Can you have a happy relationship without communication?

Evilest_Wendy

If he hasn't yet, he probably won't start.

ckm

8 years together and NOW you want him to start communicating? Don't think it's going to happen... and no, it's not good for most relationships but after 8 years together it seems you've been making it work.... I couldn't be happy that way....

depends how you think... to me it is simply impossible

A M

You can have a relationship but not a happy one if he is not speaking to you.

colette h

You cant change him. Thats a fact. However, you could tell him that you are concerned, and wonder what goes on in his head sometimes, as he doesnt tell you. Make light conversation rather than be uptight, so he doesnt feel that you are accusing him of holding back.... You could also suggest that he make an effort to have conversation with you every now and then as sometimes you feel as if youre living on your own lol. I hope he's capable of asking you how you are, how your day has been etc. Maybe he makes up for it in other ways you havent told us about, wink wink

FRAGINAL-NOYPI

Bear with him otherwise you lose him as your husband.
Be patient but try to communicate with him by all means.

bizzarojames

No! Communication is key for a happy and long lasting relationship. Just remember to be honest as well. Do you feel something is missing? Talking about nonsense is ok once in a while and maybe good for a laugh, but communication is not limited to speech. Evaluate what you think you need to talk about. Make sure you have not gotten your answer(s) from body language and/or actions. If you feel something is missing and vocal communication is needed, you should be able to talk to him about it and he should be responsive.

BrownThrone

i think it depends on the person, cuz action speaks louder than words.

Marci S

I am a very quiet person. If someone chatty tried to force me to talk I would resent it very much. If you are still happy with him then I don't think you should do anything. If its actually becoming a problem let him know how you feel. Consider talking to a professional who will understand both sides of your situation.

Aleahgirl31548

he's a quiet man. You married him quiet, and if he doesn't love you then he would of never married you. Eight years is quite a while, I suggest you don't dwell on it. :) good luck!

paintballxpert1

all a guy wants is for u to be happy, if u r not happy, u should tell him, trust me, he'll start to answer out of a guilty consious eventually

strictly_maggie

definitely. try to pull it out of him. but if ur ok with him not speaking then thats fine i guess. but dont blind urself with reality

Don K

If he did talk to you, You would just pick a fight with him because you did not agree with what he had to say. Most men learn to shutup early in life. It is the only way a guy can get through marrage.

You just need to know two words, "YES DEAR" and "I'll do it right now dear" helps a lot as well. Oh yeah, "I'm sorry dear" for when you have no idea what it was you did wrong.

I don't have much to say to a marrage partner. I really like to be left alone most of the time. I care for her but have nothing to talk about. I don't have nothing to talk about to my friends either. I'm not intrested in finger nail polish or the new hair colors or what is on sale at walmart. I don't care what Joe next door put in his yard that is his business. I don't care if the woman down the road is cheating on her hubby when he leaves for work every day.

Now if she wants to help me build the new deck and install the solar panels and run the new electric wire and all that kind of things then we would do a lot of talking.

I don't want to talk about wedding dresses and colors of flowers and the suit I will be wearing and all that stuff either. That is something women like to do and talk about. Now if you want me to build something to stand on and you have some ideas of what you want it to look like I'm willing to talk.

Men and women just are not alike and most never do talk much.

Sorry I was babbling again like all men do to everyone but their wife.

Oracle

No.

John B

Men in general are like this. Some are far worse. The only real problem is how you feel about it.

His not talking is not at all a sign he loves you any less. It is just that men do not need to talk unless something really important to him comes up.

I have a sister that is in the same place you are. She can talk your leg off but it is difficult to get him to talk. She just talks to other people and does not let it bother her.

Again, if it bothers you then it is a problem. If you understand it and will not let it bother you then you will be fine.

Not likely he will change.

Donna

I've always believed that the key to a good relationship is communication. Not just with a mate, but with your children, your boss, etc. I think you might be more satisfied in your relationship with healthy communication.

But, ya know, Elvis did say, "A little less conversation, a little more action"!!!! (Listening to that right now!)

whatever

Have you tried telling him how you feel?You probably have but if you haven't,you should.

bones54

some things are better left unsaid.

hottkisser_2006

Girl you need to tell him how you feel becuase if you really love him then you NEED to let him know!!!!!!!!!Good Luck!!!!:)

nurse33

after 8 yrs and still not speaking? if its worked for you this long why mess w/ it? are you lonely?

nic2127

I would just talk to him if it bothers you...try to get him to open up. But I wouldn't be too worried....you've been together for 8 years, so obviously you're both doing something right :-)

hope03

Do his quiet ways bother you? Why only now? You've been with him for eight years. Have they been happy years?

Yes, you can have a happy relationship. People communicate without words and talking. He probably communicates with his eyes, glances, sighs, loving arms...and with the fact that he works hard and comes home to you every night.

Opposites attract. He needs you to bring sound and joy into his quiet world. You need him to listen and provide a stable, safe refuge from the world. Someplace quiet to nest.

If he does not fufill your chatting needs, find a friend. A good husband provides more than chat.

Think of all the things you love about him. :)

Mike

I think so I am a quiet person to but I always talk to my girlfriend but its kind of hard for me to talk to her on the phone or when her Friend are there or allot of people are there so I think yeah you can have a happy relationship you just gotta find a way to make it work

asoka d

name of spritual tantra horr0r

without caring and helping not possile

aqsgtriad

If he's always been like that, why would you expect him to change now?

fitpro11

Some can, some can't, but:

can YOU?
are YOU happy?
really?

A good way to get into his view is to ask him how he sees the two of you in 5/10/15/20/40 years. How does it look to him? He's thought about it, trust that -- unless he's mentally challenged, he thinks more than he talks, and probably doesn't say much UNTIL he's thought about it.

BUT, and this is a big one: if you ask him about what HE thinks, about ANYTHING, and your hours of chatting aren't ALL about YOU, then you may see a HUGE change in the style in which you two communicate. Little by little, he will open up more, if it's about how he thinks, not just what you see.

THAT is the key to communication -- moderating your desire to hear with your desire to be heard...

Good Luck, and congratulations on 8 good years, may the next 8 be even better!
:)

ganja_claus

There is no way you can not communicate.
Each person sends signals all the time, even a smile or a gesture is communication.

In all those 8 years you lost some interest and dont pay attention to his form of communication.
I dare say - no offense - you do the talking for the both of you.

My advice would be you stop some of your speaking and give him some room and attention to develope his :)

ardlesstraveled

I bet he communicates other ways, maybe you can't see them. If he did talk like you, do you think it would be better?

devil_queen_biatch14

well it would be nice wouldnt it? so whats his deal, but u said he has always been this way so u knew what u was gettin into from the beginning

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