Can you fall out of Love?

Dusty

Yes it happens. Unfortunate.

asmikeocsit

People change and grow.Either they begin to change and grow slowly together or one falls behind the other.When this happens the love is still there but it seems like it should be more,more enhanced.But you are not the same two people any more.Talk to him,you guys have a good chat.A good marriage is a horrible thing to waste.

Blondie

yes u can fall out of love. i did with my bf of 3 years. a lot changed between us and he changed a lot. i broke it off b/c it wasn't working. Good Luck!

*****

Yes, this is what keeps divorce lawyers and divorce courts in business, and I must say, business is booming, especially in Hollywood, and Las Vegas.

elostowpid07

Yes, honey, people can fall out love. How long have you felt this way about your relationship? If you have been trying to work through it for a while now, then maybe it just isn't meant to be. But what you need to do, is sit down and talk about your relationship. You need to look at the things that you have both changed and the way you yourselves have changed, and habits that have become different during those two years. Maybe one of you works long hours and comes home tired and goes straight to bed. Maybe you don't have enough communication. But yes, just sit down and talk about things. That usually helps, and maybe the relationship isn't working anymore because you are doing the same things over and over. Maybe you need something new in the relationship. There are many possiblities. But I don't think that it's too late. It's never to late to try to work things out with your husband.

realstylesint'l

Well, you say the relationship has not been perfect. If there have been problems, you two can find a way to work out the problems. Get to the root of the problems. Talk to him. Don't keep it in. Be honest and let him know how you feel, but be tactful. I can suggest marriage counseling or something. Do not throw in the towel too quickly. I hope it is not a situation where you two are at odds, or he is abusive. If not, I think there is hope. If you are bored, there are things you two can do to fix that and spice up your marriage.

giddy up gal

After just two years, you're feelings are going to change. You are going to have good and bad times. The "phases" are going to sometimes be long, sometimes short.

Don't give up on your marriage because you feel different... accept that everything changes, including relationships. See what it is that you do like and what you don't. Bring out the good, and diminish the bad.

Feeling bored? Spice things up.

There would never be any progress if things did not change.

Lots of luck!!!

lunatic

It has been my experience that true love can neither be created nor destroyed. You don't really fall into or out of love. Your level of attraction, both physically and emotionally does, however, change with time. Too many people confuse this emotional change with a change in love.

Yes, you may indeed love your husband, but perhaps it is more like the love you feel for your family members and not the love you should feel for a mate. As your emotional attraction decreases, you are finding out that the type of love you feel is not what it's supposed to be and never really was.

lilneis

yes as easily as it is to fall in love

Cricket

This has happened to me. I still love him, but I am no longer in love with him or able to love him the way he deserves to be loved by a wife. We are separating as soon as my income will support the household. Right now he sleeps at one end of the house and I sleep at the other.

You need to let him know how you feel. He deserves that much at least.

JustWant2B

you can fall out of love but I don't agree with the people that say as easy as you fall in love. Falling in love can happen rather quickly. I believe falling out of love gradually happens over time. You say that you still love him so if there isn't abuse I believe its not too late. When you are away from him do you still miss him or feel relieved? Thats how I knew when over time instead of missing him I felt relief when he was away.

babeUK

relationships do change over time...you can't have that intense buzz all the time; our bodies wouldn't cope with it. Maybe you are feeling love but not "in love"? And that can work long term if you are prepared to work at it.

A hard call, I'd say, with no easy solution. Sorry.

MISHELEI

WELL IMONLY 17 AND IM NOT SURE IF U CAN FALL OUT OF LOVE BUT MAYBE U JUST NEED TO TALK TO HIM LET HIM KNOW HOW U FEEL AND WATZ GOING O WITH U TELL HIM HHOW U FEEL THAT THE RELATIONSHIP HIS FALLIN APART AND MAYBE IT WILL WORK OUT BUT IF NOT THEN JUST MOVE ON

BelleVie

Definetly STAY and WORK IT OUT.
"still love him but I just feel different"
If you mean different is boring you can jazz up your romance again, do the dating scene again with your husband or discuss this with your husband. Best of luck to you.

â™¥Miss Xâ™¥

yep, it's sad, but true!

okieangel03

I would say talk to your husband and see if he feels the same way, maybe you guys can put some flare back into the relationship. I would definitely try to work through it with my spouse.

Serenity

no, because if you do, then it was never really love..

steve_mksmith

Yes you can fall out of love. You have different goals in life. You need to find some other guy with your life goals

prue_haliwel

its not too late... you said you still love him so its never gon be too late..you just feel different because you almost do everything with each other it seems like youre just getting fed up... you need to spice things up, if you feel that he still loves you and hes not changing, you should make a move now before its too late, try to go out on a date like what you used to before you get married... try to have quality time not talking about anything serious or anything that will cause an issue or a fightm just laugh with each other get crazy go wild and be free from stressful life... when you feel that youre happy being with him still, then youll find out the answer, you can fall out of love if you want to and not do anything to save your relationship.. but if you like someone new i can tell you can really easily be fall out of love..

geet840

Im not sure how seriouos these feelings are, or for how long you have been having them... Sometimes it is just natural to start to feel like maybe there is more out there for you and it could start to feel confusing. I know that during my relationship there have been times where I was attracted to someone else and even had fantasies about pursuing it, it made me think that my relationship must be ending otherwise why would I be feeling like that? In the end it was really that there were some things we needed to sort out, and we ended up even stronger in the long run, and I couldnt even imagine hooking up with that other guy! Relationships have many ups and downs and it can be hard to determine if it is meant to be or not... If you are feeling differently towards him try to pin point what it is that is making you unhappy... there has got to be something that has changed and maybe you guys can work on it... try to liven up the relationship somehow and give it that fresh realtionship feeling... If you are still feeling like you are unhappy then you might want to think about making a change.
My suggestion is to try to sort it out if you can. And in answer to your question YES of course people fall out of love... it happens every day

kstout420

yes! it happens everyday! people change and habits come out over the years.

unworthychild

Love is often mistaken as an emotion. As we all know emotions, by nature, are volitile. Love is really an action. It is a commitment to be with someone and to care for them no matter what, even if we don't "feel" like it. You feel different because the newness and excitement may be dwindling into a life that is ordinary and familiar. Don't give up on the relationship. It is never too late. If you need to, seek help, but never give up!!

Chrissie

No, I dont think you can. I think if you realize that you dont love someone, then it wasn't love to begin with... It is lust.

Lust can make you feel like your desperately in love, but when it is all said and done and you have no more romantic feelings for someone, then the lust is gone.

True love lives forever.. even when your apart

mikewolcott

Only you can answer your own question and make that decision.
Two years is a very short time to be married and already questioning it.

Have you considered going for marriage counseling? If he is unwilling to go, then you will have to seek counseling on your own to figure out why there has been such a big change in two years.

You have to figure out what things have changed - and once you do figure this out, decide if the changes are that important for you to stay or to leave.

Good Luck!

realstyles2

if he is an abusive, immature idiot who has no sense or understanding, doesn't listen, and can't seem to reason and you two are always fighting, then call it quits. if he is a good man, but you just feel bored, then you two can make things right. maybe the marriage just needs some spicing up. sometimes that happens. do talk with him, and see a marriage counselor. but you both have to be willing to make it work.

monkeymom

Stay and work through it (unless you're being abused). Feelings change over time - a marriage doesn't mean that you're "honeymooners" all the time. Love is much deeper than that. You could also talk to your doctor about possible horomonal changes - this could be affecting you physically (and it's normal). Get Dr. Phil's book "Relationship Rescue" - it explains a lot of things.

angel girl

I don't know that you actually fall out of love with the person, but you can grow apart from them. Feeling different may be a sign that you need to assess your situation. How exactly have your feelings changed? You may just need to revisit what made you love him to start with. It is unfortunate, but some couples do grow apart and can not make it back to where they once were. I wish you all the best luck in making your decision. I am sure that it will be a difficult one.

scp98k

That's what marriage is for. It holds you together until you fall back in love. All relationships go through phases. The bliss you might have felt when you first married cannot be maintained, BUT it does return and it's usually a lot stronger when it comes back on the foundation of a deeper relationship with your spouse.

uimblue

yes iam so out of love and you took the words right out of my mouth sister

spike_star16

.. yeah... its a painful and very tiresome situation but eventually it happens.

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