Can my husband be cheating?

Drew G

Oh he is cheating. Find a good lawyer and get him out. You don't have to leave when you can take everything.

Fader's Girl

Dont sound good honey, im sorry.

mental

This sounds like your suspicions just might be correct. Why wouldn't you have anywhere to go? Do you work? Depending on where you live, how long your have been married, whether or not you have kids...there are a lot of factors that would determine what resources you have available to you. First thing I would do is get a hold of the legal aid office in your area and start asking questions and then make a plan.

skyedogrocks

I think you know the answer to this question already.

Coming home late, she's bringing him home....do the math.

hiiiya.

You're not being paranoid. Trust me. It's not lookin good.

Sandy B

Obviously something is not right. You need to confront him on a more serious level or just do they crazy pyscho wife thing and go to her house. She won't be able to lie to you as good as he does. You deserve to know the truth, so find out!!!!

phorwanted

It sounds as though he is having an emotional affair if it hasn't already moved to a physical one. Get the book "Not Just Friends" by Shirley Glass, PhD. It is available on the internet or in major book stores for under $15. Check out her web site http://www.shirleyglass.com. under the Q&A heading. Share this information with your husband. Remember...you are his wife and remaining calm, if he is in fact telling the truth, and you are above the OW. This is not an easy thing to get through.
My first calm question to him would be "If your friendship wth this person is so important don't you think it wouold be a good idea for me to meet her? I know all your other friends." The answer to this question will result in in you knowing for sure if he wants this friendship to be more.

D. Carmichael

It sounds very suspicious. Don't let him throw having nowhere to go up in your face, in life there are at LEAST two options in every situation, there is usually one that's easier than the others but there is always another option, if you wanted to bad enough you could find a way to survive on your own.

mike

seems like he's an ***. sorry but he probably is..

Maro's mom

Sadly yes,most likely he is,so why can't you leave him???? can't you work and have a life of your own?!!!! Its not good that he knows that you can't go anywhere he would definitely take an advantage of it

Bleachlady.com

You have got to calm down. Sit down with him and have a serious talk. No pointing fingers. Say what you just said and get it all out in the open. Be honest and communicate with him. You will get your answers.

danigirl

You probably aren't having those thoughts and gut instincts for no reason go with your gut.

Cerine

Well, you always have choices, TRUST me!, you don't have to stay in a bad relationship!
You need to look into some support places for your area, that can help you with getting on your feet and staying there.
I don't know if your husband is Cheating, It certainly sounds like he has the ability and just might.
Also, from what he has said, He might count on the fact that you feel you can't leave, to Just do what he wishes because you'll still be around.
Maybe he needs a slap up side the head to realize what he has and chose what he wants, You as his wife, or to be by himself.
Look into your options! Don't let him make you think you don't have any!

sunbun

this is my theory....do not accuse one of adultry unless u have proof or have caught them in the act...possibly u just need other things to occupy your time....like a job....etc

alikilee

I don't know if he's cheating or not. But he is certainly not concerned with your feelings. You've expressed to him that it hurts you yet he doesn't care. Either way, I would begin to look for a way out. You deserve to be with someone who loves and respects you. This man obviously does not. Good luck. BTW, if he is verbally or physically abusive, you do have a place to go.

Chelly

Wow...that doesn't sound good. I don't want to say that he's cheating...but it sure sounds like it.

Nitha

Pl go for the job.

Regards

Caroline

I don't think you are being paranoid- his behavior certainly is strange and he should be kept close eye on. Women have a great sense of when something is going on and you may be right. Watch him closely for now, without accusing him- it will only make him more suspicious. If you do catch him though, it's up to you how to go about this, whether you will want to patch things up or leave him. Start socking away some money into an account he does not know about and has no access to, just in case you need some cash. I've been divorced before and my motto is "trust no one"- you never know when someone will pull something on you and you need to be prepared. Good luck to you!

Joe Carcuss

Does sound like you have much of a life with this guy. It also sounds like chances are pretty good that he IS cheating on you. As a professional married man, I have NEVER needed to call a woman I work with at home nor have I went out with any women I work with after hours unless it was in a group setting.

I suggest you spend a day following him. See what is really going on.

asalove04

He could be but if you want to know follow him around.

Lady Dee

SURPRISE HIM AND LEAVE DARLING. SHOW HIM YOU CAN MAKE IT WITHOUT HIM FOR SURE.

Nana

Hold on a minute. You can "push" him right into another woman's arms just by being so suspicious.
There is some truth in having a "gut" feeling about these things. If your gut is telling you he is cheating, then you have two options. You can forgive him and stay in the marriage (some people can maintain in a relationship and overcome), OR you can get out and be self-supportive (which isn't so bad).
You should be considerate of how you make him feel. What I mean is, if you continually nag him about things, he is not going to respond the way you need him to.
Sometimes, no matter what you do to encourage a person that your love for them is true, they will still walk the other way, leaving you feeling helpless and alone.
If you love him and want to stay, I suggest that you seek out the qualities that made you fall for him in the first place, and act on those things. Reinforce the love you gave to him when you felt as though you were the only woman in his life. Bring him into REMEMBRANCE!
This may work and it may not. You have to be patient and remember that if he loves you, he will not leave you. But you have to make yourself love-able and not push him away.

Good Luck,
NaNa

idesign74

Do a little detective work and catch him if you are suspicious. When you ask questions like who, what, where, why. See how he acts and answers. You gut is telling you he's cheating but these accusations can really screw relationships up when they could be false. Has intimacy been lacking lately? does he come home really late? Is he out often?

Take a loot at the cell phone bill and see how many times he talks to this girl and for how long. Follow him someday and see what he really does when not around you. If he is an obvious flirt around other women, chances are he will cheat or has been.

holdontowhatyouhave

It could be possible, but the real problem isn't him, you only have control over your own actions, you might not be able to stop him from, doing what ever it is, he wants to do , but you can change your own life for the better, if you really love him, and you want to stay, to be with him and that is your choice, regardless of whether or not he is, or will cheat, then you might want to concentrate on what ever it is that made your relationship go south, it takes two to tango, and not just him, but both of you got yourself to this point somehow, to begin the healing process, try open communication, tell him your concerns, We all need to be treated respectfully, ask him to put himself in your shoes, so he can maybe see your perspective a little better, like how would he feel if you were carrying on with another man the same way, try doing some of the things that attracted him to you in the first place, sometimes we forget men want to be put on a pedestal sometimes to just like we do, your love can heal this marriage, but don't lose the love for yourself in the process, or it's not worth it. God Bless.

you have to think and come out with something that would make him think that you can leave him or worse ... he's just taking you for granted ... you should do something about it ... how can you just carry on with him in this fashion !?!?!

cmalibu1

Whoa,
What it sounds like is going oon is your husband seems to be rebelling against parts of this relationship. Not that he doesnt love you or that he is cheating, but he is making a point of telling you he will do whatever he wants, when he wants it.

There has to be a way for you to gain back some control in this relationship. Not control in the sense of you have the upper hand, but the aspect of respect for one another and the wishes each have. Its the whole 50/50 idea.

I think you should sit him down, and seriously discuss this issue with him. Tell him how you feel. DONT accuse him of cheating but tell him how you feel when he says things (like what he said before) and that you dont want to live with your relationship like this, because you love him.

wish I were

Honey, YOU don't have to go anywhere. File for divorce and throw HIM out! Yes, it sounds like he's having a affair. If you feel it, it's happening. Start saving up so if this marriage falls apart, you won't be caught without any money. Start putting things in your name. Start talking to attorney's without him knowing so you can get prepared. Don't let him push you around like that! He's got you over a barrel now, but if you get your things in order, you can show him that he isn't as smart as he thought he was! Good luck honey, stand up for yourself!!

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