Cheating dreams...?

69 BABE

Sounds like he's guilty of something not saying he's cheating now but maybe like when you guys first got together i have dreams my man is cheating and no way he could be but i cheat on him occasionally so i know where your hubby's coming from.. Respond by keeping a eye on him don't tip him off to your suspicions discreetly look for evidence of his infidelity but prepare yourself for what you may find.

Stacy S

Well it could mean a lot of things but if he's going to continue to accuse you you might as well respond by doing what you are accused of.

LISSA

It sounds like to me that he is cheating on you, guilty is as guilty does, or he really does not want to marry you and is trying to get out of it, RUN as fast as you can in the other direction, if you marry him it will be bad really bad, I have been married twice and you know what no trust and jelousy there is no room for love and trust.

Danny

well, i had a similar dream ... and it turned out i was RIGHT!

so i dont blame him...

but if your honest like you say you are, calmly sit down with him and relieve his anxiety.. tell him "look honey, i would never cheat on you in a million years, i have nothing to hide." and prove it! voluntarily show him your phone, myspace, anything.. an let him know that if you EVER suspect a problem in the relationship, that you promise to let him know before action. and if ever an EX were to contact you, let him know that you are true to him, and you dont intend on hiding anything...

if you are true and honest, theres nothing to hide right? so show him! and his fears will go away in the blink of an eye! =) remember, it's better you volunteer. that way he can see you are honest. i dont see anything wrong with that.

Melissa T

Maybe he's cheating or he's just nervous

yeah, the other night, i dreamed that my wife was attacked by zombies and i don't want her anywhere near the cemeteries.

Bryan B

HIS dreams are a culmination of HIS fears so if he's actually upset at you, then this is not acceptable in any way. It's okay if the idea upsets him, but if it's causing him to act differently then there could be a serious trust issue for him. You can not let him become a jealous type because that will ruin a marriage more quickly than all the affairs in the world. If you feel that he's taking the dream too seriously then this has to be addressed as you've done nothing to deserve it. If anyone's done something wrong, it's him for being so fixated on a fantasy world.

Eye of Sauron

Let me get my phone number.

â™¥You Complete Meâ™¥

Well I know I've had nightmares of my boyfriend cheating on me and it REALLY bothered me because I love him a lot and to even think of that happening destroys me inside...it just had a bad affect on him, give him a little bit of time and he'll snap back to reality, in the mean time just assure him you don't want to be with anyone else.

Hugh Bliss

Dreams can mean different things, they can be literal, they can be completely and utterly unrelated to what actually happened in them.

I guess if he's scared that you might leave him or something bad will happen you just have to reassure him and help him through it.

The key thing in dreams is how it makes you feel when you wake up, because that's usually the meaning behind the dream.

The site www.dreammoods.com has a dream dictionary and although it shouldn't be taken word for word I find it can help me explore my nightmares and work out what they mean.

stl_luna_7

He has some emotional issues with trust and his own self-esteem. Tell him that you would never consider cheating and he needs to stop burdening you with guilt, for something you never did.

livn4themin

You shouldn't have to respond. It was his dream, it was a dream, that is it.
Reassure him that although you are aware the dream was very vivid, it is the furthest thing from your mind because he is the only man for you. Then if he cannot let it go - I would be thinking hard about my up coming engagement to him.

MissE

Probably his deepest fear surfacing.
I have had dreams about my SO and his ex, but by talking and asking some questions I developed an understanding and now I don't have them anymore

Kel

Just sounds like his mind just went on a rant; the consequences of that scared him because he loves you and doesn't want to lose you.

The Rock & Roll Doctor

It means he's insecure and is afraid of loosing you. He might not be the guy you want to marry if he freaks out over his dreams. That's stupid.
You should mess with his head and say maybe your dreams will come true.

allaboutme

it just means maybe what u have been thinking about. maybe its in the back of ur mind

sometimes dreams like that can just arise.

in my dream book things that seem bad can actually be a positive

for example ...if no one found our of got hurt in the dream it might mean a positive. because no one got hurt.
look up the key words in a dream dictionary. MOST dreams are un known :-D happy dreaming

km1234

I used to have the same types of dreams ALL the time. They seemed so real. It would sometimes ruin my entire day after I woke up. Ridiculous now when I look back, but it was what it was. Insecurity. For some reason, he must be feeling insecure. When I was insecure, it had nothing to do with my husband. It was about me. I came from a divorced home (very bad divorce) and I had been hurt very badly in a prior relationship. I believe these two things made me feel very insecure with committed relationships in general. I overcame it though, with a lot of time. I just stated to believe in myself and trust that I could handle anything that may (or may not) come my way. I don't think it means he doesn't trust YOU. I think it means he doesn't trust HIMSELF and his ability to overcome anything bad happening to the relationship.

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maybe he is feeling insecure about himself ... i think he needs some reassurance?? maybe the engagement topic "major live changing" definitely at some degree it will put pressure on a guy.

dreams usually represent the unconscious side of our brain. guys sometimes feel insecure about they feeling and they don't wanna tell us girls cos we might think they are needy of us..you know what i mean? before you guys dated did you use to talk about your ex or other guys to him ???

DramamineÂ®

You need to tell him he is being ridiculous. A dream is a dream and him getting upset about it puts the guilty conscious on him anyway. Sometimes just after I have had a bad dream it puts me in a temporary bad mood, how longs it been since he had it?

simplesilverstar

C'mon...they are just dreams.Just make sure he does wake up to reality.:)

Madelia

Maybe he's freaking out about things going long term...or maybe he's the cheater and his conscience is really bothering him and he's trying to blame it on you....in either case I hope you guys work it out and that I'm totally wrong about my thoughts here.....

lisagreen1119@sbcglobal.net

No one has control of their dreams. I've been married to my hubby for 13 years with NO reason to suspect him. He is 100% true blue and I know it. But sometimes I have these really awful dreams that he's cheating on me. I always wake up in tears. He is wonderful when that happens. He always holds me and tells me, "What an awful dream. Don't you hate it when that happens? It happens to me sometimes too and it always feel so real. Aren't you glad that we don't have to deal with that? We're still in love and faithful to each other, even after all this time." I think, if you respond to him in the same way, just reassure him that you would NEVER do that. He'll be fine. If you are thinking of getting married, his deep-seated fears of being cheated on and made to look like a fool are coming to the surface. It's normal.

1love

you just need to let him know how much you love him and you would never cheat on him. Maybe he's had thoughts about you being unfaithful but doesn't tell you and since its on his mind, he has these crazy dreams. Sometimes when you think about something for a long time, you dream about it. It doesn't mean that you're gonna end up cheating on him but i could understand how realistic some dreams are. After a while you kinda get over them. Just let him know how he's your #1 and you'd never do him wrong.

Q-BALL

Your relationship is changing and so are his feelings for you . He is becoming more invested in your relationship and , it probably scares and worries him that you might leave . My husband has dreams like that all the time especially if he goes to bed before me . He will get over his fears . Just keep on loving him .

Stick

One word - Paranoia. He has issues that are out of your control.

niffer

I think it is just a fear of losing you. It happens. When my husband and I are having difficult times, we both sometimes have dreams like this. Its just his mind trying to process things that he has been thinking about. talk to him about it. If he doesn't want to then leave the issue alone and act normal. Love him and you will get the same in return.

Good Luck!

Kerry

i think this is jus an anxiety dream, he loves u so much he is scared of losing u and does not want anythin 2 go wrong. if u hav been 100% faithful like u say, then this has no reflection on u, he may jus b a lil insecure, thers nufin rong wiv that, as long as he does not take it 2 far. jus reassure him a lil that it was jus a dream, its not goin 2 happen and he has got no fears, if u r meant 2 be then it wil all work out and he wil c that anyway. like i sed jus a little anxious probably. if it happens again jus giv him hug and tell him you love him and make sure u remind him its only a dream!

Pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovo

Sounds like he doesn't want to get engaged. I don't think he can tell the future :P

Perfect

The problem is with him. Dreams reflect our unconsious thoughts. Tho he may not seem like a jealous man, perhaps he isn't, but that may be his greatest fear. Perhaps he was cheated on before or even a friend of his which he found close. Who knows? But if anything give it time, and talk about it with him. He needs to be certain u won't commit such an act.

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