Chatting with a Married Man?

imonetoremember

Why set yourself up for the heartache? Would you want him to do this to you if you were an item? He's showing that he's not man enough to end things or to keep from venturing outside the marriage when things get tough. Walk away, stay away do what ever keeps you from thinking you were meant to be with this guy because you'll only end up hurting in the end, his wife will be hurting and he will, at some point be in the same situation again. Guys that can't make a definite ending before they start a beginning are immature in the relationship category and most likely in other aspects as well. Take your own advise cause you were on the right track with the homewrecker thing.

U R Sofa King

if you should choose to pursue this relationship, just remember how it began because that is the same way it will end for you, him finding another woman online and you pregnant.

fragile_c

until he gets a divorce, cut it off, you will only be a booty-call

Rachel

He's probably just unhappy because he lives with a pregnant woman. I'd leave it alone.

Lizzie81

Im not judging you, But it just seems wrong. I know you cant help who you fall for. How do you know he is generally unhappy in his marriage and not after another chick? I do know people personally who haven't been happy and thought that bringing a child into the world would fix things - didnt, they're not together anymore. So I really don't know. If it were me i wouldn't do anything until i actually saw divorce papers. Im married and if i found out my hubby was chatting to someone on the net i would feel betrayed.....

hdhayes60

If you have any self-respect, you'll stop communicating with this man. You are becoming one of the "homewreckers" whom you so despise.
The birth of his child could be a positive turning-point in his marriage. Give him the space and the freedom to find out. And just so you aren't caught unawares--If he cheats on his wife, he'll cheat on you also. Give it up, and focus your attention elsewhere.

Namaste

Do you really want a man who is willing do leave his wife and plot a new life with a woman online when his wife is pregnant?

Do you want a man who is going to talk to other women about how much he doesn't love you while your pregnant?

If you end up with this guy, you're getting exactly what you deserve.

G-Man

He is married, don't do it! You will regret it!!!

Amanda B

Do you have any idea what you are getting yourself into right now! He's a married man , about to have a baby. Any guy who cheats on his wife , is a piece of crap especially if she is a good wife. Men who do this usually have a pattern of doing it, they make it sound like their wife is horrible or they just don't love them anymore , or whatever... Please don't allow yourself to think that u are gonna be any different , one day he will do the very same thing to you. I am going through this right now. My husband had a affair when i was 6 months pregnant or thats when i found out he had been seeing her for about 6 months prior to me finding out. And the sad part is the other woman knew he was married and had kids but didn't care. Now he has walked away from us to suit his own happiness ruining mine and my kids life. He plays the both of us , having it two ways , but I am now filing for divorce b/c I know I deserve better than that ! There are hundred's of guys out there that are single why would you pick a married man. And be partly responsible for what is gonna happen. I'm telling you , u should walk away and find someone else ... b/c your in for a BIG surprise.... and heartache in the long run... may b fun now ..but it usually doesn't last

pageant_teen

ok i'm going to put my experience out here and i know i'm going to get alot of bashing but hopefully somebody will read this and not make the same mistakes i made. when i was 17 i met this 26 year old man. we talked and partied but it was nothing serious. on my 18th birthday he asked me to go on a beer run with him. he ended up taking me to a hotel where he had set roses up and the whole nine yards. well when we got back to the party my friend pulled me aside and said he's married! i asked him about it and he denied it so stupid me just thought maybe my friend was jealous. well after that night we started dating pretty seriously spending every minute we could together my parents loved him and even allowed him to sleepover on the weekends. after about 6 mo. of dating he came into my work and waited for me to get off. when i got off he walked me to my car and i could tell something was wrong. when i asked him about it he said his ex girlfriend found out about us and was really upset and i was like ok no big deal she's your past and i'm your future. he grabbed my hand and said babe i can't lie to you anymore, its not my ex girlfriend that found out its my wife. of course i started crying and yelling i mean he had sworn over and over again he wasn't married. come to find out his wife and found some text messages and pictures of us when she went through his phone. the next day when i was in school i got a phone call and i text the number and said sorry i don't know who this is but i'm at school and can't answer the phone. i got a text back saying this is pauls wife and of course i tried to play it off. paul who? it was no use she already knew. i ended up telling her EVERY detail about me and her husbands relationship. shortly after paul text me and said he never wanted to talk to me again of course i told him to f**k off. he ended up calling me that night and asking if he could take me to dinner. i told his wife and she said i should go and talk to him and be honest with him that me and her had talked. so i went and of course he did the whole baby i love u i can't lose u thing. he told me he had left work early to final for divorce. i was overjoyed. we were together another six months before i got a message on myspace from my best friend. he never filed for divorce and his wife (who was eight months pregnant) and wrote a message to every single person on my friends list even my mother telling them everything. my life was ruined the next day at school i was called into the office. even the principal had heard about it (i went to a very small country school). the sorry thing is i still will answer his phone calls and every now and then we'll hang out and party or just go for a drive. its for sure not a dating thing or anything like that anymore. his wife filed for divorce last week. i took a man away from his wife and child without even knowing it...PLEASE DO NOT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE I DID IT WILL RUIN EVERYBODY THAT IS INVOLVED LIFE.

Riverrat715

Have you actually met this man in person? Oh yes, you have this unbelievable connection. Of course you do. You don't know this guy at all. You are asking for nothing but heartbreak. Of course he is unhappy in his marriage, They all are when they are trying to make time with some pretty young unmarried girl. He is expecting his first child and this is how he is treating his wife, the mother of that child. Of course he hasn't made any promises. He can't, he is taken and he is not going to leave his wife for you. When he is done with you he will just walk away because he can't leave his family. Think about it honey. Isn't this what you would tell some other girl who was doing the same thing. Do you want to be a home wrecker? The person who causes his wife pain and suffering? I suggest you stop talking to this guy and find someone who is available.

Im a married women and im married to a man a lot of people want he has girls who tell him to leave me all the time he tells girls he is unhappy all the time but we have been together seven years. he is not going to leave her if not he would of already have and if he does leave her you will always be compared to his wife by his family his friends his unborn child and even him can you live with him making love to you while thinking of his wife or when he is angry telling you he regrets leaving her i have seen it many of times before.

get away from him and if he ever gets a divorce on his own then look for him. it will bring nothing but heartache

Platypus

Since you've decided to stop talking with him, you'll probably have to think of ways to get over him. I suggest writing his name on that flimsy paper and flushing it. You can also get a friend to make pretend scissors out of fingers and walk around you "snipping" all the connections between you.

Pray that God will take this away from your mind.

God bless you.

Silenceâ„¢

No it will not work out. You're a home wrecker yourself. Shame on you. He has a pregnant wife and you're considering a relationship with him? He'll do the same thing to you. It's called karma.
If he wanted YOU he wouldn't be with his wife.

EDIT: you asked for our opinions not sympathy.

EDIT: and you know what's more sad, you answered someone elses relationship question telling them to "move the f on" yet you're stuck on stupid with a married man. Yeah you have the "other woman" mentality.

I hope his wife finds out and leaves him. Then I hope he runs all over you. Good luck with everything.

snowland_candy

you will find that the child will make him stay with his woman. kids always make these things complicated. If i were you I'd wait for the divorce papers to be settled, otherwise there is the other option of giving into temptation and taking what you love.
However, if he is not willing to love you back, this might be something to let free, and carry on..the hardest thing to do.
Don't be ashamed of this- it takes two to tango.

Fischer F

stop this. He is married.

Shannon

It's too much, end it.
You CAN control who you fall for by not spending this kind of time and intimacy with people who should be "off limits" and have the wherewith-all to stop once you see it developing beyond a casual friendship.
So you see it's gone too far now; be honest & cathartic with your last conversation.

PS God's not going to take it from your mind. You must actively suppress it.

if you are a woman, Please think about that lady's postion, he will be a father, she will be mother. don't spoil a child's life. some day in the years to come that child may come to you & ask few
unanswerable questions. Leave him and his family alone.

Marco

I have a slightly different take on this. In my case I'm happily married. But I'm also a flirt. Always have been, always will. I flirt with my wife, and for many years I suppressed my desire to flirt with others. But this created a lot of frustration for me which had a negative effect on my marriage. Finally, we started having a very honest discussion about what we each needed in our marriage to be happy. For me, this includes a little online flirting -- which, since I'm not looking for a hookup, is sort of a form of fantasy.

I know my situation is unique. But I thought I'd share it with your in case it gives you one more angle to consider.

Good luck!

Leslie

i do it all of the time...lol....well im a cam girl ..but i like being the other woman makes me feel good ..

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