Cheating fiance? we are supposed to get married this time next year...?

Ontheotherhand

Decide if you want to end the relationship. If you decide to end it, end it. Your reasons are immaterial. When ya end a relationship, it's over, so why should you care about explaining your reasons? If you decide to end it, it will be because he betrayed your trust. Betraying trust SHOULD make you not want to have anything to do with him, so what is the point of telling him ANYTHING but "it's over"

Risuta

Leave him. Honestly. You will get married with a guy you discovered, does THAT?! I mean... He is 99.99999% cheater. Not worth marrying him.

ajal

reply to the add and pretend to be someoneelse when you 2 finally meet scare the hell out of him.......

Randy K

Call off the engagement and run far, far, away. This is nothing but trouble!

graciouswolfe

I think your choice of a mate was not a wise one.
If you wish for the cheating to continue, then by all means continue with your decision to marry.
If you wish to find someone who may be faithful, call off the wedding, and begin your search anew.

Gary

I would say "Have a nice life without me". Once a cheater he will always be a cheater.

chrisraska

Just tell him that your friend was looking for someone to hook up with and found him. If you don't call it off now he will just cheat on you in the future too.

Tadpoler

You have all of the proof that you need. He is a cheater. You need to move on. How much more are you going to take?

You need to realize that you deserve better. This is not a good man. You deserve to have a real man in your life that wants you. This guy is very disrespectful of you and your relationship. Did you plan on having an open relationship?

Call off the engagement. Take some time to yourself. Enjoy your friends and family. Find a REAL MAN!

Marriage does not change anyone. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who will always have excuses as to why he did this.

dump the dude

Jenni

Marriage is for life! If you do not have respect and most of all trust it is not going to last. It may even get worse because other feelings may come in. The first that I can't think of is being trapped in a marriage - that is no way to live.
There are too many fish in the sea!

Gem Gem

Sounds like you should call everything off. you don't trust him, (rightly so) then you aren't ready to be marrying this guy.

$Mafia Girl$

When a man cheats once dump him for LIFE.

One a cheater always a cheater.

Other habits a man can change NEVER for cheating

john n

It doesn't sound like your fiance is ready to settle down yet. That being the case, you're asking for trouble if you stick with him.
You should confront him and get things out in the open. He should know exactly what your expectations are (faithfulness?) and be ready to adhere to them.

Steven H

I will let you make your own choice and just say this ......
when you are married and you buy a house and you have kids and you find out that he is cheating on you what do you do then ?
How will the rest of your life turn out?

I CAN

Hi...this fellow spells a lot of heart ache and sorrow in the coming time, should you decide to go ahead and marry him. The more time you invest in this relationship the more it will hurt.

I hope you can cut him out of your life and move on. There will be times you will be sad and lonely, there will be times that you will want to be still engaged, there will be times when you will want to take him back ( you bet he will come begging), there will be times that you would still want to have a family with him. Each time just stay strong and dont let him back into your life.

Love yourself enough not to let someone hurt you so much.

He has cheated earlier and nothing is going to stop him later.

Take care of yourself. Tomorrow is another day and who knows you might still marry this time of the year next year.....a better guy !

debbie

kick the loser to the curb once a cheater always a cheater

RayRay

Can his a$%. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Get out before her feelings get hurt more later down the road.

marilynfsmgm

you know he is still drinking when your not around and what will happen when he does... then you found the things he does on the net... why would you want to date let alone marry someone who isnt even honest with himself besides you ? would you be able to trust him ? you cant now,think about what kind of marriage you would have. trust and communication are the keys to a happy marriage and you have neither.just tell him all that you know,that no excuse is good enough and to make it easier for him you are going to be the one to end it. its easier to be the one who ends it anyway,instead of the one who got dumped.

answeringmachine

Break up asap.

Jenny B

Do NOT get married. You will never be able to fully trust him. If he hasn't cheated, he is just looking for the right opportunity. Anybody who has placed those adds is not honest. Even if he placed them a long time ago you were still together and they should have been removed either way. Tell him that a friend saw the postings and contacted you. Tell him you want something more out of life. Get you stuff together, get everything back from his place without mentioning anything and then DUMP THE SCUM! I promise, you will have less heart ache in the end. I'm very very sorry for your loss.

tjnstlouismo

Omg please call it off. You don't trust him, he's a liar and a cheat. Count your blessings that you found this out now and move along. Life is too short and marriage is too hard to start it already knowing he won't put you first. I would tell him that after thinking about it, you are both too young and immature to get married. Give him back his ring and move on.

My daughters divorce was final a week ago. She married a man who she thought would change because she is a good person. He didn't and after a year engagement, the wedding and buying a house, he left her for another woman after 4 months. Liars and cheats never ever change. Ever.

Al B

Marriage is a commitment and often a hard one at that. When one person asks another to marry, that is making that commitment to be together and the fact he posted those ads shows that he asked you to marry without that commitment to you and so you are not committed to him either and and should tell him the wedding is off.
One thing else you will find, as you finish school your life will change as you get into the field you are studying for. Your income will increase as will your circle of friends and associates, and you will probably find someone more suited to who you will be then as opposed to who you are now.
Good Luck to you.

â˜…â˜…â˜… Katharine â™¥â™¥â™¥â™¥

reply to his 'discreet encounters'. of course it would be something to worry about--- he is getting together with somebody that also wants to keep the secret - because they are maybe married. yes, be worried!!!!!
I'd dump his butt like yesterday - i wouldn't handle a day of this--- Or.. a lifetime!!!!
running now is cheaper then divorce.......

spelling nazi

I think you should create your own ad and respond to his (of course, do this anonymously) and see what he says. If he tries to get together with you, call off the engagement. He's not going to change.

Mel

Absolutely - yes, you should call off the engagement. This guy is not ready to settle down and you would be setting yourself up for a life of heartache. Tell him exactly why you're calling things off. Don't let him make you feel guilty for "snooping." You obviously had a reason to. Trust your instincts and let this go. You're going to be so much happier in the long run.

odds10to1

Have you ever been droped on your head, or kicked in the head by a mule, or has your head ever been hit by a street sign while you were riding in a car with your head out the window? It sounds like you have. Have you ever heard of the word 'unfaithful'? Have you ever heard of 'commitment'? You undoubtedly haven't, or you would find someone else.

AussieLady 58

if he is cheating on you now he will later after you are married!

Call off the engagement and just tell him you were shown by someone else about the postings!

Trust is such a big thing in a marriage! If you can't trust him not when can you?

cowboyway .

just tell the truth and tell him why and i sure wouldn't marry him if he was making out with a girl even if he was wasted that shouldn't matter if he love you he should only want to be with you he sounds like bad news to me

lollypop

Well listen to yourself!You had to spy?!I think you answered your own queston on whether you should get married.Do you think marrieing him will get him to be faithful?You will get hurt at the end.

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