Cheating wife?

It's Me

Well, if you talk like you write, I can see why she'd want to talk to someone else.

Shayna

Get counseling at once.

SexyTrojan

She's cheating for talking to someone on the phone? Am I missing something here?

SCHLANGEMANN

Uhhh...you need to find out what actually did happen before proceeding any further. Did your wife sleep with her supervisor, did she do a Monica Lewinsky on him, or is there more to the story, such as him coming on to her and she refusing his advances? We don't have enough info.

mayihelpyou

It must have bothered her enough to be honest with you and talk to you about it. Since it was only on the phone, I would let it go, but keep an eye out for anything again. Trust is very important and must be re-earned. There is no telling if she will do it again, however, she could have said nothing and then I would think that.

Farah G

I don't know, can you? Are you going to wonder about who she is with every time she is late? Get a twinge of panic every time you see her talking low on the phone? If so..end it. It's not worth putting yourself through that.

Encouragement

Get marriage counseling.
You cant trust her! Even though she finally told you, it still hurt you, and you need to talk to a christian marriage conseler and get some advice.
She has a long way to prove herself to you again.

smallpenislongtongue

dump her

nehkedfish

He either got caught (wife or work).
She got cold feet, or she did it and regrets it.
You can live with it, I wouldn't get hung up on it.
its like this, i told my wife i was getting a tattoo with the kids
names and she said what about my name,
i told her you could leave today and then ill i got
is this tattoo i don't want.
I'd work it so you could get a 3some out of it.
This is you have to get over your jealousy.
Tell her look if your going to mess around then let me know
before someone else tells me, and if thats the way we're going
to play then i can do it also. Then ask for her hottest friends phone number. LMOL, good luck, but hey she probably wasn't a
virgin when ya met her.

starlightâ™¥

well if she told you nothing has yet happen and she came to you and told you well i would say forgive this one dont trust too much keep one eye open all the time untill you can be for sure that she is not doing it again......try counseling maybe that will help

CindyLou

on the phone that's all. give the girl a break she's young.

neonatheart

without giving you any details, let me just say that i feel your pain, b/c i have been thru something similar recently with my husband.

it hurts, i totally understand. but forgiveness doesnt just happen. niether does trust. both are active. you have to set out to forgive. you have to work to trust. and if she really loves you, she will work on her end to earn that forgivness and trust.

i'm so sorry for your pain, i will pray for your healing.

allgrownup

im big on trust and if you dont have trust then you dont have love. in the back of your mind you are always going to think she is cheating. so if your ready to drive yourself crazy forgive her!

Lora B

Move on with your life. This will be in the back of your mind forever as long as you are with her. They always say "nothing happened" or "I didn't mean it" yeah right, she is just telling you what you want to hear. She probably does not want to lose you for financial purposes. You are her security blanket, she can't afford to be on her own.
I know this.

i'd forgive her she didn't do anything. from what you say that you two have been together since she was 17 (interesting math with your age...) she never had time to go out and experience life,party, date, see what else is out there. maybe she was just seeing what would happen, didn't like what she saw and came back so to speak, in other words she wants you and now she has proof

tyler_blanchard

you cant trust women in the first place u should biotch slap her and then take her back

jam

if you don't have know proof that she is cheating or that she did do something then you should stay with her but you should also keep your eyes open. try to see if she is still doing something. you did not give that much info so its hard to say from what you said it sounds like she was thinking of cheating but dicided not to so show her that you love her and tell her if she dose cheat that you are gone.

All she did was speak to someone on the phone, are you speaking to her enough or are you expecting her just to be there when you want her.

She felt bad enough to tell you, that should tell you that she would never cheat.

Your asking advice from men and Women, does that make you a bad person?

If you would throw away 5 years over a few phone calls then you sound like you have a few other issues.

katy r

i think if you really love her and she says she really loves you,then talk to her about getting a different job so it will make it easier for you to trust her,remember shes the one that messed up,and if she truelly loves you she will so what you ask,just to prove theres nothing going on with anyone,trust is one very important thing you need in any realationship,i wish you both lots of luck and happiness.

The girl next door

Well first of all you need to know why she did that. People don't cheat just to cheat. Their had to be a reason. You should really sit her down and talk to her in a calm way. After you talk to her then decide whether you will be able to trust her and work on your relationship

XxMiKeY sToP StEaLiNg CoOkIEsxX

omg! my dad is like that to my mom i know you love your wife but you reALLY LOVE YOULL TRUST HER ! BUT DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT!

captainspinmore

If you trust her, she deserves your complete compassion and understanding. if you don't trust her then you have to tell her so and face the consequences of that. Either way it will get resolved.

killips1

trust is a very important thing in a relationship, if she has cheated on you, you may forgive, but you will never forget, and trust will not come easy, my husband and i have been together 5 years and married for 4 (dec 31) and when we started out we were best friends and dated for 1 year moved in and the first week were were together in our new home he had 4 yes 4 other women he was involved with i didnt know but when i did it broke my heart, but we made it threw it, but with help, first he told his whole family what he did, we together went to this one woman who he had been involved with for years off and one. it was hard to know what they had done together and i wanted details and i wanted them both to know what it had done to me i gave them the option to carry on, or walk away, she even went as far as to say a baby was on the way, but it wasnt and trust was hard to get back,, but if you are truely in love and want this to work you have to be honest and she has to be very open and understanding to your question, if you feel it will never stop or this is just a start to a cheater, protect yourself and remember you are the only one who know what you can deal with for the rest of yourlife, and if there are children involved remember they need someone to protect them... if you would like to talk me and my husband will be glad to let you get you feeling and questions out, i hooe that this was a one time thing for her and that she will give you the same respect that you would give to her..... killips1@yahoo.com

Jesse's Girl

My husband and I have been though quite a bit and i am here to tell you that it really only made us stronger. I was able to forgive him for what he did and he was able to forgive me but counseling is a must. There may be something that is really bothering her but she just can't talk to you about it. It is possible to forgive. Its just a matter of finding it in your heart.

Sophiesmom

This will always be in your head and you will not forget...I'm evil so i would go above that supervisors head and tell them whats up...Your wife may lose her job, but to me it would be worth it...

Island girl

yes....she is young and insecure. doesnt know a good thing infront of her.

sanJose_Guy

balance it with understanding and being upset.tell her in calm voice that u are upset. dont be mad or yelling give her sum silience treatment. no touchy touchy for sum days. that will make her realize that wat she did was wrong and. how nice are u that u are trying to understand. well tell her u are trying but it hurts, but dont do this for longer then week then take her to nioce dinner and over there u tell her u forgive her. but she still needs to earn trust.and u appreciate her honesty that she told u that. and thank her and kiss her. thats it problem solved.... ;-)

dont trust her she will do it again because she does not respect your marriage. after only 2 years she is talking to another. she may have internal problems like she needs the attention. and that is something you can not fix.

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