Can I start my life over at 30 years old now that my husband is leaving me?

berkshire1043

You can start over at 30 ( i did at 32), 40 , 50 , etc.

My mom supported me as a child on her own, and went to MBA school in her thirties.

Some people start over at 30 or 40 or even 50.

I've known some that have done so. You can do what you need to.

sensitivity78

30? Baby, the best years are ahead...Live on...Love on...

vosy2006

You can always find your life back after returning back to singlehood again, there are many things you can do and further more 30 is still young. Life is short don't let one man ruin your whole life, believe me there are still better guy out there. Importantly you must have confident in yourself and do not make him feel like life without him you can't survive, be strong and prove to him you can do much better and happier without him, since he choose to walk out of you.

Hope you find your true self back again.

bad_timing2

You deserve better than him anyway so spread your wings and fly.

scpathfinder

I am so sorry that you are hurting. Based on personal experience the hurt, restoration of self esteem and getting past the feelings of rejection will pass. And yes, there is another person that will love you in return and I'm sure you will find one another sometime; but I would not try to force the issue, let it happen naturally. As to your financial situation, I would only say that you can make it happen with effort and planning.
You are only 30 yo Dear - so hang tough and keep your smile.
Have a great Sunday

thepregnantchef!

absolutely. my fathers wife left him last year and hes now happier and better off financially than ever. she is making life hell through an awful divorce but he has met a nice lady who is helping him with the emotional part. life goes on and you never know whats around the corner.

juliette

It will be ok. You can do all things in Christ which strengthen you.

Remember , you were born awhile back not being able to do much but cry alot ..so ok..for a little while you will probably cry alot..then that will let up as you learn to do new stuff..like taking walks..like looking for work, etc. You will be ok. Don't worry.

I will be praying for you to learn to not worry.

Mutya P

As long as you live, life must go on. Try to think positive and always expect the unexpected so as not to be upset. For sure you learned from your sad experience. Be brave to stand on your own two feet.
Take care and GOD BLESS THE CHILD.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!!!!!!!!!

Angel

Yes, Yes Yes to all your questions! My best friend went thru it & of course she had the same questions as you...but now she said it was the best thing that ever happened to her. Trust her, you will survive! God Bless & help give you strength thru this difficult time. And there is the right someone out there, waiting for you.

Lovely G

age is not a question in love if u find someboby who loves u take care of u tell him all ur earlier story if he is ready than please go ahead life has no end point enjoy it all the best to u

jvw2300

This is the time to get a game plan. See what you can do to get your finances together. See if you can get alimony and/or child support. If not see what jobs you can get if there are any financial assistance out there such as free health care, low cost housing etc. Seek some mental support whether it is family, friends, church. He doesn't sound like the nicest of guys so a good therapist will help deal with the pain and any issues you had during your marriage. Maybe you should seek other housing even if it has to be going home. Worrying about him coming back and ending the marriage is such a burden that you shouldn't have to go through alone. Take the power out of his hands and put it in yours.

free_angel

He's away right now and you're still surviving. You'll be alright, you're doing fine so far.

a c

Your life can start again be free and fly!

Billy Bob

30 is young, so yes, you'll get over it and you have many men out there to replace him with. As far as finances, if he's leaving you for no good reason, take him to court and get alimony. You never feel like you'll be able to get past huge, negative events in your life while there happening. That's when you just have to use your head and know that "this too shall pass" I always remind myself of God's words"Be still and know that I am God" Put it in his hands and things will work out for the best.

Gem (:

Of course you can love, life goes on :)

Natasa

I'm afraid nobody can really answer that, because what you're asking is fortune telling. everything is in your hands. I guess you need to find a job (if you don't have one). If you'll meet another guy? Probably, just don't get desperate searching for him, 'cause you'll achieve quite opposite. I'd suggest, get yourself some nice hobbies, meet new people, cure your heart and don't (!) rush into a new relationship. Time does miracles. Give time a time ok? and everything will be solved, I'm sure.

lollypop

It is only over if you let be over for you. You are still young.I was married for ten years and i was 29 when i divorced. Met someone and have been with him for 8 yrs.He loves my children and I.He takes very good care of us.

marilynfsmgm

i just got remarried at 43. get a job now,two if you need to. have your stuff packed and dont look back. he has emotionally let go and you need to look at him as someone who doesnt care about you. look at all the negative and move on. no one is worth the pain and suffering. think about being free,not having to listen to anyone,doing whay you want , and best of all checking out all the guys out there and not having to feel guilty about it.

Sahiba D

u can even start ur life 1 second b4 ur death .so u r single to mingle.get started with a new spirit 4get wht happened.it was a bad past.go on and rock ur life.all da best

im sorry to hear that.. things happen for a reason. God must have some good plans in store for you,, hang in there..

pete

the hurt will go away and your 30's and 40's to me, are the best time of your life- i'm 42. life for you is a long way from being over. you have a lot ahead of you. it just takes time. and you will find some one who will love you again, maybe even better- probably better because you are more mature now and will look at things differently. don't wait for him to come back, start your new life now. the hurt won't start to go away until you start to move ahead- good luck

Holly Golightly

You can and will!

Kaboom

You can certainly start over...and have the life that you always envisioned for yourself. Read Anthony Hopkins books, do things that empower yourself....build on your self confidence. Anything is possible in your life. I started over at 40....no money, made new friends, went back to school, got a great job - working for myself I might add, met the man of my dreams and now have absolutely everything that i ever wanted. While not a perfect life, that would probably bore me, I am happier than I have ever been....and i am not 50 yet. You are very young still.....do things for you, exercise, eat right, have friends that are doing things that you would like to be doing and go....don't turn back!!!!! Have a Happy Holiday season, it is your turn to shine.

Fran M

Whoa, lady you have the bull by the horns, the world by the tail, etc.etc. At thirty or even forty years old, you have a better chance to do anything your heart desires. Go back to school, or college, take some helpful courses and something for fun. You have youth on your side. I am 63 and i work and am satisfied financially, thinking of going to the local college and taking Spanish, (it will help me in my job),also thinking of taking something just for fun . I havent got past the hurt of my divorce after 30 years and maybe ill meet that new person at school, someone to help me move on.use your past experience , to keep from making same mistakes. Girl you got it all, use it.There are many women in worse situations.

A friend of Bill W

Sweetie, yes. You will be able to move past this hurt. Right now, everthing seems overwelming, but you will figure things out as you go. If you have trouble dealing with things, seek counseling. Your pastor is more than willing to help you sort things out. At the age of 30, you will find you are just begining to come into yourself. God bless.

GJax

Of course you can - I did! Begin right now - save $, call a friend, go back to school (which is where I met my soul mate and love of my life).

bella

you can start your life at any time enjoy your freedom get up there you can now feel free not to worry about anyone and isn't it great to be 30 go for a trip somewhere believe life can be good without a man.

Tony T

Your thirty years old still young life is still ahead of you do you

Rita

First of all - 30 is not an OLd age - you are still very young,
YES you will definately get another good partner only if u wait for the best to come and don't hurry for the first who comes.
Ur priority now should be Financial Independenc , if u r educated u can definately stand on ur own 2 feet.
U will have harder times to come Be ready to face it bravely.
If u r ready for a war - it becomes easy to fight.

Joe_Filatio

Yes you can start over. It seems frightening, I know. and It's painful, Yes. But now would be the time to reach out to family and friends for support. have you and he discussed counceling? starting over at 30's not going to be as hard as you think. just take things one at a time and try not to dwell on stuff that you have no control over. one step at a time. good luck to you.

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