love with 2 men.
and i can see ur problem is u feel guilty towards to the person ur engaged to. and probabley love the other person.
or u love the person ur engaged with and the old lover is just a infatuation.
but to be honest with u. u need 2 find out who u are be4 u committ 2 either of these relationships.
i dont want 2 be rude. but i think u want ur cake and eat it too. don't be 2 greedy. be happy with what u have. coz otherwise u'll loose both and regreat later on. |
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tweak111
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The fact that you walked away from your old flame for your future husband should tell you something.
Perhaps you did this for security's sake, thinking more of your children than yourself, which is natural.
If you are so uncertain and still love your flame, then I would not marry your fiance yet as you are not quite ready.
Give it some serious thought before you make a commitment to anyone.
It will not be easy being in a marriage when you love someone else, despite the security, and divorce comes at a very high cost. |
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MANGO FACE
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Just call off the wedding until you are sure. life has ups and downs, nobody can make every day thrilling. you are obviously not seeing all sides to the wilder man.. the safe man as you say is just content and doesnt feel the need to act like a wildchild. maybe youre not used to having a good man in your life |
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L
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you will eventually break one's heart.... so be wise ..... and pick.... otherwise its not fair to keep both...... |
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the golf
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The heart wants what the heart wants!!! But if you intend on hurting any one of them, you going to loose both! Now you need to decide here and now. If you were even serious in the first place, you wouldnt have ever kept in touch with an "old flame" at all. Grow up and stop acting like a 14 yr old gilr, stick with the choice u already made, ditch the old flame. END OF STORY!!! |
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punxsutawney phil
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No you can't.
(in) Love includes respect and morals. If you have feelings for another, you are lacking both of these. |
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kay kay
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Think about both of them and think who you could imagine sharing the rest of your life with and if both are suitable then I can't help you with that but I think the fiancee would be the best bet but i have no idea i don't know you nor either of these guys. So Good Luck!! |
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Cochy
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Well, why did you break up with your old flame in the first place? 9 out of 10 times, the same old problems resurface.
Honestly, you have made a commitment and you should not have said yes if this other guy was on the radar as well. You should really cut the ties with your ex and move on with life. You mentioned that you have children? Have you thought about how this would affect them? They believe that you're about to marry this guy... that he is going to be their step dad. Abruptly changing your mind like that hurts and it creates an unhealthy, unsettled environment. Besides, don't you want to set a good example for them?
Look ahead and not back. I broke up with someone I was with for 5 years and it took me over a year (without talking to him) to fully get over him. Now, I'm glad it worked out that way. I'm much happier with my fiance. |
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Mutton w/ dumplings
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The best thing for you to do is to follow your heart and think long and hard before making your final decision.
Try to think back to the time when you were involved with the old flame and why you chose your husband over him. If you decide to stay with the man that you are engaged to, it would be best to break all ties from the old flame; and vice versa. |
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treynoldie3
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i don't think so |
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onenonlymanna
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You can't be in love with two people at the same time you can love two people at the same time....if you r having doubts figure them out before you walk down the aisle. And what about your children. All the bouncing around can't be good. If you are in love with the new guy cuts ties with the old. The exes are usually an ex for a reason. |
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Silence
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You can have feelings for both of them, and while I think it is possible to love both in different ways, I believe you will have stronger feelings towards one of them. I think you need to choose one and stick with your decision. If it were me, it would be the secure and safe one. |
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~Ta Da~
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I dont think you should make a decision unless you are so certain that you wont doubt the person you picked, otherwise its going to be a long hard painful process something you wish you could have done over again and you will most likely always be living the "what if" life. Good luck though, I hope you realize what's truly important. |
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Greg
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No, that's not mature romantic love. |
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U R soooooooooooo
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Why did you allow such a thing? |
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Samantha
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this is a hard one. but i say stay with what you have because it sounds really nice and you would regret leaving him. good luck honey! |
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lily
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Safe and secure makes a better family man. Consider the impact of the men on your children as well, not just yourself. It is possible to love more than one man, the heart never lets go of a lost love. However, human love is infinite and you find another without giving up the first. My mom still has feelings for her high school sweetheart and wonders what if, even though she loves her husband. It is normal. Think now, what would be best for your life, for you, and for your children. |
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â™ Mrs Reznorâ™
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if you love mr safe and secure, stay with him, you have kids so safe is good. |
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