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C Med
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Some would argue that adult oriented websites are not addictive.
But, I believe they are. They prey on the basic human desire.
They can affect marriages, friendships, and even jobs.
My suggestion is to let him know that you are concerned but
do not bash him...This can be overcome....
Here is a litte website that can help......
Good Luck |
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only_4_you
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YES YOU CAN MY EX-HUSBAND WAS!! |
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Purple4Me
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He's not going to stop. What you have to do is to get records of everything he's doing. You might need it later if you decide to bail out. |
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dividedselfhood
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I think your husband needs to work on his self-control issues. |
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katinalln
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im having a similar problem, but as of yet it hasn't got to the stage as your situation. if i had found out about the new websites that would of been the last straw. i pray that your situation works out and that it makes you a stronger wiser woman. i know that my experience has opened my eyes and made me see what is really important: ME |
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Nina
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It is definately addictive and often leads to dating. Find out what his fetishes are and discuss them with him. He is obviously looking for something you aren't giving him and he thinks may be taboo for you. Get on his level and surprise him if you can. I've taked to hundreds of married men who do just as he does and all of them say their wives refuse to collaborate with them. You MUST talk it through with him and then accidentally on purpose break the comp. |
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taketwo
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what it means is he doesn't love you. only for quick bonk after watching what ever he has been watching. |
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Big R
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hes not being satisfied in the bed room or he has a fetish that he likes, |
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!!~IrIsH AtHlEtE~!!
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YeS you can indeed it can ruin your marriage it ruined my sisters.... |
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Sentinal
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It is addictive. And unless something drastic is done, prob wont stop. Just a ideal, since you know his "secret" email, make one on your own, contact him and let him hang himself, them print it out, and tell him that if he presest, this will be intered in divorce court. |
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ETxYellowRose
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My daughter had the same problem and what she did was look up a bunch of websites made for the ladies.
Then when she knew he was looking, she went to them.
She did not clear the history so he knew what she was looking at.
He felt it was perfectly acceptable for him to do it but not for her.
He got very jealous, voiced his dislike of it.
When she told him that as long as he was going to HIS sites, that she was going to go to HERS.
He agreed to stop and as far as she knows he isn't doing it any more.
If he is, then it is not nearly as much.
Men have the tendency to want a woman to do as they say, not as they do. And when you show him that what is good for the goose is good for the gander....He might stop.
If not and the issue bothers you that much.........have him go to counseling with you.
This kind of thing can kill a marriage and you need help before it does. |
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lexmoney_94
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tell him bye and to not let the door hit cha where the good lord split cha!!!!!!! |
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helpif i can
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men can yes |
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Julie
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Hey girl,
I have been there with my husband before. First off, its a problem he has in his head, not a problem with you.
The very first thing you need to do is pray, pray like crazy that God will protect you and help save your marriage. Pray that you can say the right things in the situation. and give complete control to God. Understand that you can't change him, but if you love him and are patient you can reach him.
My husband and I went to marital counseling and agreed that he is not allowed to use the computer until I can find the way to trust him again and then he can use it with the strict knowledge that he is not to break that trust. So far its worked out great. We are both attending church regularly and keeping to our marital vows. I wish you well with the situation. Pray and seek counseling. God Bless you. |
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Sharon P
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Sweety, He has a serious problem... If you have asked him to stop and he won't than that is completely disrespectful and ignorant on HIS part!! And about that new e-mail address, yeah not good...... He maybe talking to women from your area and that is not going to lead to anything good. Mostly likely my dear, he is going to have an affair, give him an ultimatum, Your realtionship or the websites. You shouldn't have to put up with that....Marriage is an oath to love honor and RESPECT one another. If he can't do that then what kind of marriage do you have? If you want to try and salvage whats left of this relationship you need to chuck the computer..... he needs SOLO counseling and the two of you need to attend Marital counseling where there is a mediator to stop one of you from walking out the door before the other is finished talking. I understand how this makes you feel, you need to either get him to understand or you just need to walk away. GOOD LUCK!! |
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Sexy LoVe
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yes men do get addicted to adult websites its weird becuse they have the same thing at home but they insist that they need to look at a screen to fell good. |
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spidermaniii_06
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Join him in his fetish, it might turnout to be pleasurable for you both. Have an open mind and try it out. |
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C-Unit
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My partner also likes certain things- and I buy him adult magazines
the reality is men have to be visually stimulated- whereas women are mentally stimulated.
Because hes doing these things doesnt mean that he doesnt love you or anything like that, and the fact of the matter is all this adult stuff is his fantasy- YOU are his reality and you have to remember that-and the sooner you do the soon you will not be bothered.
I bet if you started looking at hot men he would have something to say-Just tell him how you feel- its not going to stop him doing it but he will understand- then you do things you like to do- its like a hobby (all men are the same) |
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aliviel27
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Get rid of him...he doesn't respect you. Don't tolerate it. |
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bala4u4ever
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