Cheating wife and the lies really hurt?

beer_farts

kick her a$$ out and throw all her stuff out behind her

horsinround2do

Kick away.

Ashley

It sounds as though you truly care for her. If you think that if you just kick her out, that you will always wonder if the relationship could be saved, dont take that step yet. Remember that you can always throw someone out, its getting them back that can be difficult! I would highly suggest getting marriage counseling. They can give you a better idea of whether or not this marriage is worth fighting for. By the way, you have every right to be angry,her excuse was pathetic. Good luck!

close_my_eyes2002

honestly, if you have reconciled, you have lost your rights to bring up the past, but more importantly how can you trust her again when your not home?, she apparently has no self esteem. if you have decided to forgive her, (very commendable) but forgivnace is just that! i would suggest you both to a consel to sort all this out, and try and build trust back into your relationship!

middle aged and love it

You are going to have to accept that she is a cheater. The reasons she gave for cheating are selfish and she is trying to blame you for her actions. She is the one to blame for cheating and you need to find out the real reason. It is very hard to regain trust in an individual once it has be broken. I think you need to really think about this situation prior to making any type of decision. I don't care what people say you might forgive but you will never forget what happened.

krazy-confused

HER REASONS AREN'T EVEN ACCEPTABLE, IF I WERE YOU I WOULD GET OUT BEFORE SHE GIVES YOU SOMETHING YOU CAN'T GET RID OF.

KITTY

Leave her and start dating someone else!

Fox

Heres a question for you if you stay with her. Who's bed has she been in tonight? then heres a question for her to see how much she respected you. Did she use a condom. Betcha that one slipped your mind. So whats the chances of you catching STD's with her ? ....HIV does that ring a bell? Ouch???? I think that maybe she's not the right one for you. But if you do keep her, My thoughts are use a condom for your protection. Untill she can prove with out a shadow of a doubt that she is clean. Good Luck .....P.S. Also ask her do they pay her bills for her ????

Tarabul

OH MAN, I only know your situation to well, I am in the process of working this out with my husband, but his wasnt because I wasnt home, it is in some people a addiction, the game or the object of not getting caught. She obviously needs alot of attention, but the thing I will warn you of, is the feeling in your gut, you will have a ache everytime she leaves the house, when she is 5 minutes late, and especially while your at work, it is really hard to live a life, when all you do is worry, and not matter how many time they say they wont do it again, it doesnt fill that ache. I know alot of peoples answers say leave her, but I know its hard to leave someone you love so much. You want to believe them, and cheaters are very manipulative, they have a way about them, they can come home and look you in the face after god knows what they did the night before. I guess if you want to go through the process go ahead, but she should be kissing your a-- right now, and know the saying goes, Hurt me once, Shame on you, Hurt me twice, Shame on me. Give her this one chance, but if she does it again, Well.... And as far as her going out, I would put my foot down on that, she needs to earn her trust back, she is the one who messed up, now she needs to suffer like you have to. I hope this helps alittle.

Ben R

I hate to sound harsh but you must have a low self esteme if you let this continue to happen.

It depends. If you think that you can find someone who will treat you better then leave her.

If not you may find yourself having to choose between her and no-one at all.

Loneliness, someone else or her.

It's your call...

Good luck with whatever you choose.
I hope it works out for you.

When your in love your not going to cheat.She's not worth the heart ache,Get away because her excuse was a empty bed.Theirs no excuse!

ottoman

I didn't bother reading all the question soon as i got to she lied
i thought nah..once a lire always a lire you can never trust her
dump her get shot of her .send her packing she will do it again and again sorry but true

just another hot mama

Okay I have kinda been in a situation like yours except for the fact that i wasnt married. I had been with this guy that i really liked and then my ex came back in the picture. So it happened and i lied about it. I still loved my bf but i still liked my ex too. He forgave me, but what came after that was more lies and deceit from his side. Its been about 4 years now and we are still together. But i do have to say if i could go back i would of not gotten back with my man because once you'vehurt each other it is so hard to get over it. It brings more pain and hurt and its better just left at that. But then again you are married and you are supposed to try to make it work. If you feel that she means alot to you and you really love her and you think you can try to forget go for it.

misydoll

That's a hard question. I think she needs to stay home when you aren't there otherwise she is going to cheat. She might only love you but she is a cheater. You are pretty trusting. She could also find another hobby besides men to keep her mind off of you when you are not there. Most of us have separate jobs from our husbands and we don't cheat.

erin p

i know what its like to be lonely. my husband is away all week long and when hes home on the weekend he works from home . its really hard. yah do get lonely and feel betrayed in your relationship.I think if you have already given her another chance one to be exact. i wouldn't give her another .if she keeps doing it she is not really sorry and you don't have to be. i can see her doing it just to get back at you for making her feel bad she may want to make you feel the same way. but after that no id kick her out and be done with it.

msthinkpositive

Don't kick her, but you can get rid of her because she's not going to stop. She's the female version of a man who can't get enough & keeps a list to handle their needs. So, if you want a meaningful relationship & a worth while marriage, then get a divorce and take your time about getting commited until you can find the right one for a loyal relationship.

partylitebyterra

i say kick her azz out why wait for her to hurt you again maybe she cheated on you hoping you would break up with her.... and 3 times come on man you can do better there are lots of nice women out there who wont hurt you yea yea i know you love her but does she love you would you do that to her? get a grip and move on it is not worth it

shirley_corsini

Doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship to me. You have 4 days a week where she can always be with you and for 3 days she has to go find someone else?

Do you think she will do it again? If so, there is little hope. Only you know if you can get past the feelings of hurt, and disloyalty. I myself would have a very difficult time. I know there are a lot of people out there who believe it should be worked out no matter what, but I disagree with that.

Douglaprincess

KICK UR OUT U MAYB GET A DIEASE CUZ U AINT KNOE WHO SHE SLEEPING WITH.

~~Catbird Woman~~

I can understand how she feels. Yes, she likely loves you very much. I would suggest to be there for her more especially when you are at home, but she should realize that you are coming home in a few days, and she should be able to harness her feelings for that long.

But now she should realize that now that she hurt you, you will be hurt for a while, (or a long time) and she may just have to wait on you and prove to you that she does still want you and love you.

And you are at home during the days, it's not like you don't see her at all. I say give her another chance, but sit down with her and talk this thing out. I mean that is not good for your marriage.

NONAME

Punch her in the mouth and throw her to the street. Keep her stuff. Maybe you can sell it and at least recoup some cash to help mend the broken heart!

ladysea8

Well I am sorry that this happened to you. If you truly want this marriage to work, may I suggest that you do it prayerfully. Pray and ask the Lord to restore your marraige, and to heal your heart so that you will truly and totally be able to for give your wife. Then you must deal with your wife and mother in law and put your foot down. Let your wife know that it will not be tolerated any more--The lies and the deciet have got to stop. As for your mother in law, You need to let her know, that if she continues to support and be a bad influence on her daughters behalf, then you will have no other choice but to love her from a distance.

If you have any children, set a better example for them than the one your wife has set (especially if they are girls!). No excuse is a good excuse for cheating on one's spouse. It may be, that she will never change, if that is the case you only have one more option--Use it.

ndmac

Yes and be glad she is gone. You can do better.

mik2222001

get out before she makes a fool out of you. marriage is based on trust and there is obviously none there after the crap she has done. save your self-respect and move on. i've been there and tried to ride out the storm but it never worked out. take the advice of a schmuck that has gone through it. infidelity has a huge bearing on what the judge will award in divorce proceedings. my ex gets nothing and had to buy me out when we split by court order.

tallerfella

In time, you may be able to forgive her, but you will never forget. Once trust is violated, it is hard to get back. The fact that her mother lied for her as well should tell you something.

I believe, once a cheat, always a cheat I suggest you help her pack and find someone that is worthy of you.

Good Luck!

watever

Leave her this can't go on. Do u think that if she really loves she would cheat on you? Open your eyes you need to get rid of her from your life find someone who really loves you.

lovely

Try counseling and spend more family time together. Obviously she's bored. Every little time you get spoil her with your love and she'll have no reason to seek love else where.

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