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jude
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if he had nothing to hide he would have gladly given you the passwords you ask him for. u have no children and u can get out easier than if their were kids involved. my only advice is get out of it because once they cheat the marriage will never feel or be the same again. why stay where u have no trust? he chose someone else over u before and seems its happening again. |
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Have some respect for yourself and leave that idiot. |
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The Casual Poster
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Why are you still with him? There are no kids.....cut your losses and get teh hell out of there. |
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freakyallweeky
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If you have to ask for his password because you don't trust him then you don't need anyone to tell you what to do. I believe in doing everything you can to save a marriage before walking away but that is only if both people are willing to give it all they have. Your husband is not willing to give all of himself to you so you have your answer. |
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CAB!
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leave him. don't let him hurt you. |
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Barbara B
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Honey, it's not going to work.
Since you don't have kids, I'd walk. Far and fast.
Cut your losses and move on.
wish I could be more positive - sorry. |
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Classy chick
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GET OUT NOW! Do not look back this guy is a cheater ROYAL! MOVE ON! |
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Wass
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failed marriage.
it's simple. |
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cockmint
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WTF. Get a life, dump the loser and move on. |
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Julia
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Either learn to live with his cheating, or leave him. You obviously can't trust him. |
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Deb S
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Sounds like it's time to move on. If he won't give you the password, there's a reason and I believe the reason is because he's cheating. |
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Alex V
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If you don't trust him, it's time to move on.
It'll hurt now, but you're saving yourself lots of heartache down the road.
good luck. |
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Susan
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Honestly, he really is up to the same stuff, if not worse. Any man who wants to prove that he'd never do that to you, they certainly would give you their password the second you asked for it. I promise you, you can do SO much better than him. I know you love him. He made a committment, a verbal swear and he hasn't kept with it, he must not be ready or thinks it is ok to have an affai while he is married. He doesn't care about you. Is this what you want your marriage to be like forever?
You tried to make it work. You did what you could. He is messed up in the head and it's not your fault. The problem is, even if he finally gave you his password, he'd have all this time to "Fix it up" so that he's not caught.
I've been in a similar relationship...I divorced him. He went behind my back all of the time, and even gave away $100 pair of diamond earrings my parents gave me for my birthday. When I had the same instincts you do, I was always right. Look....sign on to myspace in your account. At the top of your page, go to view, then to explore, then to history. I'm not sure if your computer is set up like mine. My fiance and I own a laptop, and I can click on my name and it brings my own windows account up...so if your husband has that, do it under his account. You will see the kinds of things he looks up, and maybe those who he talks to.
If you decide after seeing these things that you want a divorce, I would print these things off in case you need proof. You can do so much better, and you deserve a whole lot better. |
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kestrelk8
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marriage doesn't work if you choose to marry someone who doesn't respect you. obviously the guy you married has some deeper issues that he feeds his need to do hurtful things to you behind your back. trust is the FOUNDATION of a happy and everlasting marriage. if you don't have that, you don't have anything. before any children happen to come along, i would get rid of this guy so that the children don't have to endure a broken relationship and possible divorce later on. |
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BonesofaTeacher
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you have a problem and you need counseling. both of you. if he won't go, go by your self. however, his behavior (cheating and insisting on a private myspace page) is unacceptable and you should make that clear. instead of demanding the password, ask for proof of deletion. if he won't agree to give up online flirting etc, your relationship is doomed. ask him what changes he would need from you in order to give up the cheating and myspace. because you will need to change to make this work. |
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mr_huttner
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Well trust begins before you ask him for his passwords. You need to talk to him about the trust issue. If he loves you and wants your trust. He will let you see his page, and if he's just that stupid then he can't want your love let alone your trust! |
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Badkitty
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How long do you plan on living like this? Life is short, way too short to be with someone you can't trust. Move on, get out, leave, start over...... |
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brownboyintown2000
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you have every right to wonder !!! He was in the wrong and should want to do anything to make it right to get you back/ keep you there.... If he is not willing to have full disclosure he is probably still doing things he should not be doing. It will take years to get the trust back.... trust me I know |
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Sherry F
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You need to lay it all on the line tell him you love and respect him but expect the same in return he sounds like he wants a open marriage on his end but i bet the first guy you show attention to he will break.. Just ask him if he wants a open marriage |
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Slave4U
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I really wouldn't trust him. I am so glad that you haven't had childern together. This will make it easier when you do leave him. Don't have children now and think you will keep him, it doesn't work!
It's time to call this one quits. It will hurt but five years from now you will say it was your best decision yet. Believe me.
Being that you have only been married a year and have been separated for two months it would be best to end it. You should still be in the honeymoon phase. Good luck.
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Neal B
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Creat your our private Facebook Page and seduce him. Set up a meet and have a good laugh. |
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gypsy g
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If you've tried your best then that is all that matters. It takes two to make a marriage work and if he isn't willing to do his part then all you can do is find someone who will. |
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Happy Little Trees
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He wants to have his cake and eat it, too.
Don't let him.
Cut your losses, divorce him, and let him deal with his own fidelity problems. I don't think you could ever trust him. |
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Schwinn
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Since you have no children and only married for a year, it's time to cut your losses.
It will be tough now, but you will thank yourself later.
Good luck. |
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confused 1
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you guys are still very young and you love him sooo very much. Email me later, my marriage is the same way. (10yrs) and its up to you if you love him enough to wait for him to change or leave and find yourself in the same situation. YOu guys sound young and in love. But he still feels "single" How is his relationship with his mom...someone is not telling him good advice as a husband. I know you want him to do whatever and you believe what he say, but now, you are begining to get disgusted and hate him for basically taking you and your love for granted, treated as a weakness and not strength as a dayum good wife. email me.... |
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Tif
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You said "...I tried my best to make it work", it takes two people trying their best in a marriage to make it work, which he is not doing. If he had nothing to hide he wouldn't be acting like he is, I say get out before it gets worse. There are great men out there, just make sure you don't let his actions tarnish the good guys. Good luck. (((HUGS))) |
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Guys POV
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leave.. you will always have doubts and if he is not going to be honest... anyone should not have an issue with giving passwords to email stuff if they are not doing anything wrong... have faith in your self.. it will be ok and you deserve someone that will respect you... |
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Puddin
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My 2nd husband was the same way. He cheated for years and also did the myspace thing with girls that I knew and that lived near us.
Unfortunatly, he never changed and I caught him in the act, more than once. I divorced him. And the funny thing is ALL the women that he has been with since, he has cheated on EVERY ONE OF THEM. And he had a baby with the one her lives with and she knows that he is cheating and has 3 other girlfriends.
I am sorry honey. He will never change. It is time to call it quits. |
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¸.•*´`*♥ ♥Lenka♥ ♥*´`*•.¸
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Very difficult situation, I know this must be very painful to go through. You couldn't trust him before, and it sounds like you still can't. If he had nothing to hide, you would be able to see his myspace. I would really consider divorce.
All the best |
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Queen of the Dust Mites
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I think you married the wrong guy and are lucky that you can get out before you had kids and drug them into this mess.
If you've been only married a year and weren't together for 2 months of that....and he needs his space...you should give him all the space he needs...along with a quick divorce. Please by all means get out now before you make babies! |
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