Can you help me?

mavrachangawoke

Your wife is going to be hurt. Her experience is very different from your own. She will have a lot of growth from this and will most likely in the end meeting someone. Does not change that right now she will be hurt.
This will be different from what most people will say but stop feeling bad. You will learn from this. Your intention was not to betray your wife. You need to allow her to have her feelings in this. In life we make choices that can put us in a situation where two people can have completely different points of view and both of them are right.
It is OK for her to be heartbroken and for you to be happy and in love. Her husband betrayed her and you have found love. This is the reality of life.
There is a school of though(literally) that our lives are made up of the thoughts we are having. Lots of movies about this right now. The Secret and What the Bleep. Anyway one thing you may do is use intention to create a better outcome with your breakup. Do not think about or focus on the drama you may believe is coming. Instead focus on all of your memories of every time your wife handled things calmly and with strength. See her as a strong person who will take this as an opportunity to find a mate who values her the same way you now value your high school sweetheart.
You don't have to make her be wrong or bad to leave. Decide how you are going to be and stick to it. Be calm and be firm. Just like you could not protect her from you falling in love with someone else you can not protect her from her own journey in life. Intend to have a healthy divorce. Decide now about a fair resolution of property. I am not beating you up about this because you know that it was wrong and hurtful. You really need to man up and ask yourself if you were even ready to be married yet. This is a mess and I hope that you can get some tools from this. Please take the time and learn from this. Don't get married until your ready or this will always be your result.
The truth is you both will survive this. Coming out of it happily will be making the decision to be happy. I really in my deepest heart hope that all three of you find your greatest happiness.

littlerascal711

First......you are the scum of the earth. I hope your wife takes you for everything she can, .......No I cant help you you made your bed...now sleep in it

witch2order

You made marriage sounds so insignificant. Marriage is for better or for worse and from what i read your "worse" surfaced after only 6 months? Come on, if you sacrifice your marriage for a moment of lust you're gonna regret it.

larmarine83

You should grow up

You can't have it both ways, either you love your wife, or you don't, no half way. I could go on and on about how pathetic this is, but there is a quote from a song that i would just love to give you.

Then what?
What you gonna do
When the new wears off
And the old shines through
And it ain't really love
And it ain't really lust
You ain't anybobdy anybody's gonna trust
Then what?
Where you gonna turn
When you can turn back
For the bridges you've burned
And fate can't wait
To kick you in the butt
Then what

Think about it

ellie may

this is terrible terrible TERRIBLE!
Your poor wife.
you should have thought about a divorce before the affair. Maybe spared her some hurt!
Dont just RUN off. Man up to what you have done.
your wife DESERVES that at least.

I probably sound like a ***** but i dont care b/c imagine how YOU would feel if the situation were reversed?

weatheredmom

Get your head out of your butt. 6 months ago you thought your wife was "the one". How young are you?????

ramni222

get down on your knees and ask god to forgive for betraying your wife so totally.

you get some extra stuff and want to bolt.

not very nice.

Elaine

Your wife deserves to be loved, honored, and cherished. She deserves a monogomous relationship with someone who will be honest with her.

You need to tell her the truth, even though it will hurt her. You need to get a divorce and set her free of your lies and infedelity. The rest is up to you.

TABBY

Well I think if you really felt bad Maybe you would'nt be cheating on her! Why not get a divorce first? Oh yeah that would have been the right thing to do! You are having a steamy Affair with your ex because she's a fantasy. ANd just remeber if she would cheat with you a married man then she'll probably cheat on you also. Do your wife a favor and let her go. She deverves better than you!

Mustbe

As the old saying goes..
"The Grass is know greener on the other side"
after the spark is gone with your highschool sweetheart you will always miss the wife after she is gone.

mama_grunther

What should you do??? you asked your wife to marry you till death do you part and then cheat 6 months later.i feel sorry for your wife,but think of this if your H.S. sweety will cheat with you she will cheat ON you.People who do not respect others relationship seldom respect any relationship.Your just a port in the storm old boy.

Whammy

wow, thats a hard one! Are you sure that things will 'last' with the h.s sweetheart, or is it just going to be a "fling" I know there are a lot of girls out there that just want to see if the man would leave their g/f, wife, what have you, just for the satisfaction of knowing they were able to do it, know what I mean. I really hope you make the right choice.

budda

if no kids leave your wife because youve done her wrong and even if she forgives you when she finds out it will always come up at every argueement
she dont need your half attention

specedit1997

sorry to say, but your priority is your wife. You did marry her, not your high school sweetheart.

airman f

that sound like some movie s*** i dunno lol. stay with your wif i guess. cuz divorce hurts. tho this stuff does happen all the time. pll run off with ppl too much XD

tilgor

free your self from both, and straighten out your head, then look at what your doing to people around you.

Si-Lynn

Ever watch the movie Little Children?

If you did maybe you'd know were I'm getting at.

If not...then here:

You can't run away from things. If you want to leave your wife, tell her the truth about yourself and your HS sweet heart. She'll feel like everything was a lie and that you idnt value her enough, to let her know what was really going on with you.

You married her though, and made a commitment. But I understand how you feel. If you really believe you couldnt love your wife the way you do for your HS sweet heart, then yes, you should let your wife go...

But this thing with your 'sweet heart' how do you know this will last?

How do you know the passion you are feeling wont die out?

If the feelings you are describing are what I'm thinking they are. A feeling so genuin, a feeling you couldnt feel for more than one person. The feeling that just lets you know, this is it, this is where I want to be. If the feeling is that strong, so strong.

Then things should be obvious.

Your wife will feel very hurt and betrayed, but your dooming your both with unreal happiness, if you stay.

She deserves to have a husband who feels for her so strongly that he would never question leaving her...

It's up to you.

Do what's right for all three of you.

Explain things to her. Hope for the best.

Si-Lynn

wondermom

Why do people always forget that x's are x's for a reason. If this HS made you so happy then you and her would have still been together.
You are trying to relive a part of your past. A part where you didn't have any responiblity. Not worried about bill ect or the mondane things of day to day life.
If you run away with your HS you will soon remember why you two are no longer together.
May I suggest that you get a divorce reguardless of you choose your HS or not because your wife deserves a husband who is honest and honorable not a cheater

Thinkaboutit

If you do not have children with your wife...then follow your heart. It sounds like your wife deserves a real man that will not hurt her.

Lonely Turkey

YOUR A DOG!! Show some restraint you pathetic little man...and your "lhighschool sweetheart" is a wh**re for sleeping with a married man. Hope I was of some help...

Lisa W

Be honest with her. Get divorced and make the most out of your life.

kristy

how could you that is so bad you should pray for thy fathers forgiveness because when she finds out about your miss hap she will take all your money in the divorce settlement and also spousal support i know i would even if no children involved

tina

i think you should tell her the truth so that she can leave your sorry *** and find a REAL man!

debbie girl

You should do what is right and not what it that you want. You're a married man and you have a responsibility with your family. The saying that "life is short and we should do what would make us happy" is not true. What is right is what we should do. Feeling bad signifies that what you are doing is not right. Talk to your high school sweetheart "SHE" and not your wife should look for someone "MUCH MUCH BETTER than you" Your already belong to your wife and your family, She is not. Passion can pass us by. It disappears with age. But love and respect, we will bring it with us thru old age. Your right, your wife doesnt deserve you, but she accepts it and dont complain. So y should you?

Wow, first off this is something that need to be dealt w/ outside the INTERNET. lol, I mean, go seek counsel or Godly counsel(if a believer in Christ Jesus).

Basically what I see is that, you & your high school sweetheart broke apart, you thought it will never happen again, filled the void w/another female, high school sweetheart shows back up & it's like a refreshing cause you never thought that this relationship would have a second chance.

In my case, since I'm a Christian, I would have sought God before marriage(not saying you didn't, I'm not for sure), & also took it to my pastors so me & my significant other can be talked to one on one about the decision we are making & rather this person is for us. But if there is no higher being that you are subject too then I really don't know what you can do.

putnuck

great,more cheaters.you all come on here wanting to know what you should do,when you already know-QUIT CHEATING

misses.understood

I am a bit confused.

Wha ti read is that, you are married. But you met your high school sweetheart and falling for her again?

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